thers this lad i met in town years ago, i got with him a few times but we forgot about each other untill a month ago. i text him when i was ment to text my sister...anyways we got talking again. i met him in town and stayed at his that night. after that we texted each other all week and i even asked if we would meet up again and he said yes. i went to town that next saterday and met up with him...i couldnt really talk to him because i was with my friends and they arent to keen on him. that night he said we should do something that week like go to the pictures...so i said yes.....but nothin happend...he was being funny with me that week by not texting me back...i seem him again in town and he was fine with me. this week ive asked him if he wants 2 catch up a number of times and he says yes but nothing has happened.
Does he like me or he is a player??...and what should i do about him...because ii do reaaly like this lad!!
2007-10-11 04:17:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont want 2 give up on him because i realli do like him....if hes said yes 2 me asking if he wantd 2 do sumthing then he must like me right??
2007-10-11 04:29:02 · update #1
I would say if it takes that much work at the beginning it may not be worth your time. If he really likes you he would have hooked back up with you by now. Good luck.
2007-10-11 04:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Janice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi katy,
To be honest, from what you're saying in your question, you seem to be very keen on this person, but he doesn't seem to be very keen on you.
When you said "stayed at his that night", did you mean something sexual happened? Or did he drove you home afterwards? If it was just sex, and then he's not calling you back, he is 100% a player and has got what he wants and doesn't want to know anymore, or will just ask you out when he wants something. FORGOT about him in this case.
But if nothing happened and you feel so strongly about him, then you should arrange to meet up and go out more, and develop your relationship.
Why do your friends not like him? Find out, cos there must be a reason.
Good luck with it.
2007-10-11 04:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by delmontebanana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't fully understand this situation. He is considered a player because he messes around with you, but you are not a player, even though you are casually messing around with him???
You need to sit down and admit you are equally casual about this relationship. YOU are the "friend with benfits". On one hand you feel it's great that you are so comfortable with him you can "Dance the dooby dance" with him (just a fun euphemism between my sisters and me), but you don't recognize that you are the hot chick he scores with who keeps coming back for more.
As the hot chick he scores with who keeps coming back for more, you have no claim to a permanent relationship with him. Apparently he does not have to work too hard to get something out of you, so why should he try in return? He is merely accepting what you are handing him on a silver platter.
What do you think would happen if you started treating him like he was a human being and not a sexual conquest? Would he still hang around?
A real relationship, you see, means that both of you not only truly like one another, it also means you have chosen to invest your lives and your love with one another. Sex is NOT a relationship! Meeting for drinks and hooking up afterwards is NOT a relationship!
Your first item of business is to stop being the casual one-night-stand that keeps going back and start being a human being with thoughts, ideas, and interests with or without him around. Then you need to meet him and talk to him like a human being without offering him your body as a reward for just saying hi. If he shows no interest in you as a person in return, then he is just a casual date you hooked up with, like him as a friend, and put yourself together as a human being on this planet.
2007-10-11 04:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by enn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have the exact same thing going on right now. A little different circumstances but none the less the same thing. Without having met either of you, I think that he does like you. If you really like him that much, ask him to do something and set a definate date and time. If he doesn't show up, then it isn't meant to be.
2007-10-11 04:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by lilhappyflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap! lol well keep doing the same, and do you know anything about him? besides that you guys text , have fun going out, and that you always meet him in town? O_O and oh yeah that he always sais yes to everything? (Oh and about he liking you part if he wants you let him get you but not to easy though have fun!) <--parenthesis was my sis ....Good luck.
2007-10-11 04:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Heuromeshi1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a player to me, which is what your friends are trying to tell you. You can do better.
2007-10-11 04:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're friends don't like him?
you ignored him cos you were with your friends?
who was being funny? sounds like you're the issue here - guys have feelings too.
he has probably picked up your friends don't like him and that you can't be with them and talk to him and he's moved on - wouldn't you?
if you like him, call him invite him out and be with him.
2007-10-11 04:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by juology 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to come across the doubt phase and tell him directly that you like him and if he does not do anything about it then move on...
2007-10-11 04:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by notmuchisbad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex. If he wanted to hang out with you then he would have not only accepted any/all of your invitations but he would have been calling you to go out as well. Sorry.
2007-10-11 04:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by cafeconle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you waste your time on this person? Do you want to be chasing him around constantly? Dump him - don't waste time on minor people.
2007-10-11 04:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by LilyRosemary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋