Is it okay to have a "fun" relationship? Where there is a lot of chemistry, but you pretty much just make out and have sex? Cuz I broke up with my bf and there's this guy and we have really good sex, but that's it. He's really hot! But I don't know if it is okay? Help!
2007-10-11 06:50:56 · 47 answers · asked by Lily_Evans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're both underage, and both understand why we're in this relationship.
2007-10-11 06:57:56 · update #1
It's fine... just use *at least* 2 forms of birth control, so if one doesn't work, you are still protected.
Oh, and don't be surprised if you start getting attached to this guy emotionally. Sex will do that to you.
2007-10-11 06:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by Marc M 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you have to ask this question, then somewhere you are not at total peace with the casual but good sex. You can have good sex with a perfect stranger. But eventually, if you are a spiritual person, it just won't be enough. And inevitably, the heat will wear thin or you will be attracted to riskier behavior to keep the dopamine levels high in your brain. Sexual energy is a blessing, we are designed to be sexual beings. But we remain on a sensual, lower plane of existence if this is all we seek. Plus, believe it or not, what you do (objectifying sex) had a direct bearing on what a woman halfway around the world is going through, which may not be so fun for her. You will see the same behavior played out in your children when you have some or if you already do. You may be cool with it, but it doesn't help the planet much.
2007-10-11 06:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it is NOT okay. "Friends with benefits" is all about sexual promiscuity and pleasure. Having a "fun" relationship holds a very negative tone, threatens morals and traditional values. You are going to give yourself a big risk with problems and complications of STDs, AIDS, and pregnancy. Who knows how many other girls the guy has been with. If you just have a sexual relationship with someone you have to make sure that you keep the emotional ties low because if you get attached to him and he then dumps your asss and then moves on, you are going to have the hardest time moving on and are going to end up being hurt. Guys are pigs !! All they want is sex, nothing else. They are disrespectful and could care less about your feelings.They are just using you. If you didn't notice on here, the majority of the guys said to go for it. Cut it off with the guy sexually.
2007-10-11 08:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just broke up w/ your bf then your on the rebound take you time and get to know him first If your just in for the sex he's not going to respect you and what makes you think he's not doing this w/ other gals Yes we have needs but it's better when your in love w/ someone You are just a bootie buddy to each other When you find someone you really want to be with and you do the same thing he's not going to respect you play hard to get men want this they don't want someone easy because if they do then they think that your like this w/ everyone I would say wait even if he's HOTTTTTTTTTTTT!! That's more reason to wait If you turn him down and he stays around and spends alot of money on you over a period of time then he's worth keeping but if you turn him down and he walks then he's in for the sex only and nobody gets hurt don't let him use you ...............................................................
2007-10-11 07:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since your asking opinions. I would say no. just the fact that you are questioning what you are doing should tell you something. Im not judging you what so ever, i should be the last to do that. yet i do think it is wrong. I read a lot of Dr. Laura books and she said some things that I couldnt agree more with; "The focal point for the current confusion, resentment, and stupid behaviors of people today in their relationships with the opposite sex are now the new norms, which are devastating. now days, sexual intimacy doesnt have to mean anything. " after reading this i realized how stupid i had been in the past. but what people do in their lives is nothing for me to judge. I can do nothing but respect someones decision
2007-10-11 07:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Chilanga 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
>depends how you look what sex is for you
>how is your family relation...father,mother,are you close w/ them or you are the opposite
>so if you enjoy sex w/ guy do you use control so you will not get preggy...
>and if in case you get preggy what are your alternative...
>so how many guys have you've been sex..if you enjoy having sex....
>it is ok if you are responsible in all action you will enter to such as sex
>there is responsibility in every action
>there is a lesson in every situation you will enter ..including having fun with sex itself.
>what if in case you got sick or hook on sex are you ready for that...
>sometimes you have to think not all are enjoyment
>you have to use your head most of the time not your under hidden head...
>at your age that is common but since you ask then you are ready to see the other side of enjoyment.
>be open but be more careful ..you don't know if something happen you might regret...think and be more responsible...
2007-10-11 07:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by bonita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Morally, it is a matter of opinion. Practically, it is a bad idea for three reasons:
1. If one of you develops REAL feelings and the other doesn't, you are going to get hurt.
2. Even with protection, you could get pregnant. If you don't want this guy to be your kid's dad or to potentially fight you on the abortion issue, then you're taking an awful chance.
3. If he is just in it for the sex, then there is nothing to stop him from doing the same thing with other girls. This opens you up to the possibility of getting a disease.
If you're ok with those things, then have fun!
2007-10-11 06:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No it' s not okay. Have you thought about how you are going to explain to your future husband how you use to have "fun" with a guy with no strings attached??? Stop the cycle now before his friends all find out and everyone is trying to have a "fun" relationship with you.
2007-10-11 07:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both people are comfortable with it, both are mature enough, and both people understand "the rules", then I see nothing wrong with it. I did that several times when I was in my early 20's (ended up marrying one of them, so one never knows!). Even though it's just a physical relationship, communication is still paramount so that both people are on the same page and there aren't any misunderstandings.
2007-10-11 06:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its called friends with benefits. Look I am a male every guy is looking for that type of hookup. Sex with no strings attached "wow'.please don't treat yourself like a machine or trash. In other words value yourself, see yourself as a queen. Respect yourself, find that king someone who will love you and you love him not just because we have nice bodies because that won't last. I teach my daughters if it comes to easy ruunnn. When you work for it you appreciate it more.
2007-10-11 07:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by mitteycole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have a real relationship with someone to have sex a lot with them.What if you get pregnant or he just up and leave you for some one else.Then all the sex and everything u put out is gone.
2007-10-11 07:04:06 · answer #11 · answered by Happy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋