About a year ago I was rude to a blind woman (I KNOW SO HORRIBLE!) she was saying "excuse me" over and over in the street so I went up to help her and she got really angry. So I said "then stop standing there yelling excuse me" and walked away. The guilt is unbearable. What a horrible horrible dispicable thing to do. I've tried to find her but I havent been able to. I just want to apologize so badly. That poor woman. It makes me sick just thinking about it. I don't even know what to do anymore.
Thats all - and it's so so so bad. Oh god I wished I'd just kept my mouth shut! I'm not asking for someone to alieviate my guilt I just need a suggestion as what to do. I think about it all the time.
2007-10-11 14:53:21 · 11 answers · asked by M K 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just let it go... it happened over a year ago, I doubt she even remembers the incident. I'm sure she's had way worse said to her. She was being rude, you reacted on instinct. You are way too kind of a person and need to stop overanalyzing things.
2007-10-11 14:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Grumble 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are so bothered by this. You don't know the woman, so you can't apologize directly to her. In this case, the best you can do is pray to God and ask forgiveness from him, and then live your life trying not to do anything similar again.
If you find that you are repeatedly plagued by unnecessarily strong feelings of guilt, you might also decide to see a psychologist or psychiatrist, who can evaluate you for a disorder like an anxiety disorder.
2007-10-11 15:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who is blind...(Me!)
It seems to me that you are especially guilty because you snapped at a blind women, but think about it. If any sighted (not blind) person was standing in the street shouting "excuse me!" over and over, and when you tried to help they decided to snap at you instead of accepting your help, or telling you they didn't need it in a calm way, what would you have done? I can guess. You probably would have reacted in the same way and not felt an ounce of guilt because that person wasn't blind or disabled in any other way.
I'm blind. I can't drive a car. I use a cane. I read audio books and have screen reading software on my computer.......And EVEN I would have snapped at that women out of pure frustration. Being disabled does not make you ultra sensative like so many people seem to think it does. And it doesn't mean that your life sucks and people should be extra nice to you to compensate for it. And it doesn't, doesn't, doesn't give you the right to be rude to anyone trying to help you when it clearly sounds like you're asking for help. If she wasn't asking for help, and was saying excuse me for some other reason, then she should have made that clear.
Anyway, I know you weren't looking for someone to tell you not to feel guilty, but really man, get over it. I bet my four senses that she doesn't even remember you, let alone what you said to her.
2007-10-11 17:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by i_come_from_under_the_hill 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
ive been through this kind of thing before. when it was me, it had to do with stress, you just need to kinda calm yourself down a bit, and since your realizing that what your doing is wrong, its time to now take action on it. even though its going to be hard, when someone(like your mom) walks in, or is talking to you and all you want to do is scream and yell at her, just stop yourself. just let the calm words come out of you and say something nice. and then when your alone take it out on your pillow or a wall if you really have to. dont be abusive to yourself though. i know that everything is just bothering you, but you really need to tell someone about all the guilt your having, and you will feel better sooner or later. i hope this helps a bit.
2016-05-22 00:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by aline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently blind people have to be treated differently in that you should let them take the initiative. If your intentions were good then that is what counts.It´s water under the bridge. Learn from your experiences and move on.
2007-10-11 15:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a moment i thought she was an angel becuase you said you couldnt find her, but i thought, angels wouldnt seem to have a snotty attitude. its best to keep your words to yourself even if the handicap are mean, becuase they already have alot to bare. if you feel bad then you are a horrible person becuase it is affecting you even after a year.
if it makes you feel better i did something long ago when i was little and it sickens me when i think about all the time, email me if you want to know, but i think you should just let it go. dont dwell on it.
2007-10-11 15:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a living amends. you cant say your sorry to her, because you cant find her right? then just make it up to her by never doing that to someone again. or helping someone out next time the situation warrants it instead of flying off the handle.
dont feel too bad tho, we all have had those moments. i am sure you are still a good person.
2007-10-11 14:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by dianna_lenger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
feels bad doesn't it........its called a conscious ....just imagine what she felt like after you acted like an a$$ to her......its a good thing that you at least are having some remorse for your actions.....other people wouldn't even think twice.....and continue to be unkind hateful people.....what you can do is have a little more consideration for others here on out.....and you shouldn't get over it .....because it's what going to prevent you from doing it again....
2007-10-11 15:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all make that mistake she was prolly trying to ask a question instead on needing someone to guide her,best you can do is tell your self that you learned from it an next time ask someone if they would like some help. your quilt will fade away in do time
2007-10-11 15:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once i was a cashier at Safeway and we had this blind woman who stood out on the corner of our parking lot everyday and i always tried to be nice to her... she was always asking for change to help for her glasses so i went and tried to help her buy glasses.... and we went to the optometrist and he took me aside and told me that she didn't need glasses. and it broke my heart. people who live on the streets that beg for attention normally don't deserve it. if you need help that bad, you are probably out doing it for yourself, not relying on other people. I'm not trying to put down poor people but we have nothing but scum bags in our city. or so it seems
2007-10-11 15:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Darci420 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋