I knew a guy in school 23 years ago. Spoken to him just 4 times since then when we happen to accidentally bump into each other. He's essentially a total stranger to me. A week ago I get an email from his wife, who I know even less, and she's invited me and my wife to come to a babshower. And, by the way, please visit our gift registry, Paypal accepted. Curious as to their needs, I surf over and see the first item on their wish list is a $400 pair of silver baby spoons. Anyway ... I reply and say we're unable to attend the wedding and wish them all the best, etc. I receive a reply today. They're "so deeply sorry we're unable to attend. Your presence will be truly missed. Even though you can't be here, the best way to share the wonderful journey of life with us would be to visit our registry. Our live-in nurse will have to change a lot of diapers..." Should I fork out for some expensive gift or ignore the money grubber?
2007-10-11 13:56:44 · 7 answers · asked by lojucr 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Exactly why do you think you owe these rude people a gift?
And is it a wedding or a baby shower?
2007-10-11 15:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They keep asking you to visit their registry? Well I think you should do that and make a list of a few of the really expensive things on there. Then buy a card and put a note in it that you visited the site and thought the so and so was lovely and the whatever was charming etc... sign your name and send. That will tell them you visited and didn't purchase and have no intention of purchasing. As forward as these people are I'm surprised they didn't tell you what to buy!
2007-10-11 14:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by ilufthemountains 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?! Ignore him. He talked to you 4 times in 23 years? How important in your life is a friend like that?
2007-10-11 14:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mybal Zitch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't come to the party, you're not obligated to get a gift. Being so obvious about asking for gifts is a huge etiquette violation, and, like you said, it comes across as money-grubbing.
2007-10-11 14:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Send a box of diapers......and maybe they'll get the not so subtle message !.
2007-10-11 14:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by maharg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, fork over nothing except your absence from these people.
2007-10-11 14:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very tacky and I would ignore it.
2007-10-11 17:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋