how can I convince him he didn't get genital warts from me?

Question

My boyfriend recently developed two wart like spots high up on his groin. He is going the doctors today and I have warned him they are likely to tell him he has genital warts. His first reaction when we initially discussed was to blame me. We have been together a year – I trust him totally and I have not been with anyone behind his back. I do not have any warts and I had a pap smear six months ago which was fine. Also he is the first man I have had un protected sex with in about six years. He however had numerous unprotected partners before me.
I am really worried he is going to blame me and break up with me. I am convinced if it is what I think he has had the virus in him since before he met me. He has been very run down lately and suffered a bad flu just before the warts appeared.
How can I convince him I am not the culprit?

Answer 1

It can take several months and even YEARS for people to develop genital warts after they have been infected with HPV. I was personally diangosed with HPV almost 7 years ago and I didn't develop genital warts from it till about a year and 1/2 ago. It took me 5 years to develop genital warts from my HPV!

So, it's possible he has had the virus for a while, from an ex, and just never realized it because he never developed warts from it (there is also NO test to detect HPV in men). Most men find out they have HPV by developing warts, but like I said before it can take a LONG time to develop them after a person has been infected with HPV.

It's also possible that you have a kind of HPV that can cause genital warts and you passed it to him. Even if you have never physically developed genital warts yourself, you can still "carry" a kind of HPV that can cause them, which you can spread to others. Also, just because you pap smears have came back normal - that doesn't mean you don't have HPV. My pap smears have been normal for the last two years (they were abnormal before that), but I still have HPV - despite having normal pap smears. Pap smears will only detect "high risk" kinds of HPV. "Low risks" kinds of HPV are usually responsible for genital warts and will not show up on a pap smear test.

Bottom line...if he is going to be a jerk about it and blame you for it then you probably shouldn't be with him anyway. You'll probably never know where he got it from, just like most people don't know who exactly they got it from. And, it's pretty pointless for him to blame you and for you both to fight about it. You guys fighting isn't going to make the virus go away or make it get any better. He needs to just take care of the warts and move on, instead of blaming you. Good luck to both of you!

Answer 2

I had the same thing. Mine were small and clustered. They looked reddish brown to more of a normal skin tone color. They are gone now, without treatment. However, my doctor did say that they fit the description of genital warts and I agreed with him. It took them roughly several months to go away. If you live up in the North Eastern states where you can find the "MayFlower". You can figure out a way to extract the "I forget what it's called" from the mayflower. It is the active ingredient to treating genital warts. Of course the other methods, such as zapping, and freezing work. I prefer to let the body deal with it. You can pay 1000 dollars or so for a doc to prescribe you some cream or you can go to the woods and bypass the doc, the red tape, and the blood sucking pharmacuetical company and do it yourself. They will itch a little, lightlty scatch. I also used a jock itch cream and that seemed to help. Sometimes women are so nasty that they can spread a yeast infection to a man. Apparently, according to wikipedia the body can clear itself of HPV; however, it is not recomended go on as if you never had it. You have to tell your partener that you may be carrier for HPV even though that it has cleared and recommend Gardasil, which is effective in the most common types of HPV's for women under 26. So, Science may have saved you in this respect. If you women loves you, she'll do it and most likely will not have any real problems. But, all those likely's are exactly what I said. I couldn't pretend to give you hard facts. Research the FDA or the Surgeon General or the CDC (center for disease control) for some more hard facts about gardasil and what it protects agaisnt. It is recommended that you abstain from sex until you find the partener that you want to marry. If you want to dicuss further about that why I think that then email me. I would be glad to help out the youth of today. Have a good day, hope this helps.

Answer 3

Genital warts (also known medically as condyloma accuminatum) is caused by the human papilloma virus (HPV) which is transmitted from one person to another. This means that he got it from someone. If you realy don't have genital warts and you have never been with anyone except him, then he did not get it from you. HPV prefers to stay in epithelial tissues like the skin and is rarely transmitted via body fluids. It would be unfair if you're the one to be bllamed for his condition.

Answer 4

TELL HIM, AND THIS IS TRUE, IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANY GENITAL WARTS THEN YOU DIDN'T GIVE THEM TO HIM. THEY ARE AN STD AND THE ONLY WAY TO GET RID OF THEM IS TO HAVE THEM "BURNED" OFF. THEY USE AN ACID LIKE MEDICINE. WHICH MEANS HE CAUGHT THEM FROM SOMEONE ELSE. SO YOU NEED TO BE CAREFUL.
I GOT THEM ONCE WHEN I BECAME PREGNANT. DOC SAID MY BODY JUST PRODUCED THEM AS IT SOMETIMES CAN WITH PREGNANCY. THAT WAS MY 1ST EXPERIANCE WITH THOSE.

Answer 5

well do this go to the clinic with him and do a checkup and follow procedures ,,, well he needs to have a checkup as well and take care of yourself ...=] and prove him wrong u know ..

Answer 6

Well, now you know he's doing some other trashy ho.