people i reallllllllyyyy need help.....PLEASE HELP......
the problem is that theres this new super cool boy in our school.....hez like two classes bigger than me....im in grade 9 and hes in 11th year.....
I have a huge crush on him......but we never talked......i just dont know how to start a talk......i mean i just dont wanna go up 2 him and say somethin like * can we be frends *......i mean i wanna make some kinda realistic start........how should i start a conversation......
PLEASE HELP PEOPLE!!!!!!
thanx in advance :D!!!
2007-10-11 04:26:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way i wud love to add that its really easy to impress other guys 4 me....but this guy is just speshal....
2007-10-11 04:36:32 · update #1
the best trick is to find out something he's interested in - even if it's not something you're into like sport - and ask him a question about it. Answering your question will make him feel smart and you get a chance to smile prettily and thank him. If he's got any sense, he'll make the next move!
2007-10-11 04:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michael H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First OBSERVE! If he is new he may be anxious to make new friends or he may be scared to fall in with the wrong crowd. Try to figure him out a little first. Is he a jock or a geek? What clubs has he joined? Is he always alone or with guys; gals? Does he have siblings at the school? Are you in the same neighborhood? how about church -can you find out which one (if any) he attends? That would be a great place to connect with him.
So, first do your homework and figure him out a little before you start a talk. Always talk with your eyes, be at your best - clean, friendly, approachable.
OK, so the easiest way to start a talk is just that. Start talking.
Some approaches:
Hi, I've been noticing you around lately. What school did you come from?
Hi, I am in such and such a club and would love to invite you if you are interested? Can I talk to you about it for a few minutes after school today? (Or: When can we have lunch together so I can tell you more?)
There are many conversation starters. The point is try to ask a question that requires more than a yes or no answer. Don't scare him. By making your meeting about something interesting, the pressure is off.
Friendship is a developmental process. It requires continuity, sharing and trust.
Good luck!
2007-10-11 11:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by cher I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no that this is kinda original, but if hes polite:
wait maybe a minute until ur next class starts. then start to run a little (so it looks like u dont wanna be late for class). then bump (accidentally) shoulders with him and drop ur books. he will most likely help u pick them up. then start a conversation about something he likes. hope it works!
2007-10-11 11:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by aliwazhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notice something about him and start a conversation. Like, is he in sports? Ask him about that sport. Does he dress really cool? Let him know you like his clothes and asks where he shops, what else is going on in your school or area that he might be involved with that you could ask him about? Does he wear band t-shirts? Ask him about the band.... Good luck and have fun!
2007-10-11 11:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stalk him so you know what he likes and what he's into, then you can join the same activities, thus upping your chances at talking to him AND giving you a starting point to talk to him.
or there's always myspace... you could message him on myspace and say hey i've seen you in the halls, whats up
who knows, he may be looking for people to hang out with since he's new!
2007-10-11 11:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jay Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try and be around him a bit more...maybe with your friends......and some day something funny will happen whilst you are there....so....once that happens...you could maybe always say about it and have a laugh. And soon you will make up a really good realationship.....
Another way is to get friends with one of his mates. And then have a laff with his mate and hang around with them.
2007-10-11 11:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listenb to stale!!!! Just be cool don't panic he is not that big of deal look relax breath calm down I advise you to go to youtube or veoh.com and watch kare kono episodes they are short and that will help you alot trust me and you wont make a mistake that if you don't come calm down he is just one person and you are one person too. after you watch the anime look at him again and see what you like and you don't like about him and take his "God mode" off!! relax he is just a bout (repeat that!)..I hope I was any help to ya ....Good luck Don't listen to stale!!!
2007-10-11 11:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Heuromeshi1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bump into him and say ur sorry and it was an accident, then try to start a talk with him. be confident. hehe this is such an old trick, we guys usually know that this "accidents" are a plot to attract our attention, well the guy might find you beautiful so why not try?...
2007-10-11 11:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by kiko_banditz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah im in ninth grade too and have absolutely no problem talking to guys. from the sounds of it i am guessing your pretty low on the "Social" scale. or should i say not with the "in" crowd. and seems like this guy is quite popular. so obviously you shouldnt try. find someone who isnt so far outta your leauge. i mean cuz if there were any chance of a "you" and a "him" becoming a "we". he would talk to you. so sorry its not gonna work. uuhhgg please you nerds need to set realistic goals FOREAL!.
2007-10-11 11:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First find out if he has a sister your age. If he does than hang out with her like you knew eachother since you were born the more you know her the more you know him . this can go for a close friend of his too.
2007-10-11 11:33:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋