Actually, I'm not sure why he's doing it. But my bf's 7 year old is telling the adults in his life untrue things about eachother, or emphasizing/exaggerating the negative. He tells his mother that my bf doesn't "spend any time with him" Completely untrue, from teh time he gets off work till bedtime, he spends all his time with him playing games, helping with homework, etc. He also has told her we don't feed him. Of course, we do, and he gets snacks and second helpings of meals whenever he wants. He says his Dad never "let's him get any exercise." Quite the opposite, his dad always tries to take him to the park everyday to play around, but we actually have a hard time getting him to do physical things. He told his mother I don't "care for him" and I'm baffled, because I try really hard to make sure he likes me. I take him to movies, cook his favorite meals and treats, tuck him in, hug him all the time, etc.
2007-10-11 16:46:20 · 5 answers · asked by Priscilla B 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He also tells us his mother "doesn't spend any time with him," but naturally, we can't be too certain how much truth is in that now.
So, why is he doing this? What can we do about it?
2007-10-11 16:47:19 · update #1
Hmm...could it really be to get his parents back together? Because it's only very recently that he's thrown me into the equation. For awhile now he's just been telling his mother and father bad things about the other one.
I should add that my bf's begun to suspect that some of the things about his mother might be true. He's found out that she's been frequently leaving him with friends as babysitters for up to 24 hours at a time, more than one day a week. And when he goes to pick him up, she's often sleeping, even at various times during the day. When he asks his son if his mom is feeding him, he points out that she leaves food out for him, but says she "is asleep a lot." But I know the stuff he says about his father is completely untrue, since I live with them. And I do try very hard to make him like me so I'm hurt and surpised to hear that he says I don't like him.
2007-10-11 17:12:45 · update #2
It's simple. He wants to break you guys up and get his parents back together. Most kids that come from a broken home long to see their parents together, and since he is dating you, he feels that he has to try to cause problems. He needs consistent discipline when he lies. You and your b/f need to sit down with his mom and create a method of discipline that he receives in both houses when he lies. Obviously he is being fed or he would get ill. I have 2 step-kids and have been through this, but it is a little different. In my case their mom passed away when they were 5&6 years-old and they had their dad to themselves for 9 years before I met him, but you just have to work together to get through it.
2007-10-11 16:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My kids try this occasionally.
I just agree with them. "Yes, I really hate you. I positively STARVED you at lunchtime, you only had (long list of food), and I'm SUCH a mean mum, I've only taken you to (long list of activities) this week, and the ABUSE! So far today, I've hugged, you, kissed you, helped you with your homework and put away all your clean clothes. Yup, you're right, I'm the WORST MUM EVER."
You might need to modify it a bit, since he's maybe saying it when you're not there - then again, you've found out what he's saying. Do you get on okay with his mum, and does she know what he's like? If so, I would try making a bit of a joke of it with her, "has x told you about all the mean things I did to him THIS time? You know, he was only allowed three helpings of pudding yesterday..." If the adults don't react, he'll soon give it up.
2007-10-12 02:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thank every child does this I thank you and your B/F need to call a meeting with the mother let me and my husband had to do and ask him does your dad feed you. does your mom spend time with you it maybe hard on him. hope this helps
2007-10-11 17:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Melinda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing both sides to get sympathy. honestly both parents need to have a real talk about this to put an end to it
2007-10-11 19:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any attention, positive or negative, unfortunately is what he is looking for, in my opinion. Sorry you have to go through this. :O)
2007-10-11 16:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋