Any suggestions on what to do? Please Help!!!!!?

Question

There is this girl I've known for 2 and half years and I don't know why, but she doesn't talk to me that much. You use to talk to me a lot, but she has been acting wierd. I'm a intelligent and not a cocky guy. We're both in 9th grade. The problem is that I'm a shy guy around her and I don't have a high amount of confidence. Also, I have sometimes very low self-esteem. I think she might like another guy and I have been getting heartaches on what to do. I feel like I should either quit our friendship or ask her out. I don't know what to do? When we're both in the on class that I have with her, she seems to stare at me. I can on the tip of my eye, I can see her staring at me or something in my direction since we sit on the opposite side of the room. What should I do? Please Help!!!! Thank you for people who respond to this question. Finally, please no stupid or dumb replys to this question

Answer 1

I use to be awkwardly shy and didn't know what to do with a guy who was staring at me and I secretly liked him. So,,,,,I decided not to look back at him because I didn't know what to do with it when you both stared at each other. I never dated in high school because of my shyness.

Self confidence and self esteem are noticed by others, or lack of. You should like yourself and be confident in who you are. If you aren't, then it is sensed by others. Most like it when a guy is confident in who he is and what he wants, but not cocky.

My suggestion is to look at her as just friends and get to know her as just friends. Ask her out in a just friends way and get to know her slowly. As you get to know her more, you may decide that you do or do not like her more than that. If you do like her for more than that, then you can ask her to date you. It is so much better to become friends first before dating someone. Don't be afraid to be yourself. It will never work if you try to be someone you are not or someone who you think someone else will like. You would be fooling yourself.

I was friends with my current boyfriend for about 2 years before we started to date. We both have the same morals and agree not to let a physical relationship get in the way of getting to know each other. Once you start a physical relationship, emotions can get in the way of really getting to know that person. We have dated for almost a year now and I know that I love my boyfriend. We are older than you and know more of what we want in life and in someone else.

Get to know yourself and love yourself. Be happy with who you are. Once you do this, your confidence will shine for all to see. Be honest and communicate in any relationship you may be in. It is so important to have both. Tell her you want to get to know her as friends more. If you "quit" your relationship just because you think she may like someone else and you are overwhelmed with other thoughts, you might regret it later. If it is meant to be, it will work out. Have a cookout with your family and friends and invite her too. Make sure it is a smaller one so that you can spend more time with her. If you are the host, then you don't have a lot of time to spend with anyone person. Invite her to a movie, although you cannot talk in a movie. Invite her to the park for a good old fashion stroll. Get to know her better by asking her questions. I will pray for your confidence and strength and wisdom. Best wishes to you.

Answer 2

I know this may seem like a life make or break decision to you right now, and I understand that it matters a lot at this point in your life BUT when you get to your 20s you'll look back and see how easily it could be solved... be the man and ask her out, sometimes a girl wants that. She's not talking to you much and there's someone else involved, someone who she might or might not like... question is, what type of relationship have you had with her? Have you been friends, like hanging out outside of school or just hi/bye/how u type of thing where you see each other in school and have some classes together?

If you have had some interaction outside of school, it shouldn't be that hard for you to ask to see her, maybe make some nice but not over the top plans for a Saturday. If you don't really know her at all, then try to get to know her. Start out with simple every-day stuff and go from there.

Be confident and sure about what you're doing, but overall be COOL not pushy and you should be fine whether she wants to hang out with you or not...

Cheers and good luck!

Answer 3

You know this is a really tough situation to be in. You know the reason why she is not talking to you as much as she used to is because she may like you and now things are different for her and she does not know how to talk to you. You know if you guys are friends then you might want to ask her about this other guy, if she likes him or not. You know if you really like her then you should try and let her know slowly. By doing things a special friend might do(sorry that sounded strange) You also need to think about if she does not like you and you put yourself out there is it going to change your friendship, and would you want that? Really think about that before you do anything. Good Luck!

Answer 4

In a situation such as you describe you should neither give up nor should you expose yourself to outright rejection ( "asking her out" ). The middle ground is to engage her in conversation about the class that you share and offer to do something somewhat innocuous but more than nothing such as offer to work on a homework assignment together. You can either offer to help her or ask her to help you. Both ways will work if she has any interest in furthering a friendship. If not, she will politely decline the invitation and you have not jeopardized your dignity at all.

Answer 5

Talk to her directly. Tell her 'I am attracted to you, but I feel kind of shy around you. I don't want to mess up any chance I have for us to be friends by my being shy.' Then shut up and LISTEN. Don't babble. Let her talk, and then all you have to do is respond to what she says. Obviously, you need to pick a time when you are not in the middle of a crowd of people, and not pressed for time. Like NOT between classes. You get the idea. Go for it! Good Luck.

Answer 6

Maybe she doesn't know if you like her either. This is not a stupid answer, just ask her straight out.

You'll feel better knowing one way or the other. The other way of being shy and playing games is torture.

Answer 7

you seem like a pretty cool guy. i mean i would go out with you. I'm in the 9th grade too and i don't talk 2 guys i like as much as i talk 2 the guys i don't like cuz i feel pretty weird around them. my advice is 2 ask her out and get it over with it. lol. good luck

Answer 8

talk to her ...if right vibes then ask her out,if not then just be friends....9th grade is a very hard time between middle an high school....you'll meet many more girls in high school so just be cool about it ...an just let her know you think she is cool

Answer 9

Why don't you write her a letter.Tell her how you feel and ask her to write you back on how she feels.Maybe she is not talking as much because she feels the same way as you do.Good luck

Answer 10

its true u dont want to freak her out by asking her out but u should talk to her more becuase she might think u like her and ur too shy too talk to her becuase u like her and she thinks its wierd
but start talking to her and try making ur frinedship stronger with her and if u want to u can ask her out or maybe she might have a crush on u but she doesnt no if she does u no it , u no wat im saying
so try to be greater friends with her and when the time comes ask her out
hope i helped