I just got back with my ex and was wondering the best way to tell my sister that we got back together. My sister doesn't care very much for my boyfriend, lets just say he has given her reasons to feel this way. I don't blame her, I only hope she doesn't ignore me now that we're back together. This really tears me apart when she gives me the silent treatment. I've been pretty miserable the past few months, not to mention the fact that this whole breakup up has made me lose my appetite and interest in lots of things I normally would enjoy. I know my sister only wants the best for me, but she is taking this whole thing way overboard. Would someone please just give me some good honest advice as to how to best approach my sister with this?
2007-10-11 06:57:45 · 11 answers · asked by besitos111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Obviously it is your life to live as you choose. You could just say to her that you understand she doesn't like him, but this is the decision you have made and you hope that she will be there for you (the silent treatment is pretty childish, even if she does have good reason not to like him). On the other hand it sounds like your sister is important to you, and you really want her approval, but yet you also mentioned he has given her reasons to feel this way. So are you giving adequate weight to those reasons? Maybe your sister has a point about him that you need to pay attention to. You say she is taking things way overboard, but did you think that maybe you are taking things way underboard? Sometimes someone from outside of the relationship can see things more clearly than we can from inside the relationship. Take the relationship carefully and keep your eyes open. Good luck
2007-10-11 07:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Don't Wanna Die 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no good way to do it. She'll either listen or she won't, regardless of what you do. That said, you yourself just stated, "lets just say he has given her reasons to feel this way." If that is really true, then you are likely making a big mistake. You are right that she is taking this thing overboard, and she SHOULD be supportive of you if she really cares. BUT... there is a reason she is acting this way. Tread carefully. This may well be one of those situations where you'd be better off with your sister talking to you then a lousy boyfriend who probably was your EX for a reason. Good luck!
2007-10-11 07:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to cut off contact with this guy. It'll be for the best. It may be psychological problems or he's having adjusting issues. Maybe he was too dependent on your sister. Either way he's dangerous. Best bet is to stay away and never be alone, in case he shows up. And just calm down. It'll be alright.
2016-05-21 22:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know, and let her have her feelings. You don't have to accept her feelings of anger and let them control the way you feel. You are your own person, and the less you care about her reaction, the less it will give her the control over you that she wants.
So let her know, tell her you love her, and if she acts that way be like "Fine, I don't see why you're taking it out on me when my boyfriend is the one you don't like. I'd love to talk when you're done giving me your silent treatment" Then just leave and let her come to you when she's ready.
2007-10-11 07:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to explain to her why you got back together, but it really doesn't concern her too much. she's your sister and if she cares about you then she'll accept and appreciate whoever you're dating, as long as it doesn't put you in danger. also, how did you manage to get back together with your ex? that's what i'm trying to do.
2007-10-11 07:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell your sister, if this is the way she is acting. She will figure it out on her own.
Remember boyfriends come and go, but sisters are forever.
2007-10-11 07:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just flat out tell her, had the same problem but my sister knows it was my choice, who cares what other people think.
2007-10-11 07:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by shady20001978 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
which relationship is more important? the guy or with your sister? Why does she dislike him? If its a good reason, then why is it not a good reason for you to not be back with him?
2007-10-11 07:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her its ur life and you can do wat u want with it but u still want to be friends with ur sister and you hope he does not come between ur sisterlybond XXX
2007-10-11 07:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by pedro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she dosent care dont tell her its none of her buisness anyways
2007-10-11 07:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by bashbrother2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋