is killing myself the answerto being raped??

Question

i was raped in june 07 very hard to cope with

or shall i kill the c**t who did it to me

Answer 1

Killing yourself isnt ever going to be the answer. First of all it wasn't your fault, it wont ever be. HE raped you, you didnt ask for it did you? Secondly try going to a support group or something, it'll help to know that you arent the only one.
Lastly, dont give up on things just because you feel down, tommorow could be a better day, if it isn't the day after might be!

Answer 2

No you shouldn't kill yourself..That is no way to go. There is sooo much more to life that dating and sex and finding a boyfriend. I'm very sorry you were raped but you should not be worried about if a guy will except you with herpes. However if you do what a boyfriend who will understand (because if you tell your fiance..he can really feel like thats a deal breaker and leave you which would make you even more depressed)--there is dating sites where you can find someone with the same STD as you and noone but him would ever have to know. You should go to church, but not to find a boyfriend..I think that God can help you through this and just let you see that life can be good with herpies. And for the record-any guy that will not accept you because you wont have sex untill your married is not really in love with you. Also any guy that wont accept you because you have herpies is not in love with you either. The point is DONT KILL YOURSELF...you WILL be happy again! You just have to find the strength in you to find that happiness! People like me love you even though we dont know you and dont want to see you end your own life because some guy did this to you! Please dont kill yourself..I myself know that feeling and I'm so glad I didnt because I see the bright side of everything now. If you need anyone to talk to, just sent me a message.

Answer 3

The best answer is to join a rape survivor support group and a self defense class. In the self defense class you will get empowered. Most cities have some type of rape crisis center. At these centers you will find support. I was raped in 1970. I too wanted to kill myself. There were no support groups then. Some how I manged to get thru it one day at a time. In 1978 I meet my current husband and we married. We have an adult son. While my life has not been perfect, I have survived and even thrived and prospered. Please don't allow him more power over you beyond the rape by killing you self. That would be playing right into his hands. Just take it one day at a time. You need lots of time to grieve the loss of your innocence. Don't expect to feel great within weeks. It will take time. Allow yourself to grieve but get help. God Bless.

Answer 4

Killing yourself is never the answer.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. Is there anyone you can turn to? Have you kept this a secret, or did you report it?
I recommend that you reach out to a rape crisis center. I'm sure you can find the location and contact info for one in your community by searching the yellow pages or calling directory assistance, and there are probably lots of other resources online. Hopefully someone familiar with organizations like that will respond and give you more ideas for getting support.

I can't even imagine what you are going through, but you have to know that God created you for a purpose, and it is up to Him to decide when your life is over. He can take even this horrible sin that was done to you and deliver you through the pain of it and somehow turn it around to bless you and bring Him honor and glory. Look to Him for strength and hope.

Answer 5

I've been in your position, and I know what you're feeling, but that is never the answer. Whoever did this to you is the one who should feel worthless and want to die, but you need to take steps to move past it so they can not continue to hurt you.

1. Report it to police. I did not do so right away and years later, I regret it. Only now, the statute of limitations is up on my case, but I wish I had. Who knows, they may go out and do this to someone else, or even think they got away with it with you.

2. See your doctor. As hard as this might be, you need to protect yourself.

3. You need to talk to someone about this. If you do not have a full support system areound you like family or friends who can get you past this, then seek professional help. Your doctor may even suggest someone for you. Trust me, this helps alot.

Good luck, and I hope you find peace after such a horrible experience. Life is not worth throwing away because of someone like that.

Answer 6

It's unfortunate that such a thing could ever happen, before I met my wife she had gone through an ordeal such as your own. I remember when her and I would talk about it, she'd get really distant and it wasn't till I told her I too was abuse in the same manner as a child, and yes I still remember, did she Finally understand that I to knew what she was going through. I found that it wasn't till her and I both decided to go seek some out side help did we finally work things out. Our church has different ministries you should check out a church and see if its for you! I don't know if your a person of faith, but I have found that it's usually the things I would never expect that work the best! Killing yourself or the A$$ho!e that did this to you isn't going to change the fact that something was taken from you and lets face it, do you really mean to take more from yourself. Your still you, and you need to know your not a bad person and this was not your fault! I hope I was some help email me if I was and you'd like to talk to either myself or my wife about this, I'm sure she'd be glad to help! God bless you and help you through this rough season in your life! Your in our prayers!

Answer 7

no no no!!

i can only imagine what you have been thru.. but, you have to realize that it hasnt really been that long since the incident, and you havnt had time to fully recover from it.... what you need is support of some kind, and know that it wasnt your fault at all.... there are just sick ppl in this world and unfortuantely things like this happen, but this monster isnt worth losing your life over...

something that may be theraputic for you would be to talk to other girls who have been thru it.. or, you could be a mentor to other girls who are having a hard time coping with it, just like you are.... im very sorry for what happend to you, and also just know that just becasue this happened to you, doesnt mean you are any less of a person, or that there is anything wrong with you....i will keep you in prayer.
GOD bless!

Answer 8

Think outside the box for a second: what's worse? taking your own life away or being raped??? why would you allow a rapist (animal to me) to get away with it by killing yourself, basically rewarding him/her on top of what he(she)'s done to you, instead of getting your life back together, move on, be a new person, be a surviving hero and an example to many other victims out there. You can do it, fight the crime who else understand and feel better the horrible psychological impacts rape inflict on victims??
Your life today is what you make of it, you could be totally a very different and new person tomorrow it's up to you, it's all psychological. Think about it!
Make us all happy and stand up against the crime!!

Answer 9

NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please seek help with a local support group. There are others who have gone through a similar experience that can help you cope with the pain and depression. Please know that your life is important. Do not end it and do not throw it away trying to seek revenge. Also, if you know who did it, facing the monster who did this can be a liberating experience no matter what the outcome may be in court. Call the police report them if anything to prevent them from harming someone else.

Answer 10

You may want to kill yourself to escape the memories and the pain but please do not. Can you write about it, even to yourself, or write to someone who doesn't know you or have any expectations of you but just to listen, like me? Think of people like Joyce Meyers, Iyanla Vanzant, Oprah Winfrey, people who have turn ashes into beauty. They have all been horribly sexually violated, sometimes repeatedly by the very people who are supposed to love and care for them. Please do not give up without trying to get healing. Let them inspire you.