a guy really likes me and he talks to me a lot but doesnt hug/kiss me or anything. He likes talking to me everyday. He tells me personal stuff he doesnt tell others.
But he is very flirty and confident around other girls.
He told me himself that he is VERY shy.
Please shed some light on this. Im confused.
We are both 24.
2007-10-11 09:13:16 · 14 answers · asked by Autumn 2012 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When you're around the person you like, you're more concious of what's going around you. If he hugs or kisses you, he's worried that you will think something bad about him, like, "eww he has smelly breath". If you care about someone, that person will be scared that he will embarrass himself. So, he will avoid doing anything that might put him in that risk..
Maybe once he gets to know you enough, or feel comfortable doing those things, he will be more open up to it. You can start hugging him, give him a kiss on the cheeks. Just get him to know that you don't mind.
2007-10-11 09:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Nina is here! :D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Well here is my view. It is easy to be flirty and confident with the girls that he doesn't want to be closer too because whatever he says/does doesn't matter because he has no interest in what they think. The most important issue is how is with YOU and he obviously likes you but unfortunately doesn't have the confidence to take things further.
Alchohol is a great lubricant for breaking down barriers. I'm not suggesting you get completely drunk (though that might work too) but you could then suggest that you spend a night sleeping together but not in a sexual way and if he agrees to that you can make the moves then if you want to.
Or you could say that you just need a hug!
2007-10-11 09:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i contemplate whether it has to do with the place you stand with women persons and the place you think of or experience they stand with you. I grew up in a house the place the mummy grow to be no longer interested in raising a kin. She grow to be notably abusive and chilly in the direction of her daughters. as a effect, I continually experience uncomfortable around women persons and not an equivalent. i've got faith no rely how female i glance or how polite and friendly i'm, i'm nevertheless being rejected via that gender. (i'm lady and in my mid 20s) I do locate myself extra relaxed with men because of the fact it won't emotionally subject me in the event that they reject my friendship as plenty if it grow to be a woman peer my age or older. i contemplate whether you have a similar history that leads you to experience that connecting with different women persons is extra challenging.
2016-12-29 05:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by liebro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man is always expected to ask the question. That's scary, because he doesn't know if he will be rejected.
Men go through hell trying to pluck up the courage toask girls out. Wouldn't you be afraid if you were in his shoes? Just give him as much encouragement as you can, without being too obvious. He will eventually do something about it.
2007-10-11 09:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes you a lot and this will make him feel vulnerable. It's a fear of rejection thing. He needs to weigh up whether or not the risk of rejection is worse than the risk of losing out due to inaction.
2007-10-11 09:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Timothy S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he thinks that if he tries a more significant contact and you turn him down you'll be lost to him forever. Try getting him to help you with something neutral and away from other people you know.
If you want something more to happen why hang back yourself?
2007-10-11 09:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL men are afraid of failure,
some admit it,
some don't. It's just that simple.
They don't want to look bad,
so they have a tendency to stand back, a bit.
He's surveying the situation,
trying to decide if you like him back.
Be patient.
2007-10-11 09:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by ♫ Bubastes, Cat Goddess♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because pheromones are high at that same moment! It's all about crazy chemicals jumping all around the body when you like someone, trust me!
2007-10-11 09:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 reason's
1) they don't want to upset the women they like
2)they are scared of rejection and having their feeling hurt
2007-10-11 09:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by minty359 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very shy around girls i like. so for all you girls if i am shy around you that means i really like you. but once i get to know you i can talk with you about pretty much anything. but thats only for girls i like. which isnt a good thing because i feel like girls think i dont like them when i am shy around them. what do girls think of a guy when he is shy around them?
2007-10-11 09:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by JLB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋