this is the first time in the US for grad school, and i am so lost and confused. i don't seem to do a god job in my coursework, i just keep procrastinating, and i am losing my mind. i terribly miss home, and feel lonely al the time. things are getting harder on me. i hate it, and often times regret leaving home, but i worked so damn hard to get here. please any advice!??
2007-10-11 16:22:18 · 7 answers · asked by JustMe 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
been here for two months now! that should be enough, no? and i can't discuss it with family; it was so hard for them to have me leave. i always lie and say am doing great here!
2007-10-11 16:56:06 · update #1
Try and make some friends. Hang out and have a good time. Also, you can talk to your friends/family back home often.
2007-10-11 16:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in my classes? I just started grad school, too. I grew up in the US, but I have worked with some professors who did not and what they have told me is it really just takes time to adjust. It may take longer for you than for others because you are foreign. I suggest speaking with some foreign professors in your program who earned their degree in the US and asking for advice. They will understand exactly what you are going through and should be happy to help. If there are some international students in your program try talking to them about how you are feeling, too.
Here's my story:
The first time I left my family for school was for undergrad. I was homesick for the entire first year. It was awful--I wanted to go home all the time. I was too far away, though. So, I didn't go home and now, 5 years later, I am totally fine. My body and mind just needed to adjust to being somewhere new and out on my own, and now that it has I am much stronger for it.
2007-10-12 00:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are having problems. You might be experiencing simple homesickness, but if this has been lasting more than a couple of weeks I suspect that you might be developing a more serious mental health problem. I think it would be good to have yourself evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist. It's not unusual for mental health issues to come out when a person is in a new situation. I wish you good health.
2007-10-11 23:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take any chances with your mental health. I suggest you see a school counselor right away and discuss your feelings. You might also let your parents know how you're feeling. You aren't doing yourself any favors by letting yourself hurt, and you aren't really accomplishing what you came for anyway. If things don't get better after talking with a counselor, I would just consider going back home and studying there. It's not worth being miserable. Good luck.
2007-10-11 23:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by NMFlamingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there..I'd guarantee it half of all college students feel this at some point. I know I'm having a hard time...just hang in there and keep your eye on the prize!
2007-10-11 23:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write down the stuff you should do, then write down the stuff you are doing to avoid that stuff. Ask yourself why you are avoiding it? My dad always said the hardest part of studying is opening the book. Just study once, see how you feel.
2007-10-11 23:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by sixgun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
missing your family seems to be a problem..try interacting with other people so that you won't feel lonely
2007-10-11 23:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by Maia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋