My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now. Last night he asked me about a party him and I went to, BEFORE we were even going out which was over a year ago, and if I had done anything with his friend. I told him that I did. He broke up with me. I love him, I would do anything for him. I can't lose him. I have been crying on and off for the last 24 hours, sudden splurges during class and everything. I have tried talking to him, and I know that he loves me too. But he said he isn't gonna take me back.
2007-10-11 12:22:53 · 11 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well im gonna say somthing here that it may not be what you want to hear but here it goes:
Depending on what you did with one of his friends (BJ, HJ, Sex) its gonna hurt him not to mention that it was probally prettiy whorish of you to do that and he dosent want to feel like hes going out with a hoe that will put out to anyone. It dosent sound like your to old from the way your talking so you doing what you did with this guy makes it seem like what you had with him wasnt special at all. It was just another guy, I know if i was in his position i would have probally broke up with you too but on impulse not on actual hate. You need to apolgize, tell him what you have is truely special and that before him you didnt know what real love felt like or sumthing like tht
hope it helps
2007-10-11 12:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Conan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite frankly I believe your boyfriend is just using this year old incident as a ploy to break up with you.Think about this:1)he was at this same party as you 2) you were not a couple so you were free to do anything you wanted with whom ever you chose. Can he claim he has not slept with anybody in a year regardless of whether you knew that person or not3)it happened a year ago before you both even decided to start dating and was not somethingyou did to cheat on him or hurt him4) if it bothered him that you slept with that guy, he had one year to let you know,he could have not started to date you,and left you alone.5)If he truly loves you, he can not break up with you over something that happened before you were a couple unless he is also willing for you to be able to criticize him or challenge him over things he did before you started to date him.There can not be a double standard in a romance. While I know that you are in a lot of pain and distress because you love him and all you want is to get back together with him, don't allow it to be under situations like this. Let us say he agrees to "take you back", then he could tomorrow say you did something else in your past that he does not like, and so he is going to break up with you again. Where and when does it stop? I sympathize with your dilemma and extreme pain but I want you to love your self more and respect your self more and care for your self more. If you don't ,no one else will.Please this is not the only guy in the world and in a lot of ways, his behavior now makes him not very desirable; even if you don't get back with him, you will still have your pride and self respect. I wish you all the best and please let me know how things work out .
2007-10-11 13:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts, either sex, to be rejected, but it sounds as if he just doesn't want to be with you anymore, & nothing you can say or do will change that. You need to sat up, get your bearings, & move on. Why should a man buy a cow, if he can get the milk free? That's an old saying, which I think has a lot of meaning. Don't let the guy run back & forths with you, either, or he'll still get free milk, & you will still be asking this ?
2007-10-11 12:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by srbyn1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was something that you did before you got together then I don't think that that had anything to do with the reason that he broke up with you. He is probably just using that as an excuse for him breaking up with you. He may have been looking for a way to get out of the relationship and that was his easiest. As hard as it may seem, if he doesn't want to be with you, then you shouldn't want to be with him. Find someone who will love and care for you just as much as you do for them. Good luck!!!
2007-10-11 12:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's really tough, I'm sorry to hear that. Good on you for telling the truth though. I would say he's just feeling a bit bruised/embarrassed by what happened with you and his friend, maybe after some time to cool down he'll come back. Good luck.
2007-10-11 12:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you, he won't have reacted like that. The past is over, it can't be changed. If he can't get over something you did before you where dating that had nothing to do with him, your better off finding someone who can. Your better than that.
2007-10-11 12:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Derek 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its stupid to hold somehting that happened b4 yall were together against you. things happen. he needs to be a man and take it. its done and over. he needs to leave it alone. you need to talk to him and get some sense in his head. its hard to find someone u can trust and be with and to let somehting like this mess it up is wrong.
2007-10-11 12:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Cole.Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be unable to speak somebody into desirous to be with you. If he needs to be purely buddies issues would be ending on solid words and if his thoughts ever replace he's familiar with the place you're. in the mean time meet another men and placed him on the returned burner! solid luck!
2016-12-18 05:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly theres nothing you can do cause he asked and you answered. hes not man enough to handle you being with his friend a year ago. its his fault not yours. nothing more i can really say , sorry.
gl & peace!
2007-10-11 12:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over him you diserve better.
go hicks from the sticks!!!
2007-10-11 12:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Charity S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋