What should I do, I have no idea?

Question

OK, so theres this girl, and her names katie. We went out for like 6 months and then we went "on break" she broke up with me after another two, and now after roughly 5 more months she called me back. I really feel that I love her, but after what she did to me (she knew that I loved her) I don't know if I can forgive her. I really would like to go back out with her, but if she does it again I don't know if it would be worth it. SO, what do you people think I should do? Should I try and go after her again or just kinda give up? Theres kinda a lot more too it than that, but thats the general gist of it, what do you think?

Answer 1

Usually things end up about where they ended. So if you don't trust her, you probably never will. And, if you got along okay with out her, you probably will. Some things just die out and you have to let them. She might be lonely or between boyfriends and you will just be a "filler" until she's up on her feet again. Seriously consider if you want to go through all the same stuff again.

Answer 2

Depends on a lot of things, but, love can be very scary! I know when I found my fiance, I was terrified of the feelings I had for him. I had been hurt in the past and that situation didn't even come close to what I feel for my guy. The fact that he meant so much to me also meant that he could hurt me worse than anyone else ever could. I kinda freaked for a short time, then realized how amazing it is to be in love.
Anyway, my advice to you would be to sit down with Katie and get some answers. Why the split? Why is she back now? If her answers don't make you feel at least a little better, don't try again.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

You're young. You both are. At that age it's not easy to give yourself to one person without wondering what others are like. It's a time for experimenting and having fun. You both had the sense to take a break after a few months and that's exactly what you did. She must have feelings for you or she wouldn't want you back. When you say you can't forgive her for what she did to you. What did she do? She had a break to be with other people and to see if her feelings for you were strong. Well, I'll tell you what Babe. They must have been or she wouldn't be back. Accept things for what they are and stop being so bitter and reproachful. Grasp what you have while you can. Take advantage of the situation and, if it doesn't work out, so what. There'll be others but at least you had fun with her whilst it lasted and if you do break up it;'s better now than after you're married. It just means you aren't right for each other if you split. Hell, I had loads of girlfriends and thought each one was THE ONE. Obviously none of them were because I've now been married to my wife for 28 years. What's happening to you is all part of growing up. Life's rich tapestry.

Answer 4

You should be ruled by your heart this time as long as whatever it was that she did was not to terrible. If you feel that you are still in love with her after all this time why not give it another go but if you have been managing for all of these months without her is it really worth the heartache all over again if something happens.Also a relationship should be built on trust and if there is none it wont work. Only you know all of these answers so its ultimately your decision. Good Luck

Answer 5

I think you should sit down and talk to her and let her know exactly how you feel and what she did really hurt you. And that you don't want to go through this again. By her reaction, you can tell if she cares and it if it looks like she does and you are back together..you can be observant and see if her old habits come back and things look like they are on the same road as last time. People do deserve a second chance, but you need to be more observant and look for the signs that tell you, she is going to hurt you again. Good luck.

Answer 6

U could go out on a few dates instead of jumping back into the pan right away. Take your time, see if she is really into you this time or using you when she is between guys. If u aren't sure u love her or u can't forgive her then don't go backwards. Move on and find someone that has respect for u and your feelings.

Answer 7

The past is the past sweetie.If you feel you can give her another chance go for it.But make sure you watch out this around. If you feel like things are going the same old way then cut it off before you get hurt.It sounds like you really want to so just be careful and if she does hurt you again i hope you move on.

Answer 8

In my opinion it would be real nice for you to go back out with her but again she has been acting up on you.
You could give her a new chance and if she misses the point and gives up that her lost and not yours...
I know it hurts and its easily said then done but you can try one more time and then if that don't work you can give someone els a chance...
life is hard and you just have to go from door to door and see exactly who will open the door and let you stay. :-)

luck look

Answer 9

It sounds to me like you have a lot of unresolved issues with this person including the most important one, that of trust. Unless you can work these out with her first, it's not a good idea to walk back into a relationship with her because you would be carrying too much emotional 'baggage' with you and thats never a good start.

Answer 10

sounds like you are being taken for a ride...she knows you dig her, so there for you will always be ther when she is lonely or has nobody new at the moment. trick is, to make her really want you you need to sometimes be "unavailable" or play a little hard to get-nothing drastic and offensive; but say the next time she calls (you don't call her every time, right??) and wants to go out kindly say something to the effect of, "oh, well i would love to but tonight (or whenever she suggests) is not so good how about..(suggest another night) ? see that was easy, you just leave some things to the imaginationa and curiousity will take over and slowly drive her mad. promise. need any more suggestions feel free to ask me. i have tons.. andie.