The other night we were talking about us. She said "i just dont know waht i want and stuff, and i sure dont want to hurt you or anything so i dont want to lead things in a direction that would hurt you" Tonight i told her that i was not trying to pressure her into anything the other night, and that if and when she wanted i would be there, and no matter what she is and always will be my best friend. She responded with "i dont want you to wait on me at all id never ask that of anyone bc like i told u im not sure what i want or anything so i dont want anyone waiting on me bc i dont know what i want". What I want to know is should I wait or should I forget it and just be her friend?
2007-10-11 19:16:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her to give you a call *after* the divorce. Until then, stay away and go on with your life expecting not to hear from her.
2007-10-11 19:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by The LG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well be a friend. But also wait for her but dont tell her that you are but also keep you options open dont devote your life on waiting for her just always keep her in the back of your mind but if she doesnt want to be with you dont think about it to much because what it sounds like is she probably wont be with you but hay you never know.
2007-10-12 02:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Travis L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be friends. I have fed that line to people before when they are moving in a direction that i dont want to go in. She is a girl so she doesnt want to hurt your feelings. She is basically saying dont wait for me because i dont know who or what is next for me. She wants to play the field or she has alredy been doing so. She has found someone or is still searching and unfortunately that someone is not you.
2007-10-12 02:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Gen Gen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. You should leave her alone entirely until her divorce is final. Being her friend will only "stoke the fires" and you will eventually fall back into being with her. She keeps telling you that she doesn't want you to wait around for her because she's not sure what she wants to do. Take that as your answer. Cut it off completely. You will be the better for it.
2007-10-12 02:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say niether. Were you directly involved with her beofre or after she filed? Please no "it was already over" retorts. No matter what anyone says, you and she have a LOW chance of working out. Not that it's impossible, but based on her response- it's even lower. Not only does she have no idea which way is up right now, the few moments she does, she's just not into you.
2007-10-12 02:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably not the answer you are wanting to hear but for your best you should just be there for a friend for her. She is trying to let you don gently without causing any kind of long term pain. She is probably needing her time to readjust to being single again and after coming directly out of a marriage it is never good to hook up right away. The best is for you to move on.
2007-10-12 02:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by living it 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know what: When a woman wants you, she won't say "I don't want you to wait on me at all.....". That's just not how it works.
She told you that she's not sure what she wants or anything and then went on to say: "I don't want you to wait on me at all...." Sounds like she's pretty sure of what she wants, don't you think.
I think you should believe her.
2007-10-12 02:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by Worker Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience because I have done this to a guy, don't wait. She is just trying not to hurt you right now. Maybe even just give her some time to find herself.
Girls do this to give themselves something "new" to do and get out of their usual routine of things...sorry
2007-10-12 02:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
bro, you aint in love, you are in love with the idea of being in love BECAUSE you are dealing with somebody who aint available, aint attemptin to **get** available, and is convenient and comfortable right where she is.
You need to be dating a FEW more available women and letting the bad ones weed themselves out instead of getting stuck. she's most attractive now because YOU CAN'T HAVE HER (like that Ferrari, or the 30,000 sq foot home, until you own either).... do you get it?
best of luck!!!
2007-10-12 02:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by Shell Answer Man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating someone who is recently divorced is like walking through a minefield.
Step lightly and be very careful.
2007-10-12 02:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋