I am not sure whether or not to aproach someone about the humiliation I felt, due to what this person did as well as what they said to me in front a group of people. I don't see this person often, but I don't like the way I feel at times in their presents nor can I figure out why they act the way they do toward me. Should I let it go or confront them?
2007-10-11 15:32:06 · 7 answers · asked by happy1 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Because you said you don't like the way you feel when you're around this person, I have a feeling you're not going to be able to let it go.
Speak to them, and tell them calmly-- remember that gives YOU the power!) how you feel; that you thought their behavior was inappropriate, and the fact that they felt the need to try to humiliate you in front of people was obviously a bigger sign of their own immaturity and insecurity.
They may not behave any better in the future but at least you'll
have gotten it off your chest and that's guaranteed to leave you feeling better.
Good luck, and remember
Mean People Suck!
;)
2007-10-11 15:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't see this person often, I would let it go.
However, if the people in the GROUP are people you see on a regular basis, you might talk to them about what happened. Perhaps they have some information or perspective on what happened, or perhaps they're uncomfortable with this person, too.
It's kind of hard to give solid advice one way or the other, though, without knowing whether this happened at work, high school, college, a party, or what, and not knowing much about the other circumstances. Were the people in the group friends of yours? Co-workers? Strangers? How exactly were you humiliated?
In some circumstances, confronting the person who did this to you might backfire. They might get more ammunition to insult you again, or they might be glad they upset you. Or, on the other hand, they might have totally not meant to hurt you at all and thought they were just making a harmless joke. Again, it's hard to say based on what you wrote.
Either way, crummy people aren't worth your time, and I hope you can find a way to let it go and move on. As long as you stew over it, they are still hurting you.
2007-10-12 00:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Torchbug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes all kinds to make the world turn. You will need to learn how handle many kinds. This particular kind of person you have described is a bully and gets their courage from the group. Personally, I would not bother with them. However, if you come in contact with them on a pretty regular basis then yeah, you will need to address this situation. Taking them aside will not work because they will use it against you. Confronting him or her in the crowd will only raise the stakes. I had someone not long ago, do this to me at work. I excused myself from the situation at the time. Afterwards, I went to the supervisor told them the situation and why it was wrong and my feelings. I also told them why I went to them to resolve the issue. The supervisor came back with the person in moments and made her apologize to me in front of her. We continue to see each other in the hallways but every encounter is friendly. I hope this helps you. Good luck.
2007-10-11 22:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not going to see them again let it go. If you are I would confront them. I would ask them why they did that and tell them how you felt. I would not let them do it again. If they do it in front of people do not take it. Speak up then. It will usually embarrass people to be called on it in front of people and they will stop because they don't like how it feels. Good luck.
2007-10-11 23:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhmn, you may look in the details first if this person continuously do this you may ask her but not in front of other people and ask calmly maybe she has something on you or misunderstanding or this person is just by nature is mean. If that's the case ignore it.
2007-10-11 22:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by shibereta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honsestly if it really bothers you, then say something. That is what I do. I may not like having to do this, but I have to let them know because they need to realize that they're morons.
2007-10-11 23:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up and avoid them. And it's presence (not presents).
If you see them again and they repeat the same behavior, get it off your chest and let he/she know how you feel.
2007-10-12 00:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋