Ok i met this guy my homegirl told me he is a player to be carefull idk if its true or not but im really starting to like him but he started to get involve in that music bussiness which means hes got all kinds of females on his jock. But he is so different from the rest of the guys ive met hje asked me out on a date to the movies i said i couldnt go unless he asked my parents and with out thinking bout it twice he said he would ask my dad and mom and my parents he said he really likes that im the kinda of girl hes been lookin for but idk if he means it or not wut should i do should i believe him or not idk if my friend was lying or not but so far he hasnt proved to be a player so idk any advice???
2007-10-11 22:17:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO, let me repeat this NO NO NO!
People do not change! You cannot change anyone but yourself. Do not kid yourself, if you do not accept someone just as they are, forget about a good relationship with them.
2007-10-11 22:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy is a potential player, however u have no reason to think he is playing u. The key is not to give up logic for love, mind over matter. Its easier said than done but the more u become attached the more it will hurt to part. On the plus side, u know his rep so if it turns out ya friend was right it won't be such a shock. Ultimately if his rep is causing u to be insecure, overly jealous, and paranoid then u should just settle for friendship.
2007-10-11 22:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Convince Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't date entertainers or jocks. I grew out of that phase a long time ago. Guys in that industry turn out to either be gay or develop commitment phobias, because of all the panties being thrown at them on stage. As soon as the relationship starts to go good, and his career takes off, he's going to ask for space or tell you that things aren't working out right. This scenario plays true and has for centuries. Don't know why, it just does.
He may or may not be a player though. You can't just take someone's word for it. What proof does your homegirl have, that he's a player? She may want him for herself. Who knows? Just because alot of women like a guy, doesn't mean that he wants all of that attention, or that he's a player. Get to know him and if he is a player, it won't take long for you to find out. He has to ask your parents? How old are you anyway?
-Knowledge24
2007-10-11 22:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not give your age, but I hope you are old enough to handle this man. People can change, but you need time to figure out if this is real or just another game to him. Do not make a rash decision . Take a good look at the whole picture. You don't want to get your heart broken.
2007-10-11 22:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by older is wiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful and take things slowly!!! He might be a player and you might get hurt but these are the risks of romance!! If he is a player and still pretty young then he probably won't change for a good few years if he is going to.
2007-10-11 22:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by JOANNE C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be on guard, maybe he has had alot of girlfriends cause he hasnt found the one. give it some time is all i can say, in time you will find out. for now have fun and its really hard to trust someone right away especially if youve heard stuff about him.Other girls could have said stuff about him because they are jealsous hes not with them. Good luck!
2007-10-11 22:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Glittery★stars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still young then i believe that a player can change as when you are young guys tend to feel manly by getting as many girls as possible, but if they fins the right one they will change. By asking your parents if you could go on a date with him, makes me think he is genuinely interested in you as i dont think that a player would go to that much effort if he was playing you. just my opinion. good luck.
2007-10-11 22:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'd be careful them quiet ones are the worst guys are good at keepin that stuff to them selves and making girl believe they arent "playas" but you should go with him and hangout with him. Kind of lead him on but dont give him your ful attention remember you 2 arent dating yet so its coo for you to check out other guys. When you guys hangout flirt with him but flirt with other guys but always give him more flirtatious actions then the rest. make him want you but dont give in easily!
2007-10-11 22:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by LADy_LUkE11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to find out for sure is to find out for yourself. A player can only play if you let him. Go out with him and use your judgment, common sense and intuition. Remember, YOU are in control.
Have fun.
2007-10-11 22:24:10 · answer #9 · answered by Shawn L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's okay if you listen to what other people say but don't just depend on it. If his "player" background distracts you then do not let yourself fall in love with him yet. Know him better first until you can finally say that you love him with any "what if's" or "buts".
2007-10-11 22:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋