Girls Please help me!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My Name is Rob, Im 5'4 and a sophomore at high school and i noticed that i really need to think about a relationship. I however am the farthest thing from some girls think is "hot". I however am one of the sweetest guys someone can meet and i will always put my girl as my top priority,i also treat them much better than what i see my friends do with their girls. Here are some of my issues that i need working out

1st, im overweight and i believe thats a major turnoff im trying to lose it and im down 20 pounds already.
2nd. Im the guy all girls love to be friends with but would never go out with. HOw do i change this?
3rd.I talk with girls alot and most consider me "sweet" but thats the most i get. I have no problem talking to girls and i even help out with their problems, but when its time to start talking to a girl i like about that subject i completely shut down.
4th. i have a fear of rejection even though i never have been rejected.

Someone please give me advice. Ty

Answer 1

2 advices:

1) Truth is: improve your physical appearance, maybe a better shave, better hair style, nicer clothes, better parfum (I didn't see you, just guessing possibilities) could do better. You wouldn't believe it if you really knew how important that is. No matter what they say, women don't want to go out with somebody they don't fancy in his outfit.

2) Don't be that sweet. You yourself know that makes you the best friend. Such sweet man would be the oppositte to appealing. It reminds you of your father when you were a child or your elder brother, cousin or just the type of male friend you always wanted to have. Even a bit like a pet. You don't think of such a nice friend as a 'man' if you know what I mean. Although women love sweetness and that means you don't have to lose that, but, VERY IMPORTANT, mix it with some mistery. Don't be so much the nice guy. A woman must 'fight' for you, you must keep her interest. It is the truth that women lose interest soon in an easy mean. A man must be for a woman something she has won, something she deserves and not just someone who is lovely with her just because "he is like that". An example, when they call you for something, when you are already there, you have to be like "yeah, I wasn't sure if I could come but in the end I thought about it and decided to come and have a nice evening with you at the cinema as you proposed, well, the film is OK and sure I like your company too". Don't be like "I came running to you as I am the sweet-lovely-forever friendly guy that would never leave you behind, whatever the plan is". A woman has to feel she won the game, not that the game is already won before starting.

I know it is complicated but women are like this. If after this you decide to become gay I would understand, he, he.

And about your third problem, women love shy guys. Just better shut up while trembling than say something really stupid.

Now you don't need good luck, I'm sure you have the aims.

Answer 2

Hi Rob! You do sound like a nice guy but also are aware that in HS many ppl are drawn to superficial qualities. Still, there are probably lots of girls who could be interested in you.
To me, one of the best qualities a guy can have is to be a good listener & it sounds like a lot of girls see this in you. You might want to take a look & consider whether you're letting yourself be taken advantage of though-- some ppl actually see kindness as passivity or even weakness.
If you have interests outside of school, it's a good way to meet new ppl & to have a richer life. Think about what you like & how to become more involved with it.
Probably *everybody* has some fear of rejection but it helps some ppl if they ask themselves what's the worst thing that could happen (which usually isn't *that* bad). Everybody faces rejection @ some point in their life & you won't have sucess if you don't take the chance (cliche I know, but true).
When my SO was in HS, some girls actually wouldn't go out with him b/c, in their own words, he was "too nice." Lucky for me none of them grabbed him while they had the chance.

Answer 3

Rob, you are still be young to think this matter as a serious matter in your life. I don't say you cannot think about it but not too worry on it. Make your duty as the best as you should do in your age. I mean your study. Just keep yourself healthy with healthy food, drink milk & have excersice accordingly. You will look good, believe me. Girls do not like fat guy, the worst is we do not want a stupid guy as our boyfreind. No matter how you look good but your mind/brain's not smart, finally you will be just only a toy for someone. Some bad gals may like to have those stupid guys for her slaves.

Join any clubs or sport team to improve your social relationship. From that activities you will know more people & learn how to be in the group.

Prepare yourself for better future. You will have choices to choose the best for you, not be just a choice for someone who may take you out of her list.

Good luck boy.

Answer 4

It's basically all about the right girl finding you then. Cause by what you wrote your perfect for boyfriend material. It's just that some of us girls become superficial and arrtificial and don't see what is really there. That's why a whole bunch get involved in absuive or unhappy relationships. Right now just keep being just a friend sooner or later a girl would realized she wants to be with you.

Answer 5

You have already got the friend vibe- oh boy. First off, DO NOT be afraid of rejection it happens toeveryone. Second, great job on losing weight... 20lbs is a lot.

Answer 6

you are like the female version of my friend! i would say -and i know it sounds cheesy- wait for a girl who isn't so superficial! and if you can't have confidence in urself then people will see that

Answer 7

Why don, t you have a girlfriend