So I have this little problem, it seems when I have sex I take a bit of time to blow my load. I have actaully only orgasmed a few times, most of the time I just go and go until the girl oragsms, or gets tired, or I get cramps. One of my friends said it is not a bad problem to have, some girls actaully would like that I cant go off earlier. I am just wondering why it takes so long for me to go off, is there any way I can make it shorter?
Any advice would be helpful...thanks
2007-10-11 18:01:01 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record, I am straight, I do get attracted sexually to girls, so my orientation or is not the problem.
2007-10-11 18:06:08 · update #1
now, im guessing that you have this problem fully during intercourse. let me ask you something?--do you blow your load a lot faster after a decent ********...if YES, then clearly the tip of your penis needs more stimulation instead of the shaft. you may then want to try pulling out and going in a lot during intercourse and rubbing your tip against her clit to help you both along. Is there anything that instantly gets you fully aroused that you NEED to see/do/have that will make it a better experience. I knew a guy who couldn't get off if the girl he was with didn't wear a garter, so maybe you need to incorporate a little more fantasy into your little romps. anyways, those are a few things you could do.
2007-10-11 18:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by Nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that needs to be discussed with your doctor. There may be an obstruction or a medical condition that can be corrected.
By the way, not all women like it to take a long time. I can't stand for a guy to go too long. It does not take me long to have an orgasm, and I get sore if he takes too long.
2007-10-12 01:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who has the same problem. I concluded that he has a fear of getting her pregnant....
Oh, and just to clarify...Not every girl wants a guy who will last forever in bed. We get tired, too!!!
But your case could be that the condom is desensitizing you. My boyfriend can't always get off when he wears one, so I give him oral to finish him...
Do you have the same problem during masturbation? Just explore different positions and foreplay. Maybe, it's anxiety...Only you know.
2007-10-12 01:09:41 · answer #3 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a girl its true, we do like it when a guy last longer and to help with your problem most guys who have that problem need to try wacking off more often it gets the *** flowing and it produces faster.
2007-10-12 01:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by Joanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! THATS A FIRST! A GUY WHO WANTS TO LAST SHORTER!...well my friend its one of two things, either you have a a narrow eurethra! or you just havnt found sex all that exciting, oh and im not 100% sure on my answer so my advice would be to seek a doctor.
2007-10-12 01:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by DJRULO_07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I dont think that is an issue...its better than the other way around. But, its all pyschological, try a sex therapist.
2007-10-12 01:06:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a problem at all. I wouldn't worry about it. Sometimes with age or a lot of sex, it will hell you get off easier.
2007-10-12 01:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by Hitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm sounds like the little soldier needs a lot more thumpin' before it starts pumpin'. I do find though, that if I tickle my asshole just before I unleash the dog of war...
2007-10-12 01:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly.... foreplay can help.
its a "state of arousal" thing
try more foreplay before doing the deed 30 minutes is a good round number
2007-10-12 01:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by aragel_dj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to relax. You might try concentrating on a favorite fantasy while having sex. That seems to help me. ;)
2007-10-12 01:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by Lost Leo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋