I'm a virgin and I think sex should be shared between two people who love each other. I would only share this with someone I love and someone who loves me back. He however has had two partners, never been in love, which he cared about. So he believes it should be shared between people who care about each other. To me there is a huge difference between caring about someone and loving them.
2007-10-11 18:33:29 · 27 answers · asked by Brownie12866 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he wouldn't pressure me to do anything I don't want to. I just want to know since I feel that sex is so special will this be a breaking point?
2007-10-11 18:39:02 · update #1
It does make a difference when there is different views!! You and only you can decide when and what and with who it will be acceptable!! It's not something that you should compromise for anyone!!
2007-10-11 18:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ginny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words is he the right guy for you. I don't know I have never met either of you and I doubt I will. Some things to look for that will lead to a good realationship however is things in common. People who have a lot in common tend to stay in relationships longer then people who have nothing in common. That doesn't mean that two people who have nothing in common can't have a good relationship. I on the other hand would rather be with somone who I had a lot in common with. When I say lets go to the concert I don't want my girlfriend saying "well call one of your friends and go with them". I would rather her say "who's driving?" And I would hate to be with anyone who didn't like punk rock. I feel there would be constant conflict over the radio.
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Sorry if I didn't answer your question. I don't know the answer to it. I am only offering what I know and have found to be true. But love someone and caring about this are two different things. I know lots of girls that I care and would live with spend all my money on, take out on dates and fornicate with but I wouldn't want to be tied down with.
2007-10-11 18:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by blackcat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will, but then, if not sex, can be something else.
Relationship can be affected by many things, and sex is one of them.
By and large, one need not to make a big deal about sex, it should not be regarded as something holy or any thing special.
It is just biology. If one can manage the events and safety (use protections, on pills, be selective of partners) sex should be maximally exploited as human sources of pleasure. It requires common sense and logic thinking to treat and manage sex life intelligently.
Old fashion notion about sex, should be throw out of window immediately. However, that said, it is a fact, sex is not an easily accessible thing. You must be attractive else you may still end up living a one-person life.
Not thing can be taken for granted, especially sex.
2007-10-11 18:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tia T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i believe that it does affect a relationship. But it's up to him to show you respect and understanding of your morals. If he can not do that then it shows you what kind of person he is. Me myself, i am with a man who loves sex more than me but we compromise, and sometimes it just makes our relationship a little more enjoyable. But don't give up your stance unless you are completely ready. And yes there is a HUGE difference between love and caring. I say, don't do something you will regret and for someone who may not always be there. You can only have that one special first time.
2007-10-11 18:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by yellowrose82400 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go girl. You should be in love before you have sex and not teenage puppy love real love. Like I want to marry you and have your baby love. Two is actually a really low # for anyone now a days, especially a guy. It can affect the relationship if he doesn't respect you enough to wait until you really want to. If he pressures you move on.
2007-10-11 18:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by hollygirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i will go with your idea...I mean, caring is completely different from LOVING someone...I mean, you can care about like anyone you know...but loving is something you share with that one person...I am not going to be a hypocrite because I wasnt loving every guy I was with (wasnt with much...lol...so dont think that way)...but like i know how it feels and it does feel so much better when it is with someone that you can honestly say you love...it means so much more when there is love and to know you can trust this guy and know he is not one of them boys who talk after all the action has been done...so i mean, wait it out and get to know him more...and when the time finally comes...you will know and feel the love...good luck and dont worry...dont be pressured or stress about it!!!
2007-10-11 18:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by <3 Is It You <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your virginity for someone who loves you. Don't have sex with someone who just cares about you. Make sure it's love. And not only should you love him but he should love you. Too many young ladies have sex with men they love, knowing the man doesn't love them. Good Luck
2007-10-11 18:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, yeah.
When you're that young, it's really difficult to hold out. And those who have had two can't wait for three or more.
It's a judgment call on how you go. Most people mate like jackrabbits for a period of their life until they find out how much more powerful real love and real sex can be.
2007-10-11 18:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by SirEddieCook 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the 2nd largest reason for the breakup of relationships. Money is the first
2007-10-11 18:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it should only be used for someone you love (marriage actually). Society nowdays tells you that casual sex is okay, but are you really going to let hollywood tell you what's right & wrong?
2007-10-11 18:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by music_love84 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋