What is the proper amount of time to wait to get married if u just got engaged in July?

Answer 1

It really depends on you.

If you are planning a large wedding, you might need at least a year to plan it. Some churches/religions also require you are active in the church community for a full year year first, or require a set of classes that take a few months.

Additionally, it can take longer if you are focused on costs. If you know where you want the wedding reception and such, book as early in advance as possible. You can usually lock in the year befores price if you really negiogate.

Answer 2

Q: How long should an engagement last?

A: Long enough for your immediate family to get to know your future spouse and begin to welcome him or her into the family. If one or both of you have children who live with you, plan on extra time, or at least make the most of your time by letting them discover just what's so lovable about your new partner.

Q: How long is the average engagement?

A: When my husband and I announced our wedding date (we were both 40), my mother asked, "What's the rush?" My husband replied, "We don't have a lot of time left to waste!"

Though the truth is not quite that dour, couples in their 40s, 50s and 60s are the group that gets to the altar the quickest once the question has been popped. When the marriage isn't a first marriage, an engagement usually averages three to six months.

However, when either party has children that still live with him or her, this is a less-than-ideal length. In reality, you probably need more time to get everyone in the family used to the idea.

If it's possible, once you know that marriage is on the horizon, bring the children fully into the picture and give them both group and one-on-one opportunities to get to know your partner. By the same token, give your partner's children opportunities to get to know you.

Once the children feel secure, each of you should bring up marriage with your own children and let them share their happy and sad feelings with each of you. Then you'll be ready to make the marriage plans together as a family-to-be.

Depending on how long you've known each other, you may already have a head start on this process and won't need as much time, but nine to 12 months isn't unreasonable. If you want a short engagement, dedicate a portion of your pre-engagement dating time to bringing the kids into the picture. Nothing else you do will be more important to your new marriage's success and survival.

When both parties are marrying for the first time and want a big wedding with all the trimmings, six months is the minimum recommended engagement length. Wedding planners prefer that -- at a minimum -- to put together a fairly formal wedding, reception and honeymoon. It can be done in less time, but the stress level rises proportionally. So, if you can, slow down and have more fun. Most first-time couples take six months to a year for their engagement.

Answer 3

I don't think there is a proper time. It depends on you and your beloved. My husband and I got engaged after a year of dating and had about a 9-10 month engagement. We have been married over a year now and all is great. This is my first marriage and his second. We are in our 30s. It does seem common to wait 2 years but there's no rule.

Answer 4

There is no proper amount of time. Generally, an engagement lasts a year. The only reason it lasts a year is because that's usually how long it takes to plan a decent wedding. Now, if your running off to Vegas, or planning a back yard shin dig, then you can get married whenever you want. Give a minimum of a months notice to all your friends and family.

Answer 5

No proper amount of time but keep in mind the planning takes a while. I got engaged in August and will be married in May.

Answer 6

Depends on how long you dated before getting engaged. If you got engaged right away I'd wait a year before getting married. My sister got engaged way too soon after she met this guy, needless to say it's been a year and she hasn't even set the date because they are having a lot of difficulties, not to mention the fact that they can't afford to move out of my townhouse because they don't make enough between the both of them. Had she gotten married right away she would have been stuck with this guy who she is thinking of breaking up with.

So do yourself a favor, be in a relationship first for a few years before making that commitment. Because if in 2 years you can't stand the sight of him it's easier to walk away when you're not legally tied to him than it is once you are.

Answer 7

If you guys are ready and the money isn't an issue, give yourself maybe 6 months to plan if you are wanting to have the traditional ceremony and reception. I know some people like to plan even further in advance so that relatives and friends can plan on coming.
My sister got engaged and got married the next week, though, so you do whatever works for you!

Answer 8

I got engaged on June 8th and our wedding is Dec 28th. That's just seven months.
I would deffiently not want a long engament! You get engage to get married right?? So start the party!
Pick a day that works for the two of you and get married!

Answer 9

Have you and your financee dicussed what your plans for the future might be? Are you still in college? Have you recently started new careers or moved to a new city? Are you living together now? All these factors plus many others that will come out in your discussion of your future plans will determine the correct amount of time to wait. Remember it takes about a year or a year and a half to plan&pay for a really lovely wedding so you will need to take that into account in your future plans and the setting of a wedding date. Good Luck and remember there is no rule of thumb for these things today - it is really what is best for you as a couple.

Answer 10

1 year