I HAVE BEEN SEEING A GUY FOR ABOUT 7 MONTHS. BUT, IT HAS BEEN AT HIS CONVIENCE ONLY. YES, I WAS STUPID. BUT, I INVITED HIM OVER FOR DINNER SUNDAY BUT DID NOT SAY THAT I WANTED 2 HAVE A TALK. SO, WHILE EATING DINNER, I ASKED HIM WHAT WAS GOING ON. WHY WAS I HIS PART TIME FRIEND? I PUT THE CARDS ON THE TABLE & SAID I NEEDED ANSWERS. HE WENT BLANK. HE STARTED TELLING ME ABOUT THE LAST 2 GIRLS HE HAD DATED & HOW THEY TREATED HIM BADLY (CHEATING). HE WAS CANDID. I BELIEVE HIM. HE LEFT AFTER OUR CONVERSATION & SAID HE HAD A LOT 2 THINK ABOUT. I SENT HIM AN E-MAIL THE NEXT DAY TELLING HIM I WAS THINKING OF HIM & I WAS HERE 2 LISTEN IF HE WANTED 2 TALK. HE E-MAILED ME BACK TONIGHT & SAID HE WAS OK, THAT HE WENT 2 SEE A COUNSELOR & HE HAD SOME ISSUES TO WORK OUT. I REPLIED SAYING I WAS GLAD, & THAT I WAS STILL HERE 2 TALK & WE COULD STILL SEE EACH OTHER IF HE WANTED. AM I BEING AN IDIOT? I REALLY DO LIKE THIS GUY. HE IS FUN AND WE GET ALONG WELL. HELP??
2007-10-25 12:45:10 · 10 answers · asked by Cold Heart 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I have not heard back from my friend, which I think is normal. I think he needs time to sort out his thoughts and deal with the past issues he has had with women. I just wonder, how long do I wait? Week or 2? Month? Input welcome. And, as some people have said, if he is "just not that into me", why would he have even bothered to e-mail me to say he was working on getting some help? I am sorry for the all caps thing. I won't make that mistake again.
2007-10-27 14:52:26 · update #1
What sort of help do you want? It sounds like you are handling things properly. Be patient and gentle with him. He sounds like a keeper.
2007-10-25 13:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of All You are doing what is right!! But the 98% of
all the Males,Don't like Communicating their feelings or
Issues that may or may not relate to Romance or a
Relationship,,and it does not matter the Age of This Guy!!
Very few Men are Open in Communications with their Mate,
the other side of this IS that Some will go To friends Who have not Dated or Gone out with thee opposet Sex,So They
give out wrong Information to there other MaleFriend.
But in Your Case ,,He Apparently seeked Counseloing
whether He went to or Not,it Supposely Doesn't Matter,But
He Is Seeking Help,Which is a Great Sign,Hopefully He Is Telling the Trueth!! If He Is Let HIM,seek Help!!!
Don't push his bottons ,let him express in wrds an Action
of what is going on!! Now if By Chance He Is Seening a
Counselor,an You want to find out 'What YouCan Do',,,
'DON'T ,,Its a Legal issue You don't want to Go There,,It's
what They Call "Doctor/Patient Prevelogies".
Be Pateint With Him,,,But If It Prolongs Then You need
take Action,an Find the Solution. You are not an Idiot At
All ,Support Him,Give him as Much Emotional Support,,,
But Don't Be Taken For Granted Either Ok,,,Wish You an
Your Mate Success,an Take Care To!!
2007-10-25 13:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by MANNY969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you said something. Sometimes people have a hard time talking about stuff, but now that you laid everything out, he knows your not playing games. But I think he is wrong that he will only see you on his time table. I can see you staying with him if he is willing to work it out, especially after seeing a counselor (if he actually did it). It just seems like he will be the one making the decision to stay with you since you seem to already support him. Give it some more time, than seek out more answers and see if his counselor is helping him.
But why ask for answers of men over 25? Age doesn't necessarily matter, but is there a huge age difference between you two?
2007-10-25 12:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance. Maybe he has had issues with ex's. I know first hand. My last girlfriend broke up with me after a year because of distance. I am still hurt over this because of all that we went thru and the intense feelings that I had for her and the ones that she claimed to have had for me at that time. I am very leery now about commiting to another girl because I do not want to be hurt again!
2007-10-25 12:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did absolutely nothing wrong. You laid your cards on the table. Now...don't push. Doing so will make u look desperate. Please don't give up the 99 percent of the male population and put all your attention on this guy. He is nice...but not the only one whose nice. Give yourself a chance and see what's out there. You'll be better off for doing that.
Good luck.
2007-10-25 13:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by joseph t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please dont type in caps it makes it very difficult to read ---- no you are not an idiot --- you have said what you want and now he has to decide if that is what he wants as well ---- although it does look like he has trouble making decisions and relies upon other people to tell him what to do ---- best wishes
2007-10-25 12:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wise up toots. This guy wants nothing to do with you.
2007-10-25 12:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by CmP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CmP is the man.
Lady, he's not that into you, if you know what I mean. Get busy with some other guy.
2007-10-25 12:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Felix The Cat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Didnt read, its all in caps
2007-10-25 12:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you did fine i guess
2007-10-25 12:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Chikin Fingers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋