Mothers!!How old were you when you had your fist child? Do you feel you were really ready???

Answer 1

I was twenty when I had my first and it was WAYYYYY too young.
I made a much better parent many years down the track. The upside of having kids young is that you have lots of energy for the task.
I think that a twenty year old having a child these days is ok as long as she has a very actively involved rolemodel or mother to give assistance and guidance, and to silently monitor the health of the mother/child relationship.
Why are there not more mentoring relationships in early child rearing?

Answer 2

I was 20 when I had my first. Was I ready? Nope! I had my second 11 years later. Was I ready then? Nope! And now, two years ago, I had my twins. Still not ready. I don't know that anyone is every really ready to have a child - every child is so different in so many ways that there's no way to fully prepare yourself for what's in store. The two things that you really need are 1) love and 2) determination. Everything else falls into place. My best friend (who has six kids) has a sign hanging in her kitchen that says, "Who are these kids and why are they calling me mom?" Ha Ha. Parenting has ups and downs, but if I could pick any job in the world, I would definitely pick being a mother. It's the most amazing and rewarding thing you will ever do in your lifetime. Good luck to you and God bless.

Answer 3

I was 19 and in the military when I had my daughter. I was not ready emotionally, I to be honest thought it was a game, I had all of the material things I needed and a steady income plus health insurance so for me it was not that hard, but after she was born, (she is now 6) it hit me, I am in charge of a life, every decision I make good/bad right/wrong will affect her in ways I will never truly understand. Now she is one of the happiest, most well adjusted children I have ever seen (I know as a mom every one says that) but she is truly gifted (she is 6 and in the 2nd grade) she works on algebra, and every one who meets her is taken back by how mature she. She has an "old soul". She made being a mom very easy for me, I truly do not know what it means to be a young mom. She slept through the night at just under a month, was fully potty trained at a year and a half old, she has thrown 1 temper tantrum in her entire life, she was talking in full sentences before she was 1. I hear other mothers talk about how their kids did this and their kids did that, my daughter never did. I know that God knew I was not ready to be a mom so he sent me an angel to watch over me, my daughter. So did I feel I was ready? No, but when she got here she made me ready. That is hard to explain and more than likely does not make sense, but if you knew her you would understand.

Answer 4

I was pregnant at seventeen. I was eighteen when I had my son. I feel I was as ready to have children as I could ever be. Needless to say, other people will feel different about their own age when they have kids.

I had graduated high school at sixteen and was emancipated. I had a certificate in phlebotomy and almost finished my degree in early childhood education by the time I had my son. I was married. I was happy with my husband. Now, I'm still working on a second degree just because I love to learn. I'm also a stay-at-home-mom which has been my dream ever since I was very young.

I love my life. Many people will say parents my age aren’t ready to carry the responsibility but I think it everyone is different. I could never imagine waiting until I was in my late twenties or early thirties to have a children--but that doesn’t make it wrong for someone else.

Answer 5

Well lets see, i was 18 when i got pregnant and i delivered at 19, i feel that i was completely ready now im pregnant with my second, did i mention that i am 19 now? My plan was to have my first 2 children back to back, then my other 2 in like a year or two, then the others i dont know, lol i want a big family and im ready whenever, the only thing that is hard to be ready for is the finaicutial(cant spell) part

Answer 6

21. i dont know if i would ever be really ready. There is always something going on in life you know. I do feel that i am young but who says what the right age is to be a parent. They say the older you are the more mature you are and can take care of a child but i know plenty of people that have kids later on in life and they still have some growing up to do. I am somewhat scrared because i will soon be responsible for another life, but i am ready to embraze this life changing experience.

Answer 7

I was 26 when I had my daughter, and now at 28 am 15 weeks pregnant with the 2nd. My husband and I wanted to be married for at least 2 years before we had a baby, and wanted to buy a house first. We wanted me to save up vacation so that I could have a long maternity leave, I took 5 months off. Once we accomplished all those things we got pregnant. We felt ready, but you never know how ready you need to be, because having a baby changes your life in ways you can never imagine.

Answer 8

I had my first child when I was 18. In some ways I think i was ready because I wasn't a teenage partier or anything like that. I was looking for a reason to go on with my life and my daughter came along at just the right time. She became my light at the end of the tunnel and turned my life around. I had a reason to get up in the morning and to try to pursue my dreams. In the end it wasn't having a child that ended my dreams it was her controlling dad.

Answer 9

I am 18 and prego with our first baby. My husband and I got married when I was 3 months (i'm alittle more than 4 now) because of the baby. We were ready mentally. We wanted to have one, just babies are so expensive. But we were irrisponsible one night but ever since then we say that we would never trade it for world. We love the fact that we're having a baby even though we are really young. Pregnancy is such an amazing thing and we both love it!

Answer 10

I was 19 when I became pregnant with my daughter and 20 when I had her - I was not ready. I ddin't fully realize the awsome responsiblity that parenthood entailed. It means giving up your own personal wants, and placing your child's needs first. No more going out, hanging out with friends, partying, no more doing waht you want to do when you want to do it. You now have this life for which you are fully responsible for raising, nurturing, teaching and guiding - this miraculous little baby. I was SOOOO not ready for it! Now I'm 22 and we're expecting baby #2. My husband has really helped me out a lot with adjusting - he's quite a bit older than me (he's 28), and so he's been a huge help.