Heya,
Just after some advice if anyone can help me please...
My fiance is Catholic, and I am Anglican. We have discussed the future and have decided that after we are married and have kids we will raise them and baptise them as Catholic, and they will attend a Catholic school as my fiance did.
We were wondering though, would it be a problem in the future for our children being recognised by the Catholic church if one parent isn't Catholic? And would it matter if we were married in a non-denominational ceremony? I am not looking to convert religions at this stage...
Thank you!! :o)
2007-10-26 22:31:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To steven e:
FYI It has actually been my decision to raise the children as Catholics because
1) Religion is much more important to his family than mine
and
2) We BOTH agree that the Catholic Private education here in Australia is much,much better than public education, and to qualify for Catholic Education they muct be baptised Catholic.
And well, compromise and working together to make future decisions is part of being in love and a huge part of marriage!
But thanks for your opinion.
2007-10-27 13:50:13 · update #1
To Andrew m:
Yeah. Catholic schools will accept a very minimal number of non-catholic baptised children.
There are other 'Christian' schools that are accepting of most faiths, but just as an example, my sister finished her last year this year (year 12) and it cost Mum and Dad $10,500 in school fees. Catholic school would be $500.. Go figure..
2007-10-28 23:43:23 · update #2
To drhowey:
Thank you, We are very excited about the marriage!
I may not have explained properly, but my choice for my marriage and my future is wholely supportd by my entire family, including extended family!
Our choice is not entirely based on school choice, though I can understand why you would think so. This is just the most major dilema we could see that may be a factor.
My family has always had faith, but is mainly a weddings, holidays and funerals attendance type. I kinda like and respect the devotion that my fiances family has towards their faith, and as I said with the blessing of my family, and the absolute joy of his, we are BOTH very happy to raise them Catholic. :o) Thanks for helping
2007-10-28 23:51:02 · update #3
I am Catholic and my husband isn't. We are bringing up our children Catholic, they have been baptised and will make their first communions and comfirmation.
We were married in a Catholic church and the priest had no problem that my husband was not Catholic. I have an Aunty and Uncle who got married in a non-denominational ceremony and my Aunty is Catholic, Uncle is not. There kids have been bought up Catholic and attend a Catholic school.
You both are Christian and I do believe that Christians have the same basic belief system so I don't see it as a problem. Your children will be recognised as Catholic if they are bought up as Catholic regardless of what you and your husband believe, because you are going to get them baptised and schooled in the Catholic system.
2007-10-27 00:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Teetlebug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the marriage. Good luck to you.
There's no problem for your kids because of your own religion, but you shouldn't have them Catholic just so you can get them into a good school.
You should speak to a priest. If you are planning to live a Catholic marriage, I don't understand why you would do it in an Anglican church. As long as your spouse is Catholic, it's a Catholic marriage.
Your family may be opposed to your Catholic marriage, and perhaps your parents even feel upset by your personal decision. In this case, check with a priest you trust to see about having a second ceremony outside of the Church, etc...
2007-10-28 15:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be no problem at all for your future children. If they are raised in a Catholic home, and especially go to Catholic school, they will be able to go through getting the sacraments.
And since your bf is Catholic, you can get married in a Catholic church. A big requirement is that you, as a non-Catholic, agree to raise future children in the Catholic faith.
If you are married non-denominationally, your husband will not have received the sacrament of Marriage in the Catholic church, so would not be seen as married. However, you should be able to have a ceremony with priests from both religions, as well.
Probably best for the two of you to go visit your bf's parish priest - they are a fount of information.
2007-10-27 01:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
+ Marriage +
The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-Catholics. You would not have to covert.
Because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge that the interfaith couple will face, you may have to get permission from the bishop.
For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, sections 1633-1637: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt2sect2chpt3art7.htm#1633
+ Baptism +
As long as the priest feels that you and your husband will keep your promise to raise the children as Catholics there will be no problem with having them baptized. Being married in the Catholic Church would help this situation.
With love in Christ.
2007-10-27 17:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Good question.
I work on the principal that the RC and C of E churches should marry together.
Christianity, no matter how it is conducted should not build barriers, Nor with other Faiths.
I am not a great church going person, but on my travels have visited Mosques and Synagogues, Temples and churches, and it makes little difference as long as we are all thinking along the same fundamental beleifs.
A mate of mine , from a Roman Catholic family, married another freind, being C of E on the certificate.
No problem - their offspring are both baptised into both faiths, so they can choose which one to persue in later life.
I am a "Christian Scientist" for what it is worth. and my Dad was a "Primative Methodist". My Ma is an atheiest.
No problem !
All the best for your wedding.
Bob
2007-10-26 23:08:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bob the Boat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Should not be a problem. Many people choose to bring their children up in a religion even if they have not married in that particular church. I think I would recommend that you speak to your local church and see how sympathetic they are as they will be the people that you will both need to speak to in the long term concerning your kids.
Don't be pressured into changing. It's your decision.
My cousin got married to a Catholic in a Catholic church and because she is of protestant back ground did not want to change. Their local priest was sympathetic to this and married them anyway.
All of these things seem to be based on how flexible your local church is.
Good luck
2007-10-26 22:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by Falling leaves 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother wasnt a catholic and i was brought up in the catholic fate.It makes no difference that you are not a catholic.You are your husband will be expected to bring your children to church in preparation for making their communion and confirmation.As for your own wedding you can have a anglican priest do the wedding with the catholic priest.Some priests dont like this but it is your wedding.Good luck.
2007-10-26 22:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-27 23:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by bulluck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to convert, and trust me there would be no problem for your children in the future, theres no rule about all being catholics
2007-10-26 22:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aren't the religions similar except that the Anglicans accept divorce and church leaders can marry? Any way, you need to talk to his priest.
2007-10-26 22:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋