Lost Faith in everyone and everything...?

Question

I dont even know where to begin, umm im 22 yrs old and i have a 6 yr old son. i got prego at 15 kept the baby was with his father till i was 20 then we got married. a yr later i started an online affair thinking its what i wanted. It wasnt but i know being with my husband wasnt what i wanted so i left. I wanted to take my son but i know that he is better with his father finacially. But i see him when ever i want. I met someone else and im dating him and i care so much about him but i am still talking to my internet affair, and i have met my internet affair in person and he wants to be with me permantly but i dont want to leave my bf, however internet affair doesnt know that. Im thousands of dollars in debt, I feel like my parents dont support anything i do. Ive tried to go to church (christian) but when im in the church i get this sicking feeling in my stomach like i dont belong there.. Someone Help Me (NO A**HOLE REPLIES!!!

Answer 1

I would continue to date the man you are seeing now, stay around where the baby is with his father and leave the internet guy alone. Why ruin 2 relationships with this internet fellow? If the internet guy is the one, then be with him and drop the guy you are dating now but not knowing anymore than what you have written here, I don't know if he (internet buy) is a sleaze or not-something doesn't sound right-for one thing, he knew you were married. As for as church goes, you need it now more than ever. There is only one sin that is unpardonable and that is blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, Matt. 12:31. Remember who Jesus hung out with? The sinners! Church is for sinners just like a hospital is for the sick. Every single person you see in church is a sinner too. I am too.

Answer 2

Getting a feeling in your stomach like that could be because you have not made up your mind that you want to live your life God's way. It isn't in God's will for a person to divorce their spouse and go around flirting with other people while they have a boyfriend.

I'm sorry if that sounds like I'm being a jerk, but I'm just telling you what the Bible says and trying to help you see things through God's eyes.

If you really want your life to get better you should maybe talk to a Pastor at the church. Get some counsel from a competent and caring man of God and be willing to take his advice. From what little I can tell about your situation it seems like you should reconcile with your husband and start going to church and living your life God's way.

Answer 3

Gail....do you have a trusted friend or relative that has some wisdom, that you could go to for advise? Having someone to talk to in person will help you sort things out. As for me, it is hard to give advice about the two boyfriends without knowing more about them.

And I'm not sure it's even really about them. You are searching for something and you probably feel like there is no solid ground under your feet!

You might try just slowing down on finding a relationship until you know for sure what YOU want out of life. Instead of looking for love from someone else, work on loving and caring for yourself and your life.

Working out your problems with finances and anything else that's troubling you will make you ready to give love to the right person when he comes along. I know this answer isn't going to fix things for you and I wish I could do more. But I am sending you good thoughts and prayers ... Blessings!

Answer 4

Maybe you need to find a mental health professional and seek secular counseling. If you don't want to use your parents' insurance, try to find a low-cost mental health clinic. And go to a Planned Parenthood or some other clinic to get yourself tested for any and all STIs (HIV is not the only infection to which you are vulnerable). Doing so will give you great peace of mind. And don't ever have unprotected sex again. You should consider going to back to college and look for a school in a progressive town, if onlyl to get you away from an environment that seems very toxic for you. And check out "It Gets Better" on YouTube. I know my advice is largely secular, but you don't need religion to be happy.

Answer 5

There was a woman at the well at noon...everyone else went to the well in the early morning while it was cool. She must have been an outcast among her people the Samaritans. Samaritans were halfbreed Hebrew/Gentiles and the Hebrews did not want to be anywhere near them. They were the scum of the earth.

A Hebrew man approached the woman and asked her to draw him some water. The only reason a Hebrew man would approach a Samaritan woman at the well would be to get laid. The woman was very suspicious and asked..."How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a Samaritan woman?"

As they talked some more she realized that he was not coming on to her because he started to discuss God and living water. I am sure that she thought it was odd for a Hebrew to discuss God with her since she was a heathen. She even asked the odd man where she could get the living water to thirst no more. I am sure she must have thought this was very strange.

Then the man asked the woman to go and fetch her husband so they could talk some more. She replied, "I have no husband." Then the man said, "You have well said, 'I have no husband,' for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband; in that you spoke truly."

Now the woman is blown away because this man knows everything she has ever done. He says more to her..."Woman, believe Me, the hour is coming when you will neither on this mountain, nor in Jerusalem, worship the Father. You worship what you do not know; we know what we worship, for salvation is of the Jews. But the hour is coming, and now is, when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth; for the Father is seeking such to worship Him. God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth."

You see, the woman had spoken the truth about her situation...she had no husband. Now she is amazed..she thinks this man is a prophet. She declares boldly, "I know that Messiah is coming" Then He replies, "I who speak to you am He."

Well she leaves her pots and runs back to town...meanwhile the man's followers were returning and saw him speaking to the woman and they were worried about why their leader would be spending time talking to a Samaritan "whore".

After some back and forth, the man spoke directly to the situation at hand. He said bluntly, "My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me, and to finish His work. Do you not say, 'There are still four months and then comes the harvest'? Behold, I say to you, lift up your eyes and look at the fields, for they are already white for harvest! And he who reaps receives wages, and gathers fruit for eternal life, that both he who sows and he who reaps may rejoice together. For in this the saying is true: 'One sows and another reaps.' I sent you to reap that for which you have not labored; others have labored, and you have entered into their labors."

You see, the woman was the sower, Jesus is the reaper, and the disciples will enjoy their work even though they have done nothing because they don't think the field is ready.

You are ready. Jesus can use you to sow seeds for the kingdom. Stop right now trying to figure God and Christ out and call out from the desire that is in your heart that is evident from your confession and say, " Is there a place for me iin your Kingdom?"

He will answer because you know that you cannot do this on your own and you truly desire to know Christ.

Later, after the woman had somehow convinced the whole town to come and hear Jesus a man gave testimony. He said to the woman, "Now we believe, not because of what you said, for we ourselves have heard Him and we know that this is indeed the Christ, the Savior of the world."

My words to you cannot save you. But Jesus wants desparately to reveal Himself to you. I would be full of joy if you were to tell me, "Now I believe, not because of what you wrote, but because I have heard Him and seen Him and I know that Jesus is the Christ, the Savior of the world."

My heart is with you.

Christ's love,
agapefromnc

Answer 6

Hi Gail~

so sorry about the feeling in your stomach. Yes, I've been there and I know the feeling.

It sounds to me like you need a loving, supportive community right now - no one single person is strong enough to carry all of your needs for love if you've been deprived by your parents.

Keep changing churches until you find one where you can find good home groups with other single parents. Your local newspaper should have the listings. Or pray to God that He reveals where you should be.

I also highly recommend this video sharing site - it has a lot of inspiring faith stories that might encourage you: www.yaaway.com. Blessings! and I will pray for you

Answer 7

You have gotten off track and you need to find your way back on. I would start by seeing a therapist. There are many Community Mental Health facilities that will see you on a sliding scale fee. Go and talk to someone. Also I would get out of these toxic relationships and focus solely on you and your son. Before you permanently bring someone into your life, deal with yourself and your problems first. You and your son will be better for it. Peace and blessings to you.

Answer 8

Wow - Kiddo... Take a breath, Caution should be exercised in who's advise you take, Try to think from a perspective that is above the waist line, It's possible that your parents are dying to tell you their opinion, But, they have figured out that only experience will teach you now and hope that your foundation they help give will carry you through this period of your life that you are in, and finally this is your world and you have a great deal more control over your options than you currently are willing to believe.

Answer 9

You need a reality check. Hard to believe that your parents don't support your reckless choices and unfaithfulnesses. You are on cruise control that is set on pleasing yourself, and to heck with anyone else. You are crashing into your limited budget, and have amassed a whale of debt. You are unfaithful to your husband and are two timing your boyfriends. You are both unfaithful and deceptive, and if the truth were told, you lie like a dog. No wonder you feel sick in church and would feel better in a cesspool. In the cesspool you don't have to admit your misdeeds. There is no help for you without you coming clean with your deeds. It is never pleasant putting the search light on our own deeds and motives, but it is necessary.

Answer 10

You need to cry out to God and ask Him to forgive you of everything you have ever done wrong. I hope you will take the next step and accept the free gift of salvation through Jesus Christ. Just ask Jesus to come into your heart as your personal savior. A relationship with the Lord is what you need. Read some scriptures in Psalms and Proverbs daily. I hope you will try an Assembly Of God church, a non denominational church, a Church Of God church-Cleveland or a Pentecostal Holiness church this coming Sunday morning. Don't waste your time going to a boring church, go to one with life. If you see one having revival, go to it. Jesus is the answer to your problems. God loves you.