2007-10-11 09:08:41 · 19 answers · asked by seth001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If your talking about helping financially, that is completly up to you. If you have the means, then why not. The brides family doesn't have to pay for everything.
2007-10-11 09:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much "help" do you mean? Usually the bride and her parents pay for most of the wedding. It would be nice for the family to give a wedding gift to the new couple. But if you mean the family should foot the bill, then the son is not ready for marriage. If the son can't afford a wedding, how will he pay for marriage and/or children? If the son is that strapped for cash, better that he and his fiancee wait and save!
This is how it's done: first you get a good education (college), then a good-paying job (due to the education), then your own place and learn to 'stand on your own two feet' and pay your bills, then buy property, and THEN when you are a fully functioning adult do you get married if you wish. Certainly to do it in any other order is to make it harder on yourself and any others in your family.
2007-10-11 16:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is financially; with this day in age I believe it is more acceptable as my fiance's parents are helping with our wedding as our my parents; both aren't rich by any means, but are able to help out a little bit; just don't expect too much if this is the case, but I believe it is not a big problem if they do; i have known other people where the groom's parents paid for everything it is just up to the married couple and the parent's if they want to or not
2007-10-11 18:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~Curious~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really a question of "should" but will if they want to. If the son has to ask he'd be better off finding other means to pay for the wedding.
2007-10-11 16:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the son: That's completely up to them. Expect that you and your fiancee will pay for the wedding, unless someone volunteers (unasked) to help out.
If you're the father of the groom: If you can afford to help the couple out, it's a nice gesture. But a completely optional one.
2007-10-11 19:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they want to, but it is no ones responsibility to help a couple with their wedding, not even the bride's parents. The bride's parents paying for the wedding is a sexist, antiquated tradition. If one set of parents contributes then it is only considerate that the other set of parents contribute as well. As long as they are financially able. But as I said, it is no ones responsibility.
2007-10-11 16:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tulla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, the bride's parents pay for the wedding.
You could ask if they want to help a lending hand.
My parents offered to pay for things in our wedding but we politely declined. But that is more about drama with my mama. She will never let me forget that she spent SO much money on my wedding and how I don't appreciate it.
2007-10-11 16:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you say "help", what exactly do you mean? If you mean paying for it - families have no obligation to pay for the wedding. If you mean be there to help with the coordination of things, participate in the ceremony, etc. Then yes, families should be there for their loved one.
2007-10-11 16:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily - these days helping with weddings financially (if this is what you mean) is more about choice and/or being able to afford it. Certainly I feel it would be nice if they helped out with arrangements and other things but again, it's their choice.
2007-10-11 16:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure if my Son was getting married I would pay for the whole thing because that's how much he means to me.
2007-10-11 18:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋