What do you do when your boyfriend admits that he put his penis in another girl 2 months before proposing??

Answer 1

Well, as webmaster of http://www.cheatingcatcher.com, I can tell you that you really shouldn't marry this guy. In fact, it's probably best you not even continue in a relationship with him. I can't tell you how many sad stories, by email I get from people who were married for years and their significant others were carrying out affairs behind their backs.

You really need to get out of this relationship. No, revenge isn't the answer either. That solves absolutely nothing. It's a sad fact, but the majority of people, man or woman, who cheat, will always cheat. There's a very slim minority who will see the error in their ways and not cheat again.

Don't get into a marriage with a known cheater. Marriages are hard enough to maintain. You're stacking the odds even more in favor of getting a divorce before the marriage even begins, by marrying someone who admitted to cheating.

I know it's a hard decision. Trust me, it's better to cut this off now, and deal with the pain, rather than carry on in a relationship, only to have him keep doing it to you over and over.

Jason

Answer 2

You tell him go propose to the girl he stuck it to!

This is the oldest game men and women have been playing with each other. Relationships are not toys or something you just do and tire of! Just because he told you (if he told you) does not make it better. Some stuff you should keep to yourself, if you really care about another person.
Think about the uncommitted act he did against you. What if you told him you let some penis other than his come into you! How would he feel and react towards you before he committed his act?

It is up to you though! We are to forgive but that does not mean you have to be stuck with that insensitive person. Think of the future, would you hold this over his held? Can you forget (which is forgiving)? Do you think he will do this down the road? Forget down the road, he displayed how he felt about you!
Marriage is a covenant agreement between three people(you, pre-spouse and God) and this should not be taken lightly!
I wish for you the best and sorry you had to go through this childish pain game! With any consolation, you are not the first girl and won't be the last to go through this sh__!

Answer 3

Leave him because he obviously cheated on you and if he loved you it would have never happened. It is a shame for him to do that then propose to you. Disrepectful if you ask me and who is to say it wasn't the first time. You don't deserve that. Nobody does. Tell him to hit the road because how would you be able to trust him again. If you stay with him then he will think he is forgiven and keep doing it. No way tell him to go. I am not trying to be mean it is just speaking from personal experience.

Answer 4

You must seriously ask yourself these questions.

1). Can you tolerate such behavior from a man you are supposed to marry in 2 months?
2). If that man can do it 2 months before he marries you, the chances are he can do it repeatedly too after he is married to you. Then you will have something beyond your control or can you control that? Are you prepared for that eventuality?

Answer 5

First, consider the situation between you and he at the time. Was there a seperation period? Where you exclusive? Was it something he did as a one last fling? Then, decide is he worth giving another chance? If he is then make it one LONG engagment and make him prove he is worthy of you. Test him. But, if this is the route you choose don't throw it in his face all the time. Discuss it then drop it unless he does something to warrent it being brought up.

Answer 6

If you were going out with him at the time, thank him for his honesty, and give the ring back. But it's really up to you, if you still love him and and you know he won't do it again, than you can go for it, but if you choose that option, at least postpone the wedding some to give you more time.

If you weren't seriously dating at that time (I know 2 months is short, but people have proposed with less time than that), then get over it. But if that's the case, he really shouldn't have told you to begin with. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

Obviously this guy is not serious....i say dump him...run "far far" away from him..otherwise u might just see yourself on the jerry springer show 1 year after u marry him...with a new female carrying the baby and u anxiously waiting to know whether or not he is the father.
O the nerves nowadays!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

it souns to me like he is refusing to take responsibility for his part in what happened. his pants did not come off on their own. he had oppertunity and he took it. He had oppertunity to say no and he instead said yes. this will not set a good precesdent for your nmarriage. a trustworthy man would have told the woman no and in fact would nto have been alone with her discussing matters that he would not have told YOU about. this is called intimacy. Clearly this man is not worthy of. you. Sihnce you are not alredy married, I would give the all clear to dump him and to go find someone worthy of you and the gifts you are capable of giving. this guy is not worth it!

Answer 9

He has no obligation to you, until he's your husband. If he was with another girl before he proposed to you, that's his business. He probably told you about it, to clear the air; but he certainly didn't have to. If you don't want to marry him, don't marry him. Otherwise, put this behind you and accept his proposal. And don't listen to these fools who talk about getting revenge. They are brain dead!

Answer 10

gads - could you not have just said "had sex with another girl" and refrained from the details! Lol.

Dont marry him - Leave him... shows complete disrespect for you!
"once a cheat always a cheat"

He doesnt love you if he did that! Im sorry im being blunt but..I love my boyfriend so much and would never cheat on him.. no matter how wasted etc. I respect him too much..

You deserve better sweetie :)