the night my boyfriend finished me i was out with some of my guy friends. i knew one of them liked me rather alot. and whn they found out that he had finished me they were asking me to kiss him and i really didnt want to ! finially they forced the two of us together and when he kissed me i tried to back off but he had hold of me. i didnt talk all the way home but my ex found out. i still really like my ex and want him back but he told me that he doesnt think we will be together again and im heartbroken how can i make it up to him. ?!
2007-10-11 10:23:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes you cant do anything to fix these kinds of situations.
2007-10-11 10:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't unring a bell, you can't unscramble an egg, and sometimes, in relationships, you can't undo what you've done.
You're hurting, and he's probably hurting, too, but it's not up to you, whether you are ever a couple again. It has to work for *both* of you.
The elements of a proper apology are simple, but if they aren't all there, it's not really an apology.
1. You have to admit wrongdoing. Not "I may have done something that wasn't really wrong, but was interpreted as being wrong". No, it's more like "Boy, did I screw up."
2. You have to confess sincere regret. Not, "I am *so* sorry that you found out about this and it caused you pain." No, it's more like "I should *never* have done that."
3. You have to take action to preclude it happening again. Not "I'll never again do that to you" but "I'm never again going to go out with a bunch of guys if my fella isn't among them."
And I really think you should give him a proper, meaningful, and sincere apology. You shouldn't do it because you think you'll get him back; you won't. You should do it because you owe him an apology, and a person of quality that pays her debts.
Chances are good that you'll bump into your ex- somewhere along the line, perhaps 2 years from now, perhaps 10 years from now, perhaps 40. You want to be able to say "Hi" with a big smile on your face, and get one in return, and to be able to turn to the fella on your arm and say, "Joe, meet Bill. I dated Bill when I was young and stupid, and he was a wonderful guy, and I suspect he's just as wonderful now" and squeeze Joe's arm, and he will smile as well, because Bill brought a smile to your face, and that's important to Joe.
You can never have too many friends, and old friends are the best kind.
2007-10-11 17:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have made poor choices in regards to friendships!! By doing so, you put yourself in a position of being victimized and you REALLY are fortunate you were not raped.
You can tell your former boyfriend that you intend to make better choices in friends, but, he may have broken up with you because of your irresponsible behavior realizing you are not a good prospect for a serious relationship.
I am not trying to be hard on you, but, you do sound young and thoughtless and I am very concerned about your future safety. Live with dignity and hold your head high. Make friends with people of good character. I wish you a good life.
2007-10-11 17:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he finished it with you then you need to move on. You will be heartbroken but not forever.. give it a few weeks you'll be fine again. Just spend plenty of time with friends and they will help you get over him.. it's not worth it if you have to work to get him back.. he finished it, he said you probably wont get back together.. stop wasting your time and find someone worthy of your love. And good luck.
2007-10-11 17:27:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dare Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't only time will tell. Give both yourselves time to heal. Having guy friends like yours who needs enemies? In all fairness to them they probably meant well, but if the other guy who likes you had any sense at all should have been more in tune with you whether you want to be kissed or not. When he forced himself on you whether it is a kiss or not can be considered criminal. Be true to yourself, if you really want to be with your boyfriend, then minimize if not stop hanging out with the other guys.
2007-10-11 17:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mike J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think you need to apologize to him? He dumped you and you no longer have any obligation to him. Just remember that if he dumped you once, it's likely he'll do it again only with less reason the next time. Getting dumped hurts, I know from experience. Just remember that no matter how hopeless things seem, they will get better. It's ok to hurt and feel helpless, but you'll find that after a while you'll be thinking of him less and less. And just remember, if he wasn't smart enough to see what he had in front of him, he didn't deserve you.
2007-10-11 17:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by bikinkawboy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have nothing to apologize for! You didn't want the kiss, you didn't consent to it, and you didn't participate in it. If he can't or won't believe that, give him some time to cool off. And if he insists on being stubborn, maybe that's a sign you need to find somebody new!
2007-10-11 17:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by palabracadabra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might be screwed on this one. But if you really want him back, go all out. Think of anything romantic that he might like and give it a try.
2007-10-11 17:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him u didnt try to kiss him, he kissed u. plus ur boyfriend finished with u, so its not like u r cheating on him or anything.
2007-10-11 17:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sean H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your guy mates or start seeing them less and show your ex you do think of him and want him back show him you care AND SAY SORRY good luck
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2007-10-11 17:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Steven E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are sorry. Give him a few calls crying over the phone. He will come back to you.
2007-10-13 17:40:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋