okay... my father died last year in march, in a car accident. About 6 monthes after my father died my mom got married to some guy named Jesse. Jesse and my mom had m youngest sister Caylin. I really dont think that 6 monthes is enough time to get over someone and then get back out there and get married and have a kid. Wat do you think???
2007-10-11 05:41:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom had Caylin a month after her and Jesse got married.
2007-10-11 05:59:49 · update #1
6 months isn't long enough to make a baby, that's for sure..
But the whole relationship and quickie marriage after 6 months could be part of her grief. A lot of times, widows and widowers will jump into new serious relationships to fill the void of a lost spouse.
Sorry about your dad. (HUG)
2007-10-11 05:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am confused- did your mom actually give birth to your sister within 6 months of your father passing away? Because I have a whole different answer to that!
But I agree with other answers here- sometimes people will look for love while they are grieving. Every person handles their grief differently and every person will need a different amount of time to grieve. It looks like your mom and Jesse have been married about a year now- do they seem happy to you? Maybe she is a person who doesn't like to be alone. Are you close with your mom? Can you talk to her about how you feel?
I am really sorry about your father. I hope you are doing OK.
2007-10-11 12:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your parents had such a great relationship your mom just missed it. I doubt your mom is over your dad I'm sure she still loves him. You see this alot of times in men that have had a good marriage when they lose there wives they get married quickly, because they had such a wonderful relationship and now are lonely and want that back. Maybe this is the same thing with your mother. You miss your dad, totally understandable. You and your mom need each other now more than ever. Let her know that you are there for her, even though she has remarried and tell her you need to know she is there for you to. I am really sorry for you loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
2007-10-11 13:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in there own way. There is no time limit to grief and who says that she has completely gotten over the death of your father. It is a natural thing for a person who has been with someone for a while to need to continue to be with someone after they are gone. Its called codependency. She needs to feel safe and secure and her new relationship is what is doing it. I understand that you miss your father and that no one will ever take his place, but until your in your moms place you can't judge. Love the parent you have left and cherrish your fathers memory. Try to have a happy ending and let go of any anger issues you have for not being able to say goodbye.
2007-10-11 12:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think ur mother will ever get over your father. She got married so fast so she wouldn't have to deal with the pain. She has replaced her grief with a new husband and child. I think she dealt with it the best way she could. But that is totally unfair to u. I wish u the best, and maybe u and ur mom could talk about this and she could share her feelings with u. Take care!
2007-10-11 13:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by sativa789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your mother may not have spent enough time grieving, and latched on to this Jesse person out of lonliness and because she wanted someone around. She might love and care for him, though. What do i know?
We have to accept our parents' decisions whether we like them or not.
Live YOUR life in a way you think is appropriate, and others will probably do the same. Take care.
2007-10-11 12:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun....
I don't think that is enough time at all. Maybe they were seeing eachother while your father was alive? I would ask your mom if she misses your dad...
I hope your doing ok. I know what its like to not have a daddy
:(
Take care darling,
natalie
2007-10-11 12:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say this, but do you think they were seeing each other before the accident?
2007-10-11 12:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by girl_to_talk_to2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋