sad,,depression?

Question

i always feel sad and depressed.i know from the outside it looks like i have a perfect life but i can never seem to get out of this like sadness trap.my best and only friend deserted me and i have nobody.i always feel like im too fat to eat.ending up starving myself until i fail and binge.i cant think straight and treat people nice.i always feel very inadequate and that im not good enough for anyone.my mom made me an appointment to talk with somebody.what type of questions do they ask?is this really going to help me?thanks

Answer 1

I've been down that road before, but I certainly wasn't perfect on the outside...
You absolutely need to speak to someone. It may simply be "growing up" or it could be much more than that. When I was in my teens I went to a psychologist and she was very helpful with dealing with my life, talking to my parents, and letting off steam to a trusted adult who gave me great advice.
Later on I realized it was more than just that and went to a psychiatrist and was prescribed medication that I believe changed my life.
I think this person will probably just start with the basics and try to figure out where these feelings come from. Remember that they're a professional so don't be afraid to tell them EVERYTHING. It's the only way they can truly help. And, if you don't end up liking the person you need to tell your parents so they can find someone else. You won't make any progress if you're not comfortable.
I wish you the best of luck. Just hang in there. I promise it gets better.

Answer 2

Is it a psychiatrist of a psychologist. A psychiatrist will prescribe you medicine and the psychologist will councill you. But I know how you feel. I have really bad anxiety and that makes me depressed because I can't cope with things like other people. The medicine I am on works really good for the depression part, I feel great and the sun is shining every day and people are always happy when I take it. But when I don't take it the weather always sucks and I can't belive there is a happy soul on the planet. As for the anxiety well medicine helps me deal with it and supresses most of it. People who see me always ask "why are you on medicine?" If they only knew the **** that wen't through my mind sometimes and how shitty my day can really go if I don't have it. They kind of question you can expect are pretty simple, how often do you feel depresses, do you want to hurt yourself, do you want to hurt others, do you hear voices. **** like that. Will it help yes I would say go for it. Ain't no big deal. The medicine may make you gain weight but that's not reason to not take it. If your worried about gaining weight get into an yoga class or something and buy a healthy cookbook and stick with it. If you have any other questions or just want to talk to someone email me.

Answer 3

Try to change whatever you do normally, ALL OF IT, your routine, make exercise, eat healthy, look for a healthy hobby, have a nice rest, sometimes things as simple as the food that you eat if is not enough or what your body needs there will be a dis-balance, and that can make you feel like this.

The lack of pure oxygen to the brain, can make the same feeling to you.

If you are sad for a particular reason, remember everything happens for a reason, so don't stay too long by thinking or suffering that, no life is too beautiful to stay in a bad spot, see, learn and move on.

Work in your image, be happy on what you have, who you are, and if you don't like it for any reason, then do something about it, by the fact of complaining is not gonna change, if you want to be nice with people then be, if you want to think straight... why not, the only barrier in this world for you to be as you dream to be, is ONLY YOU.

So throw to the garbage the "sad,,depression" attitude and give yourself the chance to be all you can be,

Be happy :) we only have ONE life

Answer 4

They will ask you questions about what you've been feeling and then give you meds based on your answers. I do not believe that this is what you need to help you right now. I think you should seriously think about talking to a support group. It's a group of people who have gone through a lot of what you're going through and will get to know you. I've come to find through my old support group that they became my friends and I now consider them my family. They are there for you when you need it and can find ways to help you other then medications that just cover up what your feeling but don't fix the underlaying problem. I have started a support group here on Yahoo and we have been getting a lot of people joining. If you'd like to come to our group I have left you the link in the source's section of this answer. We'd be happy to listen to what you're going through and help you to see through it anyway that we can. I am the host of the group and I know how it feels to have no friends. I didn't have any friends growing up and the few I did have ended up leaving me because of the way I looked. I know exactly what you're going through and how you feel alone and hopeless but there is hope. We can discuss anything that is troubling you or just anything you're interested in. It's friends and support. I hope to see you there and I hope this helped you out. Good luck.

Answer 5

First stop asking everyone else what you should do and pray. If you are fat, then loose weight, there are ways to lose weight in a healthy way. You sound like you don't have any patience. And only you can change the way you feel, start hanging with positive people and also start waking up with a positive attitude.

Answer 6

The professionals will ask you how long you have been feeling this way, do you ever get the urge to hurt yourself or other people, and do you use drugs or alcohol? Then if you win and answer those questions correctly, they will give you meds to suit your particular disorder. Take these meds, they will probably help you. Being depressed is no way to live.

Answer 7

See depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2, and take the test: it will give you some idea. See http://emotionalhealth.ivillage.com/... and http://www.webhealth.com/wiki/eating_dis... and http://www.edreferral.com Call EDAP on 1-800-931-2237. When you are feeling a little better, consider volunteering, which will put you into contact with good, positive people. Page 38 also refers.

Answer 8

I am your friend from today.
So don't worry, you are no more without a friend.
Cheer up. Very soon you are going to change your entire life.
Can you trust me?

Answer 9

i act weird to get attention and i have 2 good friends (but hated by others)

Answer 10

Dear Lorraine,

The first thing you should know is that you are not the only one sad and depressed - so are most of the rest of us out here in the real world. I wish I could say the right words to make it go away. I wish I had all the answers. I really wish I had all the answers so I could help you and me and all the other unhappy people online right now feel better.
The best thing about seeing a counselor is pouring out your troubles onto the shoulders of someone else for a change, and lighten your burden for an hour at least. Having someone else to talk to and listen to you is one of the best things you can do to unload, even if you are paying them money to listen to you.
You need to stop condemning yourself. You are not a failure. You are just a regular human being like the rest of us. We all have problems, some brought upon ourselves, some pushed on to us by others who need to feel superior in order to make themselves feel better, some of us are trapped in ugly bodies and faces, some of us, no matter how hard we try, can't seem to lose fifty pounds no matter what we eat or how much we exercise (like, uhm, me, for example) I eat vegetables, avoid wheat products, drink water and juice, never coffee or alcohol, exercise every day on either my exercise bike or mini-trampoline, walk four dogs two at a time two laps around my block, and I'm still a size 16. Talk about being a failure at losing weight!
But I can say I do know how you feel. I really can. All my life I've had people go out of their way to criticize me, correct me, always be right and I am always wrong, and I just can't seem to get it right no matter how hard I try. I do these Yahoo! Answers because at least somewhere sometimes I get voted best answer by at least one other person in this world.
In order to put yourself back together, you need to let go of your burden of hate. You need to let go of your burden of hating yourself. You need to start shutting off the lies those voices in your head are telling you, and come out of the darkness and in to the light. I should be dead right now - I nearly killed myself several years ago, I was in a near-fatal car accident involving an icy road on a mountain cliff, and yet I am still alive because my daughter needs me now. But I am still learning to find value in myself and you can too. I am doggedly practicing my clarinet even though I still suck at it - just not so much as I used to. I am practicing speaking Spanish with my Mexican neighbors on the block even though they still laugh at me, because I figure making them laugh is better than making them mad and I may learn the language after all. I still can't get the hot guys at the bar to look twice at me - they still cluster around the only 6-foot blonde in the joint, but secretly I know I can still whoop a 6-foot blonde's butt at things like fishing, driving an outboard motor boat, and driving a front-end loader.
If the perfect life is making you so sad, maybe it's time to put yourself in to a not-so-perfect life. There are so many people in your own town who are living in poverty. I have on my own block people who sleep on the floors in their apartments because rents are so high all their money pays the rent and very little is left over for things like, you know electricity, furniture, food, that sort of thing. There is no shame in learning how to love someone less fortunate than you. You don't have to give them money - God knows I haven't any - but you can always give time, food items and clothes, and a listening ear to someone else. Sometimes hearing and seeing others less fortunate helps you appreciate your own life that much better.
Now is the time to stop repeating the bad things about yourself over and over and start learning new thoughts and ideas to replace the bad ones. Maybe it's time to go to your local library and start checking out books in subjects that interest you, and everytime you find yourself wasting brain activity on bad thoughts about yourself, pick up a book and think of other things. It's been helping me a lot - the more I read the less I cry. I'm learning how to build a house and draw up floor plans rather than sit at home and be miserable. I am forcing myself to do the yoga exercises on the cable channel even though I know it's not going to work, because it's better than just sitting there being depressed.
I am doing this all by myself, without medication, because I want to pull myself out of this just as much as you do.
Give life another chance.

Sincerely,

Enn

P.S. Some awesome books to read and my personal favorites just for fun and not because they are in or deep or mean anything in particular:

"The Scarlet Pimpernel" by Baroness Orzcy
"Emil and the Detectives" by Erich Kastner
"The Three Musketeers" by Alexandre Dumas (oh, the book is way better than the movie and the ending is way better than the stupid swordfight!)
"The Blue Castle" by L.M. Montgomery
"Roller Skates" by Ruth Sawyer
"The Diamond in the Window" by Janet Langton
"Under the Tuscan Sun" by Frances Mayes (The book is totally different from the movie and way better.)

Good Luck and God Bless.