I'm getting married in exactly one month and am starting to get depressed over the idea that in just one month the most important day of my life will be over with. I know a lot of people get depressed following the wedding because so much effort is put into it and then, POOF, it's over but is it normal to get depressed this early?
It just seems kind of sad that you wait for something your whole life and now that it's right around the corner I have to be ready to let that wiating and anticipation leave. Anyone else ever feel this? I'm excited, of course, but how do you not miss the idea of getting married after you've gotten married?
2007-10-11 04:46:01 · 9 answers · asked by Mary D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think so.... also everyone start getting on your nerves and telling you what you HAVE to do or should do....
I am 24 days away from it and I can't wait to get it over with because people are just driving me nuts!!
2007-10-11 05:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have started to live your marriage right now which it´s great, congratulations!. Seriously, don´t worry. Take it that way: Being married is the way of life: good times and bad times, but now shared with the one you love, now you are tasting a little of those "bitter moments"... It is normal, I was nervous and anxious before my wedding too. One day before the wedding, the priest told me that I had to leave that weight at the altar. My wife also felt that way, when we were going to honeymoon it appeared a little tear in her face, and I just hold and told her everything´s gonna be alright. That was a special moment for us until now.
Now we have been married for 7 years and It has been the greatest time of our lives, with sad moments of course, but we are really happy together.
Good Luck...God bless
2007-10-11 12:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce W. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure i will be sad when the party is over, but that is all that is a party to celebrate the beginning . There is so much more to look forward to after the party. Depending on your situation, there are still more life altering changes that are going to occur, and the best part is you get to share and experience them all with that special someone.
Congrats, and the best of luck to you. Dont let you emotions about your special day being over to fast get you down. Enjoy the day, and embrace every moment.
2007-10-11 11:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was all for getting married. But about ten minuets before the wedding service began I thought "What am I getting into? I am going to have a lot more responsibility's now!"
The music started--I got married--45 years later I am glad that I did not run off.
2007-10-11 11:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Fred F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mary, right after your wedding you will have one tough job, keeping your marriage happy and together. You wedding day is just the start of what can be a long happy "road".
You do know why men get married don't you?
Their mothers don't want to take care of them anymore!
2007-10-11 11:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that its not the ceremony and reception that matters- its the MARRIAGE. If you keep your mind and heart on what really matters the most then you will not miss the "show". Too many people get all wrapped up in the planning of the wedding and forget the most important part is you and your husband!
2007-10-11 11:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by FLmom3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is normal. Depression/stressed is all apart of the wedding preparation. As previously said, your wedding day doesn't make your marriage. Make the best out of your wedding day for memory sake and enjoy your marriage. Ensure that if you have people saying you need to do this or this, that you stand back and tell them it's your wedding :)
Good luck..
2007-10-11 12:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by beth v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, depression is NOT normal.
Some apprehension, some excitement anxiety, but not anything more than that.
Sounds like you have been spending more time stressing about the wedding DAY instead of the forthcoming marriage. Time for you and your bf to have some serious talks!
2007-10-12 09:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found the wedding less enjoyable because of silly demands from family members. The best time is now, two years settled and enjoying being with my husband and not having pressure of what colors to pick for my wedding. I'm looking forward to colors for my baby's room:) Hope it happens soon...
2007-10-11 13:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lyla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋