how do I tell my family I don't want there religion?

Question

I'm 21 years old & still I feel vary uneasy talking to them because I've always been the "good child" its not that don't believe in god I just believe in a different kind of god & a different devil. you see I believe in the teachings of Jesus Christ & that god comes from the word good so in that since I believe in god but I don't believe in a man with a long white beard who judges us when we die, I believe that the word devil comes from the word evil I don't believe that their's a man who pokes you with a pitchfork if you're "bad" I believe that heaven & hell are both here on earth & life is what you make it. I want to be in heaven and I'm there right now, I've been in hell too long. I would like to stay in my heaven for a while how can I explain this to a judgmental family?

Answer 1

Hello! Well this is a familiar subject. I understand your concern over your family's feelings and beliefs. youve grown to become the person you are now in mosstly due to their upbringing. However, life's lessons and experiences are also a huge part in forming your opinions and beliefs. God always finds a way if a person listens. Maybe they cant be open enough to accept that. How you live each day is more important than what you do on sunday mornings. I would take time to tell them how you feel and tell them you dont expect them to be accepting of everything just like they shouldnt have you accept everything they do and say. It may trouble you at first if they reject you but thats human nature to feel like this...take it one day at a time and they will see

Answer 2

First off, you are already 21 years old, you can and have the right to think for yourself and do what you think is right.

Religion is a very personal thing, i.e between you and God and no one else.

As you said, "you have always been the good child", that shows that you must be on the right track and in the God that you believe.

You did not mention what is your family religion, so I take to that it must be non christian.

Talk to your brothers and sisters first or an uncle or auntie to gauge their respond. If they have positive respond, get their help to sit down together and tell your parents about it.

If they are tough and negative about it, you should know the reasons for it and base on these reasons think over it and prepare to talk to your family direct.

Last resort if they cannot agree, is to tell them frankly that you have your own decision on which religion path you want to take and whatever it is, you will always still be the 'good child' in their eyes.

Answer 3

cut back your hair. that could desire to deliver the message. the topic, of path, relies upon on the training of the religion and that i'm no longer acquainted with yours and specifically your loved ones's sect. i'm talking purely from having worked with a Sikh as quickly as I say to cut back your hair. And in case you nonetheless have confidence which you would be able to desire to no longer, then I ask for forgiveness for making the advice. Getting returned to the topic... in the journey that your faith bans or shuns people who go away, or considers them ineffective, then i do no longer think of there is plenty you're able to do different than purely being blunt. yet whilst the religion is extra forgiving, then you definitely'll in no way understand till you attitude them. i might do it whilst truthfully everyone seems to be there, purely so as that all of them get the word on the same time. solid luck.

Answer 4

Speak to a church leader, for advice, or someone that has simlar beliefs. I do believe in Heavenly Father, and earthly mother, and in Jesus Christ. There are good and evil spirits, and we are here on earth to receive a body, so that we will have one when we return to heaven. We must take care of our body, therefore. If you seek and find a church to worship in, it will be easier for you to talk to your family. I pray for your strength and peace.

Answer 5

you don't have to 'come out' to your family about your opposing believes. You are not seeking their approval, neither are you marrying them. As an adult you are free to believe whatever you want. Now if it comes up in comversation, or it comes to them insisting on you doing something you are not comfortable doing because of ypour differing beliefs, then let them know. I went from catholic to non believer to atheist. I told my parents after they came to visit once and insisted i go to church. Of course i didn't end up going. They are still in denial but thats their problem, not mine. I have noticed that they do not necessarily want me as a child, rather they want the kid version of myself: you know the obedient, goodie 2 shoes who was destined to be the mother superior of the local convent. They can keep that phantom daughter and I will keep my real self.

Answer 6

What I do around Jesus freaks who are scared of the non-perfect-christians?

1. Nod along

2. Change the Subject

3. Vent on the Yahoo! answers: religion and spirituality section

It's been working so far :)

Answer 7

Just tell them what you believe and how you understand religion. It is after all your choice and you will only give an account for yourself and no one else will do it on your behalf. Your ideas seem crazy but we need to let you do whatever you decide. Salvation is free and no one is forced to take it.

Answer 8

Well you think to yourself, damn I'm 21 and worried about what my family will think of me for what I believe in, the main word being 'I'. Then if they bring it up you tell them and if they care for you they will respect your beliefs as you respect theirs...

End of worrying

Answer 9

You should not have to say anything.At 21 you can live your life the way you want to .If they find out and are upset ,don't worry, it is their problem, not yours. Don't give in if they try to persuade you to go back ,it is your life,not theirs.

Answer 10

Just be blunt and straightforward. If they don't like it, tough. You respect their beliefs, they should respect yours.