in january of this year my mother killed her self after dad divorced her i have.2, brothers . and 1. little sister and i make the.4. one i am the oldest girl my dad loved my mom very much but mom was cheating on him dad was a good prodiver for all of us and he loved our mom very much they was married for.22. years dad found out that mom was seeing another man much younger than her he divorced her that same month that dad divorced her over what she had done dad loved her very much but mom did what she did out of being divorced. and made fun of by others now dads neveres are bad i know in my heart dad still loves her but he.s still hurting over what she did even now she.s dead dad still loves her he was hurt very much over what mom had did how can we try to cheer him up i am.17. and my older brother. is.19. and help would be very much needed towards dad we all live with him after mom did that even when they divorced . the same month mom killed her self
2007-10-11 20:07:37 · 8 answers · asked by wildcat_2021 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
the man my mom was seeing was .19. the same age of my older brother and mom was in her.40.s
2007-10-11 20:10:41 · update #1
i am so sorry as what has happened i truley mean that try church councling and be there for him he loves you kids and yes he still loves your mother even as to what she had done .22. years is not that easy to put behind a person ask a minister to come by and help you all in this time of your loss . and be strong for him as well each other every one here has given you good advice on this mater god bless you all ?
2007-10-11 20:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is finding it hard to forgive himself for something he did not do. Yes the pain of losing him was more than your mother could take. I do not know the whole story, but it seems the cheating was too much for him to take.
Make the best of a bad situation. Always remember that you all are still here and has to make the best of it. This too shall pass. Do seek help from a good church. Keep your eye on your father because he suffers in silent. He is living with guilt. It is not his fault. Like so many others, he is blaming himself. This is hard on him and you all mentally.
Let your father see that you are adjusting well, and it will impress him so that he will change gradually. Be very careful and not try to become your mother. This is commom for children to over compensate. Of course you love your father and do not want to see him hurt. He is a great man.
Remember, that you are in the process of grieving over your mother. You WILL see better days ahead, I promise.
2007-10-11 20:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by shawnLacey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can take your dad out to do something he really enjoys. Something that can take his mind off of everything that has just recently occured in your lives. You can also look into support groups, there are some for family who have been left behind from a suicide. These groups have people who have been through exactly what your family is going through right now and can help you all find different ways to cope and get through this very difficult time. To find a support group near you check with a psychiatric hospital/clinic they tend to have a list of different support groups or try to find one in your area online. Do a search using a search engine like Yahoo or Google, type in your state and city then support groups in area. This should help you find the support you need right now. I'm sorry to hear about your loss and I hope this helps you out. Good luck.
2007-10-11 20:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 06:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened. Your mother must had other issues besides the divorce. Most people don't committ suicide after divorce. there must had been something that bothered her that she may have kept to herself.
2007-10-11 21:54:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry to hear what has happened to your family.You guys probably could use some counseling as a family. If you go to church, talk to your pastor and see what your church can provide or what they recommend. If you don't go to church, I highly recommend that you start. God bless!
2007-10-11 20:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by BERT 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
sorry bout what happened...
cheer him up by showing him that you love him...
do good in school...
spend time with him...
^^,
hope that helps...
2007-10-11 20:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by STiTCH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
omg so sad. I feel so sorry for you... It must be tough....
2007-10-11 20:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋