family death?

Question

two members of my family have just die'd today...???

thanks for all positive replys,(yea my father was right when he said to me,"yes there are more better people in this world!"...again ta folks!..b

Answer 1

I'm very sorry to hear that, My father in law recently passed away & I'm still not over the pain, but it will ease.... Gone but not forgotten

Answer 2

I am sorry for your loss. You need to remember that the way you handle your loss varies. Do things to remember your loved ones. Make a scrapbook of them, remember the fun times you had together. It is tough now, but it will get easier. Talk about them, laugh, cry, scream, go for a long walks. Sometime keeping a journal of your feelings can help also. Don't let anyone tell you that your grieving is too long, everyone grieves at their own pace and if children are involved talk to them about it, there are several books that can help you with that. TheFall of Freddie the Leaf is a great book for that. Written by Leo Buscaglia. If you are wondering why I suggested this book is that I have used it, and it really does help. I will not say I understand how you feel, because I don't, but I have lost family members and I have been on a similar roller-coaster ride. Hope this helps you.

Answer 3

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit-
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a fellow turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than

It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
Whe he might have captured the victor's cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out -

The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It might be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Answer 4

first of all, my sympathies for your losses. I have been there. Having said that, make your focus on the losses. not on any new romantic attatchments. turn inward twards your remaining family members. remember, they share your grief. they too lost loved ones. they understand. the relationships were different but they understand because to them they experienced the pain and loss. if you don't go through the stages of griving you will regret it for the rest of your life. no one can do it for you. it is out of respect for the dead that you do this it is also healthy for you. this is your chance to say good bye and to express all you feelings toward the dead. lov, anger (yes that's normal, and it isn';t bad.) hate, fear, devotion, any feeling you may have had you need to express and you can do that in a photo collage or just by journaling. you need to also talk to your family about what you loved and what you hated. things that remnded ou of tehm. people tend to forgt biout the family of the dead person after the food is gone and the funeral is over this happens within a month. the cards quiot coming and the dead person quits coming back but you still need the support, you may experience depression and that is normal. you should see a doctor for that. it's nothing to be ashamed of. one thiung you should look out for is a family member who does not express grief but rather helps everyone eklse grieve. thisperson will then crash about 6 months to a year later once the "crisis" is past. encourage them to express themselves. put a memorial in your yard or go up to the graveyard to visit the headstone frequently if that's what it takes to express your grief. what ever you need to do. you'll know the end is near when you can think of the dead person with happiness and a smile and think of all the good times yoiu had together. I still miss my sister and I wish she were here but I'm thankful for the tiumes we had together. If you can say thnat about the deceased then you are in pretty good shape.

Answer 5

I am very sorry to hear that and you have my condolences. About the only other thing I can tell you, it is possible to go to memory-of.com and establish an online memorial to these people and that does help a bit with dealing with the loss. We lost a friend over a year ago and myself and others who knew her go there from time to time to visit and light a candle or leave comments on her site and it can be comforting to some degree.

Answer 6

Losing two family members in one day is very unusual and hard to understand.

Grief is nature's way for a human to cope with death and you will feel all sorts of emotions over this.

If we have the comfort of believing in an afterlife then you can be sure they have gone to a better place.

Answer 7

I am VERY SORRY! Were you close to them? I know how it feels to lose loved ones.....it's not easy.

Please give yourself time and space for healing.....remember to allow grieving (cry), so you can heal, alone time to think things through, and remember this......... as time passes, try to remember and harp on the "fun" memories of those two, as it will help you to heal. Remember God gives and God takes....it's a normal happening in life. What's most important is to hold onto the good memories of those two people. But, for now.....don't be afraid to show your emotions because your body and mind needs to do that in order to heal quicker. My deepest sympathy.... my deepest blessings to you.

Answer 8

My condolences to you and your family....this is something that we all have to deal with....we also had to deal with this....in the last three years four of our family members have died, one was only 34, he died in a motorcycle accident.....time will help make the pain less....our love ones die but are not forgotten. Death is one of the worst things that we have to go through in life.....Knowing that they are now in peace does help some....Have you ever read books by Dr. Moody about death and dieing.....very interesting.....my Father-in-law had a near death experience at 17 and he said that he didn't want to come back....he said it was one of the most beautiful experiences that he ever had....he never even told his family about it.....he thought that people would think that he was crazy....he was in his eighty's before he told me about it....one day he was here for lunch and I happened to be talking about NDE (near death experiences)....and he started to tell me about this beautiful place that he went to....he said that he would never forget it....he talked about the flowers that he couldn't even describe the color, because he never saw anything like them.... he didn't want to return to his body but he did and lived a long Happy life, he died at ninety.....and was not afraid of dying.

Answer 9

iam so sorry to hear that. but bear in mind. death is natural and has to heppen at some point. you are feeling down just because two persons died at the same time, it is purely coincidence. if one died a year ago and another recently, you wouldn't be feeling so worse today. you are feeling the burden just because it is a coincidence. two people.

Answer 10

This is a tragedy ~~ death is such a hard thing to deal with. Go seek out the help and guidance of the church ~ they deal with Death all the time! god bless you and your family