I have been dating this girl on and off for about a year now. Right now she is showing interest in me again and I don't want her to lose interest. I am grounded now so I will only see her once a week at church and I go to church for God first and after church I can hang out with her for a little. we say we love each other everytime we get off the phone, is this a bad idea? How can I keep up her interest in me?? I really do love her and from what she's described about me she really does love me. I understand love is a verb not an emotion. I am 17 years old I need some help.
2007-10-11 05:18:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wrote that wrong..... you should probably know we have been together since we were 8 years old at church camp. When we were 14 she cheated on me and it took two years to get that trust back. Now we have it and are starting to get involved again.
2007-10-11 05:25:55 · update #1
I do know she's the right one for me and I don't want to lose her. Ive known she was the right one for me since we were 8.
2007-10-11 05:27:34 · update #2
I look at all her faults and my love for her overcomes them.
2007-10-11 05:29:16 · update #3
my love for her is not just physical, its spiritual and emotional as well, Im connected to her on so many levels.
2007-10-11 05:39:42 · update #4
Love is a big word. Its quite different then just simply caring for someone. Don't confuse the two. Love means loving someone "unconditionally". Accepting their mistakes as mistakes. Trusting them to the fullest capacity. And wanting to wake up next to them for the rest of your life. Ask yourself what you "love" about her. If your answers come back as simply physical then maybe you should re-evaluate your situation. Physical features are usually what attract us in the first place, but when you don't have the emotional connection to fill in the gap, it doesn't last. Good Luck!!
2007-10-11 05:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by caligirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your goal is to maintain her interest, then just keep doing what you're doing. Obviously it's working so far. There is no fear in Love. Don't be afraid that you'll lose her, if she loves you then she's there. Point blank. Just start being more obedient to your parents so you won't get grounded anymore and then you can see her more often. Just be sure that she doesn't become more of a priority to you then God. Don't let her be the first person you talk to in the morning and the last one before you sleep. GOD is your God, not her! Be Blessed.
2007-10-11 12:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be the right one for you...you already have stated that you have been dating on and off again for a year. So I do not see that as a serious loving relationship...
It can happen if you let her know your feelings and all. But from this end, sounds like you guys are just friends, and friends can say luv ya to each other without the meaning of "true" love.
2007-10-11 12:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by h_carlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the best "answer" anyone could ever give you is don't get anyone preggers. God and churches have nothing to do with it.
If at a young age you and some sweetie have an unplanned child, you have about limited lots in your life, and lots of doors close. It costs $250,000 to raise a kid to age 18.... one year older than you. Soooo, I guess I am telling you to keep a close rein on your hormones, your lust and be careful with whom you sleep. There are tons of girls out there who think that getting preggers gets them to trap a guy, they get out of the house, and they are a bit correct. (but the mistake they and you make is that having a bayyyyybeeee is not romatic, it is hard work caring for a screaming, pooping demanding hungry kid, and it goes on for 20 years.) You get to stay, step to the plate, and be a dad, or desert her.... neither very nice choices. Be a great man all your life, and life will treat you well.... Get an education or a trade that pays you well, and plan....
2007-10-11 12:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first luv isnt gust a verb its a very strong emotion. second contact me i can give u advice on this topic but best thing is dont smuther her make her feel good about herself and about the idea of being with you take her out more dont have to be fancy resterant or w/e hell i took mine to burger king :D we had fun walk places car rides are short and boring listen to everything she says try to remember (can be hard) if shes sad make her happy ur sad dont show it. i am 17 to age dont matter its ur understanding of gals that matters :P dont gust talk about lame everyday things be random thats best i can do for u unless u contact me to talk
2007-10-11 12:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 17. True love will hapen some day. This most likely is not it. Enjoy it and stop putting so much pressure on yourself.
2007-10-11 12:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by nevermind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel.
If you both love each other, everything will workout fine.
17 is a young age, but I do believe you can be in love that young
2007-10-11 12:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by kim_n_pace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you fulfill all her needs. Make her laugh. You've been doing something right since you have been together all this time. Quit being bad and getting put on restriction.
2007-10-11 12:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Ask her if she's getting bored with the relationship. The best thing to do in a relationship is talk. Don;t hide ur feelings.
2007-10-11 12:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by heyjesus90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also 17.Ask about her day, and talk to her once in every 3-4 days.do open up a little too.Don't make it predictable.
2007-10-11 12:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by xyep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋