I have a 13 month old daughter who is walking and running very well and everytime we go shopping she gets fed up after 15 mins or so and struggles to get out of the stroller she cries and thrashes around to get out so I get her out and carry her but then she squirms to get down. When I put her down to walk she always takes off running she wont walk with me and is to young to understand holding hands. When I try to pick her up again or gain some kind of control over the situation she throws a monster tantrum and the shopping trip is over. She used to love being in the stroller and shopping was great until she learnt how to walk i dread shopping and I cant go without a second person to help me with her. What can I do to improve our shopping trips and prevent any further behavioural problems in the future? And has anyone else had this problem with a child of such a young age?
2007-10-11 23:19:26 · 11 answers · asked by cmayshe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Baby reigns, never go anywhere without them, for her safety & your piece of mind.
2007-10-11 23:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by tedrfandthedog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once children begin walking - riding in a stroller ends.
Let her walk but she MUST hold your hand and that's it!!!
YOU are the BOSS - NOT her!!! If she starts to run - swat her butt - sooner or later she will get the message. If you don't discipline a child - they will never learn right from wrong.
I have 3 grown children and when they were her age they always knew who the boss was and I never had problems with them running off. You also have to learn to use a deep stern voice with her because most children will obey the father (because of his voice tone) but not the mother.
Most importantly - do NOT put a harness on her. She is a human being NOT an animal!
2007-10-12 11:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 months, in my opinion, is too young to have her walk beside you. too little coordination, too much touching, and basically all over the place.
i never leave home without my two little ones, now 5 and 2. My two year old was just like your daughter not too long ago. it was a phase, and i overcame it pretty quickly.
the stroller was never a big hit with my daughter, but a cart is. i had let her bring toys, she has a cart cover with pockets to hold them, and i would talk to her the entire time. i engage her in coversation (of course one-sided), asking her opinions, etc. it seems to keep her on track with what i am doing. it's like a game. and for god's sake, don't take your time.
1. learn to be an efficient shopper. in and out.
2. discipline your child now, to avoid even bigger tantrums later.
3. when in public and your child throws a fit, stay calm, wrap things up, and leave the store.
4.once you take a child out of a cart or stroller, it's over. you have just committed to a bad choice, and it's time to go.
good luck!
2007-10-12 11:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by christine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice makes perfect. Try going into the store, walking with your toddler at her pace, holding hands (she should be able to hold hands). As soon as she drops hands, the "shopping trip" is over. But if she can "shop" for five minutes, then stop the shopping trip, go back to the car, and praise her lavishly!! When she gets used to this, work up to 10 minutes and so on.
Also, try to shop at places that have a "play place" for the kiddies, and reward a successful shopping trip with a go at the playground.
You might also consider walking or running with her before the trip to wear her out a little bit. (-: It may backfire, but it may make her ready to stay in the stroller.
Be patient. This stage only lasts for a few months, if you keep working with her, and keep her needs in mind. (-: It will last just as long if you make it a battle of the wills, but it will seem like decades!!!
For major shopping trips, consider getting a sitter, or leaving her with a relative (Dad, maybe?).
2007-10-12 06:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"...so I get her out and carry her"
There's your problem. You are rewarding her for her behaviour. If you ever want to be able to shop again you have to show her who's boss, because at the moment it's her.
Keep her in the stroller, maybe distract her with something (a toy, book etc), but don't let her out no matter how much she kicks and screams. You may feel embarassed a few times in public but persist and the results might be rewarding.
2007-10-12 06:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by chris w 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All children get bored sitting in their pram and want to get out to walk/run around. You need to take control over this situation as it is getting out of hand.
You can use reins as its much safer as least you will know that she is ok.
The only thing about using them for the first time will be that your daughter will not like it as she is so used to being able move about by herself. You will then just need to take control.
2007-10-16 05:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by SHEILA R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 13 months old..and im happy he doesnt do that..he walks but he like sitting in his pram..and just looking around..though if the pram doesnt move after 10 mins..he will start whinging a little bit..but once it starts moving again he is all good.
I know it wont last long..i know most parents have kids who do things you daughter does..and im just waiting till that happens with my son..but my son is very active so i can actually already imagine him doing what you are describing..and i am planning on buying those baby restrainers..which the child walk only to a certain distant away from you..i think thats what they are called anyways.
I never like the ideas of them, because it made me feel like the kids were more like dogs..you know chained down so to speak..but now that i have a kid of my own i understand why those are used.
2007-10-12 06:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried those special shopping carts for kids. The usually look like a car and you can strap them in. They can usually play with the stirring wheel.
2007-10-13 17:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Rosey55 D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You honestly just need to keep up a routine with her. If you do take her shopping let her know it's not okay for her to act like that. Don't let her get away with it one time, then not the next. Or just don't take the kids shopping! Plus..you'll have time to yourself!
2007-10-12 08:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't take her out of the stroller. Keep her in there and keep her occupied with snacks and toys.
2007-10-12 09:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Exquisite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i saw this at walmart, I bought one and it does draw stares
but it works for me. theyhave these leash/restrainers that are a backpack for the child, and has a length of cord to be attached to your arm. It allows for 5-6 ft of freedom. the one we have looks like a monkey, she loves his tail...
2007-10-12 06:46:39 · answer #11 · answered by Marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋