Would you rather have an engagement ring that your fiance goes out and buys or a ring that is a family heirloom... like his grandmothers ring or something?
2007-10-11 07:07:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I want my own engagement ring. I want something a little less traditional. I am not a fan of diamonds and he knows that. We are looking at a relatively inexpensive sapphire engagement ring instead. My desire for my own ring has nothing to do with wealth or cost, but rather tastes. I find diamonds (and roses for that matter) to be boring and dull.
His mother gave his brother her engagement wedding ring to get engaged. But after the engagement they broke up and she never got the ring back. She has offered my boyfriend her diamond cocktail ring, but so far he has kindly refused.
2007-10-11 07:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by christabella611 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed emotions on this issue. I think a ring he picked out would be wonderful, cause it was chosen just for me, but a family heirloom would mean you were really accepted and welcomed into the family (or they wouldn't give you the ring), which is also really special. The only benefit of a new ring over the heirloom is that if it was ever lost, I couldn't stand the fact that I lost a family heirloom.
2007-10-11 07:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance's mother died some years ago, before we met. While she was still sick, she left a family heirloom ring to him with the hope that he would one day fall in love and marry. Though this is not the ring I would have picked out had we gotten a new one, I wouldn't trade this ring for anything. The meaning it has for him, and the connection I now have to his mother are way more valuable than any gold and diamonds. I knew about the ring before the proposal (but hadn't seen it) and he was afraid it wouldn't be my taste. His heart swelled with love when I said that even if it's the ugliest ring on Earth, it will mean more to me than anything he could buy. It turns out that it's not ugly at all, and the longer I wear it, the more I love it.
2007-10-11 08:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want the heirloom ring because I don't really like my fiance's family. If you plan on proposing to someone consider if she likes your family or not. If she loves your family and is close to them then yes it would be special. On the other hand, if she just tolerates them and isn't that much into them it would be best to get her a new ring.
2007-10-11 17:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely the heirloom because you know that he really means forever.
I had a friend that was "engaged" to a guy when we were in high school (and so were 3 other girls to the same guy.).
This guy had gone out and bought all of them the same ring (yes the rings were real) but the feelings behind them obviously weren't.
2007-10-11 07:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit torn.
On one hand, I am adamant about my ring not being a diamond. I cannot support the diamond industry, and I find diamonds to be dull as well. I would love a tanzanite, a pink sapphire, or a blue topaz. I'm not just doing it to stand out, it's what I really want.
On the other hand, heirloom rings have character to them. I'm a big fan of vintage things because they have character to them-if it was say, a grandmum's ring, and she had a long happy marriage, I would look at it as lucky so that I could have a long, happy marriage like how she did.
2007-10-11 10:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Trista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not both? Maybe utilize his grandmother's ring as a right hand ring for a wedding present. But an engagement ring from your fiance is special and he should buy it.
2007-10-11 07:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by red1215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your preference.
I'd just as soon have an heirloom, but that is me.
If you don't care for heirloom jewlery, let him know. The rings can still be passed down to your children.... unless you're like me and don't have children....
2007-10-11 08:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A heirloom would be much more meaningful. It would be my #1 preference.
#2 preference is for my fiancé and I go shopping for a ring together, so I can pick the exact one I like.
I would not want him to pick out a ring by himself. Most guys don't have a clue about jewelry.
2007-10-11 07:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be a nice gesture to have an heirloom ring but I think I'd want my own ring to be honest.
2007-10-11 09:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋