My 6th grader in in volley ball and I told her that if VB got in the way of school work, then she would not be able to play.Well I found out she is hiding her homework or not bringing it home and rushing to get it done before school or between classes. They have block schedule so homework is always due at 2 days later than assigned, giving plenty of time to complete it.
I decided to not let her play in the game Wed because work she got Fri and Mon was not done. Does anyone agree with me. I told her she can earn VB back if she gets her work done next week.
2007-10-11 10:52:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do help her with her home work when she needs it. She has from 3:45 when she gets home until 5:45 to get it done before practice or game. In our High School the rules of playing in sports are that grades are above a C average. I am only tryin to get her used to thoae rules. She gets plenty of exercise without VB and just stands in one spot on the court anyway. Yes I want to encourage her to do what she is interested in, but not at the sacrifice of school work.
2007-10-11 11:24:37 · update #1
We (my hubby, numerous counselors and I ) have been trying to teach her to make good choices for 6 years and she has yet to learn. Believe me, we have tried everything.
2007-10-11 11:27:29 · update #2
1] If the deal is, homework must be complete before she can practice or play VB, then you were correct.
2] If the rule was homework must be submitted on time, that is not the same.
3] don't forget to consider how grades are affected.
Set up clear guidelines, and a written contract.
a] HW must be completed within ___ time. [ day assigned, or day due. ]
b] grades must remain above__.__.
c] any chores, etc [ other responsibilities ] must be completed on day assigned.
I am so glad you are teaching consequences to your kid. I told mine they had to have a 3.0 average to get a driver's permit - there are too many stupid drivers already!
[ Worked really well - they both had good averages! ]
I believe children of all ages should earn privileges - cell phone, computer or video game time, curfews, etc.
2007-10-11 11:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could sit her down and do what I did. Explain that you understand she wants to play VB and that you want her too as well, but you also want her to get good grades. So, you have decided to "help" her.
From that point on as soon as she gets home she does homework. You be there to monitor and assist if she needs it then review it when she's done. If you think she will hide it from you, call her teacher and ask what homework if any she has and when she gets home ask her of she has any. If she says no, ask her about the "assignment" but don't tell her how you know. Then explain how negative lies can effect someone...i.e. loss of VB if it happens again.
She'll make the connection soon that to get you have to give.
If you work and can't be there. some simple modifications may be needed, but it's still possible.
2007-10-11 14:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's made a commitment to the team & she's letting them down, then not allowing her to go to volleyball, while it is certainly a punishment for her, is also teaching her that it's OK to blow off her commitments & responsibilities towards others.
Of course, her education is *more important* than volleyball. And it's sounds like she actually enjoys it, too - enough to lie about her homework so that she doesn't have to miss it.
She clearly knows that she's making bad choices, ones that she has to hide from you. Do you think that you could work with her, though, to help her learn how to make good choices that she will be proud of, that will help her to be happy, fulfill her commitments, have fun and show proper respect for her education?
Sit down with her & help her brainstorm different ways that she can create habits that will help her to get her homework done in a stress-free manner & on time. Not only for the sake of doing the homework, but so that she *learns* from it, too. Help her arrange her schedule so that she can handle it all. Help her reassess the situation, honestly, after a week & tweak it, trying different things, until it works.
2007-10-11 11:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to her about it? I spent most of high school doing my homework all at the last minute, except math. Would have been an honor student were it not for the amount of school I missed due to illness (still had an A average).
My brother didn't do his homework and it wasn't until he was in high school that my mother discovered that it was because he couldn't READ.
I'd sit down and talk to her about it before cutting her out of volley ball. Kids don't get enough exercise as it is.
2007-10-11 11:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once she gets home from volleyball sit down with her and make or help her do her homework. When I was in high school I did 2 sports and still managed to make straight A's. The only reason for that is I made goals for myself and my parents helped fueled my drive by offering to help me and they also gave me rewards for getting good grades and achieving my goals. It sounds like your daughter is too much into volleyball and her social status that her homework is slipping. you need to help her get her priorities straightened out and show her what would happen to her if she kept going down the same that she was on.
2007-10-11 11:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Achilles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pull her from VB for the year - give her a designated time to do uninterrupted, observed or supervised homework period. You be the supervisor which wold mean for that period, you are not off on errands or anything else but YOUR time is dedicated to her and homework. that would be discipline - the one game is punishment. discipline is a learned skill.
2007-10-11 11:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by chazzn101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why it matters if she can get it done on time and still get the same grade.
Anyway, I guess that was good because you're showing her who's boss. Next time you warn her about something, she'll be more likely to do what you tell her in the first place.
LOL and don't listen to the guy above me. My dad yells all the time at both me and my mother and we both just blow it off. It's easy to ignore words, but it's impossible to not be affected by action. :P
2007-10-11 10:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a 2 year old son so first I redirect his interest to something he might desire to be doing and that i supply warnings. If warnings and redirection are not getting the job finished then I positioned him in holiday. and now and lower back whilst time outs do no longer do the trick I supply one single spanking on his backside and positioned him in holiday lower back. If i've got faith i'm getting indignant or dropping administration then I positioned him in his room and enable us to the two calm down.
2016-11-08 00:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i kinda do agree yet its kinda unfair that her mistakes has to ruin her teams time. cuz she is in a team they have to practice together to build chemistry and skills.
but in a parents point of view i think its a great idea.
but since i am only 15 i think instead of not leting her play vb take something else away like going out with friends tv stuff that really wont effect others.
plus vb keeps her in shape
2007-10-11 11:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by CUBS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, in my opinion, I think you're right on. I don't think you should be second guessing yourself. Besides, no one else knows your child better than you do. If I were you, I would handle it exactly the same way you are. It's hard to be a parent. These kids don't come with instructions!!!
2007-10-11 14:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by yankeegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋