Second hand smoke...?

Question

I can't get my mom to stop smoking in the house. She says that second hand smoke is a facade...

When I leave my hair and clothes smell like smoke. I tell her its ba for everyone in the house, but she says its BS. She even smokes in the car with the window up. What should I do?

Answer 1

Although I am strong believer that secondhand smoke is not as dangerous as everyone says it is, I do believe it has some dangers.

Since it is her house, there really isn't much you can do. If you have asked her to not smoke inside and still she refuses, there is nothing you can do except limit your exposure to the smoke.

First off, keep your bedroom door closed at all times, and your windows open. Turn on any fans you may have, and whatever you do DO NOT allow her to smoke in your bedroom. Stay inside your bedroom as much as possible. If you can, spend as much time out of your house as you can. Sleep over at a friends house whenever you get the chance to. Basically just avoid coming home if you can help it.

As for the smell, since your house does smell like smoke, there is not much you can do. Regardless of what you do, your clothes are still going to smell like cigarettes, and so is your hair. I'd tell you to wash your hair, but the second you step out of the shower the smoke is going to cling right back onto it.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

I can't understand why your mom is being so inconsiderate of you, since the smoke bothers you. It's been proven that second-hand smoke is even more harmful than first-hand smoke. If she doesn't want to go outside to smoke, ask her if she would consent to smoking in another room of the house, or when you're not with her in the car. If she still won't listen to you, maybe your doctor could speak to her of the dangerous condition she's exposing you to, as well as compromising her own health. Good luck!

Answer 3

I'm a Mom, I do not smoke, but perhaps if you could get her some printed information on second hand smoke and give it to her, especially how it affects children in the family, or anyone living in the house, she may read it while you are not at home, hopefully it would help her to quit.

I really hope that would effect her.

good luck

Answer 4

Tell her you're tired of smelling like smoke all the time. My grandmother smoked and 1) she died of lung cancer 2 yers ago, and 2) my mom and my aunts how have severe asthma from growing up with it. If she's not listening, maybe it's time to go for the intervention. Ask your doctor to talk to her about the concequences for her and you. A few graphic lung cancer photos might help too!

Answer 5

Go get some hard facts for your mom to see. Make a school project out of it, earn some extra credits, plus prove something to your mom. Call a lung specialist and tell the nurse you want some hard prove to show your mom so she will stop smoking.

Answer 6

Tell her you respect her decision to smoke, however you feel the effects of her smoking around you are harmful to your body and you would appreciate if she woul respect that.

now since you are living in her house, you can't tell she can't smoke in it, however you can suggest she smokes in a more private area where you aren't affected by it.

If she can't respect it, (how old are you), I would consider moving out on your own. Some things are worth sacrificing in order to save your lungs and your nice scent. No one likes the smell of smoke its a turn off

Answer 7

Show her a liver that has been affected by smoking and ask her if she would like to be around to see her grand kids grow up. That should change her perspective.

Answer 8

------------- The Largest study on Second Hand Smoke ever done by Enstrom
http://www.bmj.com/cgi/content/full/326/7398/1057
“No significant associations were found for current or former exposure to environmental tobacco smoke before or after adjusting for seven confounders and before or after excluding participants with pre-existing disease. No significant associations were found during the shorter follow up periods of 1960-5, 1966-72, 1973-85, and 1973-98.”

“Enstrom has defended the accuracy of his study against what he terms ‘illegitimate criticism by those who have attempted to suppress and discredit it.’". (Wikipedia)
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2164936/?tool=pmcentrez

------ Court rules that environmental tobacco smoke (ETS) is NOT a Class A carcinogen
http://www.tobacco.org/Documents/980717osteen.html
“There is evidence in the record supporting the accusation that EPA ‘cherry picked’ its data” … “EPA's excluding nearly half of the available studies directly conflicts with EPA's purported purpose for analyzing the epidemiological studies and conflicts with EPA's Risk Assessment Guidelines” (p. 72)

-------- OSHA will NOT regulate something that’s NOT hazardous
http://www.osha.gov/pls/oshaweb/owadisp.show_document?p_table=INTERPRETATIONS&p_id=24602
“Air contaminants, limits employee exposure to several of the main chemical components found in tobacco smoke. In normal situations, exposures would not exceed these permissible exposure limits (PELs), and, as a matter of prosecutorial discretion, OSHA will not apply the General Duty Clause to ETS.”

Study about health & Smoking Bans – The National Bureau of Economic Research
http://www.nber.org/papers/w14790
“Workplace bans are not associated with statistically significant short-term declines in mortality or hospital admissions for myocardial infarction or other diseases.”

http://www.cigarmony.com/downloads/smoking%201440.pdf
“Conclusions: Our results indicate no association between childhood exposure to ETS(environmental tobacco smoke) and lung cancer risk.”

Showtime television, "How the EPA, CDC, Lung Association, and etc." support their claims.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kGApkbcaZK4

US National Cancer Institute researcher explains the frauds involved in secondhand smoke media reports.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K9gtMKB6X2o

Then the US Surgeon General went over all the studies to date in 2006 again and even though he went on public TV and announced "No safe level", the report itself showed exactly the opposite.
---The evidence is … not sufficient to infer a causal relationship between exposure to secondhand smoke and an increased risk of stroke. (p. 13)
---The evidence is … not sufficient to infer a causal relationship between secondhand smoke exposure from parental smoking and the onset of childhood asthma.(p. 13)
---The evidence is inadequate to infer the presence or absence of a causal relationship between exposure to secondhand smoke during infancy and childhood cancer.(p. 11)

http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/library/secondhandsmoke/report/executivesummary.pdf

Answer 9

shout at her, put on tears, dripping mascarreay or whatever you guys wear, (btw, take drama classes first, jk) be like

"i thought you loved me. i've done everything for you. why can't you stop smoking? i love you and can't bear to see you die before i get married. BOYS don't like me(no saying they don't, i mean, it's a drama right?), etc."

Answer 10

definitely have the same problem.
it's not cool at all.
i just asked her to stop smoking in the car and in my room.
and when i'm present.
so she did.