I have been with my bf 4, 3 years. Recently we went on a trip where I met one of his old friends. One night we all were at a large party and my bf was drunk and everyone was dancing around. She went and was dancing on my bf.. Then when my bf goes to get another one of his friends all of a sudden she jumps on the back of his bike w/him. I didnt see them until morning. This girl called me controlling for being mad that he spent the night at his friends house w/ her there. He stayed away from her for the next fews days and then she shows up again. And they talk all the time now, am i supposed to be okay with this? Is it okay? Now it's like he doesn't even care about me.. he says why don't I just leave him when I try to talk with him.. and when he gets mad at me doesn't talk to me for days and does anything he can to try and make me mad. What do I do?
2007-10-11 05:11:34 · 12 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend is a coward. He wants to pursue a relationship with this other young lady but doesn't want to face the responsiblity of the task of breaking things off with you.
You should cut your loses and walk away from this situation. You are worth more and you deserve to be treated better than this.
Best of luck.
2007-10-11 05:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk Away! Just stop talking and walk away. There is nothing you can say or do now. Whats done is done. You will never forget and he will most likely do it again. It will be so hard but it would be worse to stay don't you think! I don't think you want to live like that do you? It will just give them a thrill and more incentive to keep doing it. Don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you hurt. Just go somewhere and bury yourself for a few days scream at the top of your lungs, pound the wall just have a fit. Then bury your head in your pillow and cry and cry and cry! It's a closure process, it's mother natures way of making you strong. Then get mad, thats when you know you will be OK! It will take time I mean a long tome but your not the first or last girl this has happened to.
I blame it on the times, It is just what happens now days, we give all of ourselves right off the bat, after a short time there is nothing new, or nothing left for later. It's like a mini marriage where you pack everything into a short time when GOD intended it to be be spread out for the rest of your lives!!!!! Times have changed, there is no more morals, modesty, virtue abstinence or restraint. Men have no chivalry, honor,character or respect for women anymore. We do it to ourselves you know! Next time do things differently, the way it's suppose to be and Ill bet you build something to last longer. Pick the right type of guy who want to same things (that may be a challenge to find).
2007-10-11 05:15:20 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him immediately. I allowed a guy to string me along for 3 years and all the while he was dating other girls and lied to me constantly. I would be over at his place and he would take calls and shut the door. Once, he took me to a bar and I ended up sitting by myself while he went off dancing with a girl all night and claimed that she was (his cousin). Dump him girl! I wish I had ended that relationship much sooner than I did!!! Never allow someone to treat you like that - you are worth so much more.
2007-10-11 05:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by SilverSky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave
2007-10-11 05:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by jrock1206 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's taking a weenie way out and trying to get you to break up with him. Just get rid of him. He's too dramatic.
2007-10-11 05:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by JDawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave obviously he isn't into u any more and u need to find some one who is. he didn't care about u to start with or he wouldn't of let her go with him. trust me ur better off without him.
2007-10-11 05:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by bluedevilsgirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you why don't you leave. Sounds like you should.
2007-10-11 05:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him dont take any chances jus go while u can u could be in mortal danger
2007-10-11 05:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by mark f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question...leave this pig of a man.
2007-10-11 05:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by isleofskye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz ashley leave him.. i know it hurts but he's pushin u away.. so before he dumps u, u better put ur foot down..
2007-10-11 05:17:17 · answer #10 · answered by dimple dheeraj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋