My daughter has been going out with a freshman in highschool she is in the 10th grade their relationship is rocky sometimes he won't even call her when they do talk he don't talk to her for long she likes him alot but is hurting because everytime she sees him at school he is with another girl and at school he won't talk to her she asked him why he said he don't know what to say to her they have been dating for 9 days I say she should end it what do you guys think?
2007-10-11 14:43:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She tells me everything thats how I know the details but I don't want to seem like I am controlling her maybe she just got to learn
2007-10-11 15:03:07 · update #1
While I agree with you that she should end it with him, I suspect it is easier said than done.This is , I believe, a classic example of first love or at least puppy love. They impact the most and cause the worst pain no matter how young the romance is( 9 days in this case).Hence,I am going to ask you to do something very difficult and painful for both you and your daughter.Let her handle it any way she chooses. She may cry, and be in pain because it is not going her way or going well.Be supportive and hold her hand and comfort and console her and listen.In this manner, she will learn faster about romance, the pleasures,and also the pain that comes with it.She will also learn that it is not the end of the world, that you can find love and romance again and maybe even get a better guy. She will develop the skills and savvy to handle matters of the heart from now on. You could of course ask her to end it, but she will not listen, and think you a mean mother who does not love her and she will defend him.If you allow her to resolve it her way ,she will soon lose all interest in him as she discovers a new guy.
2007-10-11 15:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i think they shud both end this relationship because some time it might b an infatuation.......test it if ur daughter is with somebody else n if she is happy with other guy then it is an infatuation .a true loer is that wen u remeber the person even wen u r with somebody else.
life is too short for worries so ur daughter should not worry...........if that guy is not serious then just dump him n if he comes after some time then also no need to entertain him .
a person who cannot b with a single person he cannot b with anybody
2007-10-11 21:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ashish Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea u are rite! I dont think you would want ur daughter 2 get hurt emotionaly. We cant make any1 love us and we cant make any1 be with us if they dont want 2. Its better 4 her 2 end it now. But if she really loves him then she should have a "face 2 face" talk about whats goin on.
2007-10-11 21:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are the mother?? They are kids, it will run its course and they don't need you interfering. If your daughter is hurt, give her advice when she asks. It has just been 9 days, they are not exactly picking out wedding china
2007-10-11 21:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Don Drapers woman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think so too. my brother went through the same expirience. they would stop talking for weeks...and in the end he was devastated...two long years on and off... he began to become despressed...wouldnt leave his room...severe depression...at he was only sixteen...thank god hes over this now hes 19 but before it goes to that extent i think she should end it..in the end it will hurt her.
2007-10-11 21:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say end it bcuz it could really hurt ur daughter in the end
2007-10-11 21:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋