my ex-boyfriend told me that i was one of his sexual fantasies...what are your thoughts on this? Do you think that is all I was to him? Or, am I being too harsh?
2007-10-11 22:24:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeahp, it's wrong.
A relationship should be based on love, and every relationship should be offered to God. So when a relationship is not built on love, it isn't right, it's BAD.
A relationship is holy. Love is holy.
One of the definitions of love, or at least, descriptions, states that:
It is not love when it is for the fulfillment of sexual desires.
Therefore, LOVE is not equal to LUST.
And a sexual fantasy is a result of lust. So I think it's wrong, and if he just loved you for sex, then maybe that's all you were to him. A relationship should bring us closer to God. Not fulfill our sexual desires. True love between two people is not equal to sexual attraction.
Hope this helps. I'm sorry if it's a bit messy. My thoughts are messy. I hope you get me. =)
2007-10-11 22:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by At 15. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We have no way to tell whether that was all you were to him, though if he's now your ex, then maybe so. I doubt you're being too harsh if he left you, or if you left him for reasons that weren't sexual.
But for people who are in long-term relationships, especially marriage, being each other's sexual fantasy is frankly pretty cool, and also a prescription for a lasting relationship/marriage.
2007-10-12 05:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by senor_oso 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Say" same to you." Women too have sexual fantasy. So what.Men dont think further than the mechanical act and then its forgotton. So get on with your precious life and dont let these things bother you.
2007-10-12 05:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is your ex remember why should it matter? Either way if it bothers u, be aware of how men treat you after this, are they after you just to get in your pants? are u the type of girl who gives off an 'easy' vibe.. if this is sumthin that happens and u dont like it happening do sumthing to change it, make it clear to those guys, dressing appropriately might help too
2007-10-12 05:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by Nadz 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
as u just said he is now your ex, so that givs you the answer to your question. thats all you are to him and no you are not being harsh but anyway who cares he is your ex now and just move on...there are a lot of fish in the ocean my dear!!
2007-10-12 05:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It would be worse to not be anybodies sexual fantasy
2007-10-12 05:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by stump the bump 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you had been anything more he would not have left you having to wonder about it.
But hey, look at the positive side. You have sex appeal!
2007-10-12 05:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by flax9 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That means once you had sex the fantacy is gone.No longterm relation intended.He intends only a few sessions.
2007-10-12 05:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Probably.. But its okay if your enjoying or did enjoy it in your case..
2007-10-12 05:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
its ok... at least you have some idea of his feelings towards you..
2007-10-12 05:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋