My girlfriend has a fantasy of watching me have sex with another girl. Is she testing me or is she for real?

Question

What should I do?

Answer 1

if shes for real kick that ho to a crub. IF she REALLY LOVED YOU. she would not want to share you with any one else.

odds are shes testing you.
but if she isbeing serious. she really doesnt love you.

Answer 2

It really could go either way. It depends on the type of girl she is, and what kind of relationship you share. Is she self conscious and jealous, or is she secure with herself and prefers kinkier activities in the bedroom? Some women are comfortable sharing their guy, and it could very well be a fantasy she's interested in acting out. However, this could lead to trust issues later, and possibly her regretting the decision to include a 3rd party, or being resentful toward you. It could also be a test as you mentioned, so be sure to keep the lines of communication open as that is the only real way to find out what her real reason for bringing this up is.

Answer 3

Keep it a fantasy unless you are both VERY secure in your relationship. Have fun with the thought, but it's probably better to keep it with her, if you really care about her. It's ok to have fantasies with each other, but to follow through with it will almost always ruin your relationship. I know. I know. Our other brain says, 'go for it dude!'.

Now if you know the relationship probably won't last a long time and you probably won't ever marry her, I say you better not miss out on the opportunity. It may never come along again.

I know a lot of women on here will come down on me for saying that, but guys have got to stick together.

Answer 4

Could be both. She may be for real but it's still a test. Tell her it's best to leave it as a fantasy. Have her pretend to be another girl!

Answer 5

It depends on what kind of girl your girlfriend is. Also, you should think about how this would effect the relationship if you choose to go through with it. I don't know how old you are but you should also ask yourself if this is the kind of "quality" girl you should be with. On another note, if she's a jealous kind of person, then I can assure you that she is testing you.

Answer 6

I think she is probably testing you...just to see how you would react to that proposal. But, maybe at the same time she has a curiosity of seeing what it would be like to see you with another girl. I guess you would have to talk to her and ask her the real reason she is asking you. But, I would be honest with her either way. Good luck!

Answer 7

that's is the classic double edge sword
it's very much like the "am i fat?" question
both of you know the answer
but no matter how you answer you are screwed
if you tell her the truth, she hates you for being insensitive
if you lie, she knows it and hates you for being deceptive

so if you admit you like to have sex with the other girls she'll accuse you of having cheating tendencies or that you desire other women and not her
if you say you do not want to partake, she'll figure you are lying ( or gay ) and now will look for the time and opportunity to have sex at random with strange women as no straight man would pass that opportunity up

Answer 8

We all have fantasies, she should be happy with you, however if you are also interested then ask how serious she is. Also ask yourself could you handle it if it progressed and she wanted another male with her while you watch. This is very dangerous grounds in a relationship could yours handle it.

Answer 9

YES! It's definitely a test. Somethings are better left fantasies.

Answer 10

Don't do it. You will never have her trust again. That is a male fantasy. She may be testing you to see if you want to have sex with someone else.

Answer 11

Being a male, I can say that nobody here knows your girlfriend well enough to answer this question with complete accuracy. However I think you'd be a fool to take her up on it, it's probably a trap.

On the other hand, if you consider her to be disposable (just in case), it may be worth a shot.