ok, theres 2 girls. one is suicidal and she likes me, but i dont really like her. then theres a cheerleader that I like (were friends) and i REALLY want to date her but she said that she wouldnt date 1 of her friends...but last night on messenger, i almost broke her . as in she almost said yes. but other times at school she dosent talk 2 me. my question is should i keed chasing the cheerleader or settle for the suicidal???
2007-10-11 09:54:38 · 31 answers · asked by mr.chicken1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
With the cheerleader:
You have to understand that on messenger, it's only half life... the other half is actually being able to be in front of each other and still feel the same as you did. You know you do but does she (feel the same)? You can try to lose the "internet life" and apply all that to real life and see how she reacts. However, don't just start convos off the bat like you're picking off where you left off the other night online, just be her friend. Don't ALWAYS hang around/on her, just be a friend, do nice things, like her firends, ect.. and eventually, you'll know, she'll start warming up to you. Don't be too much of a friend though: too much being overdoing the niceness just so she sees right through you and knows that it's just cause you like her and don't overdo it to an extent that you annoy her. Just casualize it all, and bring the internet life to life (ease it in AFTER you've made better real-life friends)
As for the suicidal one:
ERG! I've been in this situation ALL too many times! It's tough, expecially finding the right balance of being a friend: too much and she'll never stop but too little and that spills a disaster. Just watch your every step, make sure that everything you say to her doesn't end up in the wrong way. She'll move on eventually, just takes time... but in that time, don't shun and don't "just go for her" or over-friend her. It's the best thing to do.... another tip: keep the 2 girls separate from each other through you (don't tell the suicidal one about the cheerleader and vis-versa). Otherwise you'll have one suicidal girl close to the edge and one cheerleader who "thought you liked that other girl".
Best wishes man!
2007-10-11 10:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicidal? If she is actually clinically depressed the worst thing you could do to her is date her because you are "settling" she'll know it, don't you think? She will pick up on the fact that you like this other girl and don't really like her... In the end you are only going to hurt her which put her over the edge. As for the cheerleader, dude she just isn't into you in a romantic way...Trust me, as a woman I know that line about not wanting to date a friend... it's a let you down easy line. If she was really infatuated with you she'd date you, friend or not
2007-10-11 17:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The one that is suicidal before you step into her life you have to make sure you really like her and want her and not play with her feelings that will may affect her and you may end up feeling guilty also someone that is suicidally it is a up and down relationship and will stress you out as for cheerleader she has her hands full and to many friends to pick out for a date i would say neither and find someone new but that's up to you
2007-10-11 17:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by legalizelies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only settle for who you want, which sounds like the cheerleader. But you gotta be good friends with the suicidal girl, she might actually be suicidal if you just blow her off all the time. Show her a lot of respect etc, but don't lead her on.
Go for who you want
good luck
2007-10-11 16:58:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow.... interesting. I'm sort of in this situation right now, except I am the suicidal one and my sister is the "cheerleader". (She isn't even really close to one, but hey) I think that if you really don't like her, then don't go out with her. You'll probably end up making her more suicidal in the long run. Of course....
2007-10-11 16:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither, the cheerleader sounds like she's playing games, as for the suicidal one, don't get involved with someone with serious mental issues. I know it sounds harsh and I have every sympathy for her but I have been with someone similar and it causes nothing but problems, and it brings you down in the end!
2007-10-11 17:01:45 · answer #6 · answered by Keema Balti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be with the person who wants to be with you meaning dont force a relationship if the girl is hesitant like that cheerleader. make sure whoever u go out with is a stable person. i had a suicidal bf before and that relationship was HELL. XD.
2007-10-11 16:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by sophia Grace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, if you really don't like this suicidal, than set her straight and keep chasing the cheer leader, but if you think if you can't keep on chasing the cheerleader, than maybe you can try going out with the suicidal and maybe if you guys start knowing each other more, than you may really like her.
2007-10-11 17:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by SSASSAK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to the suicidal girl give her a reason why it will never happen girls respect honesty the cheerleader sounds like she isnt sure about you quite yet let her think about it more and she can then make a decision in her own time she will appriciate your patience
2007-10-11 16:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don`t mess with the suicidal one. Go with the cheerleader.
2007-10-11 16:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by skunk 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋