Why do I constantly feel irritated, alone, and sad?

Question

I'm a 19 y.o college student that lives with her grandparents and brother. My mother passed away when I was 17, after having breast cancer for 8 years. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for just over 4 years. I don't really have any friends that I stay in touch with, because I just feel like putting the effort into making friends. I am easily irritated by people, I tend to overreact over stupid little things (boyfriend not calling or not being able to see me), I constantly feel alone like I have no one to talk to, and I think I cry a lot. On the outside, I feel like I always have to be strong and put a smile on my face, but meanwhile on the inside I feel like I have nothing, like I'm all alone. I started talking to a counselor at my school this week, but I don't think she really understands how I feel. I feel like because I don't hurt myself, she thinks there's nothing wrong, but maybe it's just me. What is going on with me?

I usually feel irritated, alone, and sad at night - most likely because my classes do a good job of keeping me busy during the daytime.

Answer 1

I feel that the death of a parent is not something we get over quickly. My father passed away 12 years ago and there are still times I cry when I think about how much I miss him. Did you ever get any type of counseling when your mother died? That is stressful! And you are fairly new to college I take it...? That is ANOTHER stressful situation! I am not a doctor, but you really should see one. You may need help with depression. The last 10 years have probably been a really hard time for you. Please seek professional help and in the meantime, think about what makes you happy and do something for yourself. Churches usually have group meetings on various topics including recovering from a death in the family. Best wishes to you...feel free to write me at [e-mail] anytime. - Sandy

Answer 2

The answer to your question lies within you. If you can't find an answer #1 seek professional help.

Advice?
#2 You are not alone. A lot of people feel that way. Sometimes we feel no one understand us.
#3 Meditate. Seems as though you are inmerse in academia so grab a book that would help you spiritually.
#4 Excercise. Maybe you think you are not fit and that can help you feel depressed.
#5 Try community service (if it is not going to affect you) and lend a helping hand with those less fortunate. (Yes, there are people less fortunate, trust ME).
#6 Set goals. Don't get mad, get started! Try graduating as a Valedictorian, learn a new language, save money to travel the world, learn a new sport, write a book, start a chat room, international facebook.
#7 Take a break. You may be pushing yourself too far. Again, I don't know the answer. It is okay to feel depressed, everynow and then.
#8 Enjoy life. There are many ways to spend a day, not one on how to recoup it.
#9 Fool yourself. Tell yourself you are the greatest! Preferably in front of a mirror (as corny as it may sound, JUST DO IT!) Your subconscious mind won't be able to tell the difference and in a short time you will feel better, not a 100% but, hey, it is a start.
#10 Repeat all of the above.
#11 Thank God for who you are, what you have gone through and ask Him to HELP!
#12 Go to a secluded place and SCREAM, SCREAM and SCREAM. Let it all out. Your lungs will clear up and you won't get upset so easily...
#13 Get in contact with nature, play with a dog. The animals would not understand you but itheywould enterntain you and would offer you unconditional love.

DONT DO:

Anything that you be deterrant to your health and/or well-being.
Nothing illegal, inmoral or stupid.

Could it be it is lack of vitamins or some minerals?

Answer 3

While I am not a mental health professional, I do recognize the symptoms of depression. From what you've written, it sounds like you might be experiencing some of the symptoms.

From WebMD.com................

What Are the Symptoms of Depression? These are some of the signs and symptoms of depression that you should be aware of:

Sadness
Loss of enjoyment from things that were once pleasurable
Loss of energy
Feelings of hopelessness or worthlessness
Difficulty concentrating
Difficulty making decisions
Insomnia or excessive sleep
Stomachache and digestive problems
Sexual problems (for example, decreased sex drive)
Aches and pains (such as recurrent headaches)
A change in appetite causing weight loss or gain
Thoughts of death, suicide, or self-mutilation
Self-mutilation or attempting suicide

What Factors Can Trigger Depression?
Grief (loss of a loved one through death, divorce, or separation).
Interpersonal disputes (conflict with a significant other or a superior; physical, sexual, or emotional abuse).
Role transitions (moving, graduation, job change, retirement).
Interpersonal deficits (leading to social isolation or feelings of being deprived).
Not everyone has a trigger for a depressive episode

You owe it to yourself to do some personal work (i.e. therapy) to get to the source of your feelings and emotional issues. Perhaps you've never been allowed to go through the "entire" process of grieving the loss of your mother, her illness and how it TRULY affected your life. You were just a little girl and your mother was "taken" from you in so many ways....long before she passed away.

I am proud of you for talking about your feelings. It is a difficult process dealing with depression at times. However, you owe it to yourself & your mother to live life to the fullest, to live the life she could not and to live the life that she probably would've wanted for you. She would have wanted you to have only the best. You deserve only the best.

Please take the time to seek help. Don't stop until you find an advocate for your mental health. Stay strong. Be well.

Answer 4

You should ask the counselor if they can recommend a physiologist or look in the phone book or Internet under family crisis centers for affordable help. We all grieve differently and it sounds like people leaving you or not being there is making you hyper sensitive most likely stemming from the lose of you mom. Talk, let it out and don't be afraid to ask for help! College, boyfriend, mom dying are big changes for someone 19.

I hope you feel better
You're not alone sweetie!

Answer 5

You have gone through a lot at this early age.

But stick it out, finish the college.

Be glad that you have grand parents and a brother; get close to them and stay close and count your blessings.

Before going to bed pick up a book to read choose a comedy and read it til you go to sleep(go to sleep). Do some physical activity before going to bed. Go for a short walk, or do some free hand exercises, get a book from library to do them. Time permitting do some extra-curricular activities like debate or sports.

This is a sign of mentally tiered, you need to get physically tiered also.

Read my article on this subject and ruff it out.
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Answer 6

You sound depressed. You should see a psychiatrist so you can be diagnosed and perhaps prescribed something.

Now if you don't want to go that route there are lots of alternative things you could do like: daily meditation or 'calm time' (what i like to call it), regular exercise and adequate sleep. You can also buy 5HTP from the store and take that regularly - it helps with depression symptoms.

I have had to deal with this and one thing I know is that you should do something about it as soon as possible. This is not the way it's meant to be - you could be living your 'real' and happy life soon - don't let inaction stop you from getting that.

Good luck and take care.

Answer 7

#1 You're sad b/c of your lack of friends. Go to events, bookstores, whatever, and meet people.

#2 Exercise regularly. The endorphines are great.

Answer 8

It sounds like you're depressed. Get help from another counselor or a therapist.

Answer 9

It is hard to even picture that a book can assist people to change their fates but } countless guys and women, people that they have actually benefitted in a huge

Answer 10

It sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) but you should have a professional diagnose that.