The person im with doesnt trust me, and weve almost been together for 2 years now, and he has became very possessive, controlling we are constantly argueing... and im just not in it anymore.. Im fed up with his crap, and i dont know what to do.. Please help!
2007-10-11 03:45:43 · 19 answers · asked by Tasha Jo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop that zero.
2007-10-11 03:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Don 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you could take the easy way out by dumping him and enduring the temporary pain that comes from that sense of loss and then start all over again with someone new, or you could stick it out with him a little while longer just to see if any changes might occur. You both need to re-evaluate this relationship by coming to an understanding as to why you guys don't trust each other. Is it because of past events that you guys are so insecure about each other, or is it the things you're currently doing. Does he say or do things that cause u to be suspicious and vice versa. If that's the case, then u both need to make a concerted decision to change your attitudes and behaviours. Try to be more loving, patient, open, honest and understanding of each other, and less suspicious, insecure and doubtful. Spend as much time as possible together, rediscovering things about each other and learning new things in the process. Watch movies together, text each other more often, call each other regularly and in the process, you'll see the transformation. Always remember that communication, dedication, honesty and trust, are key to the success of a relationship. Surely you're upset with the way things are now, but once you both begin to make that change, you will notice the difference and if you guys really love each other, you'll be grateful for not doing anything rash that would cost you your relationship.
2007-10-11 04:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight...You have been with him 2 years, but you do not trust him? He does not trust you either?
There must be reasons that he feels he cannot trust you and vice versa. Have you both cheated on each other or what?
He is likely becoming possessive and controlling because he sees you slipping away from him. You are probably paying too much attention to other guys for his liking. Really evaluate yourself. Are you being flirty and friendly with another guy or guys (even if you think it is innocent)? Not accusing you here...just asking.
Ultimately, you have two choices. Either resolve the reasons why you do not trust one another--even if it means both of you have to alter your behaviour some OR break up. It's that simple. No relationship can last if mutual trust and respect is not there and cannot be achieved.
2007-10-11 03:57:04 · answer #3 · answered by Love Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fed up, you're not in it anymore. You sound like you know what you need to do, it's just that you don't want to do it for whatever reason.
There's no trust in the relationship and a relationship is all about trust. It's time to move on. Go find another person you can trust and who will trust you as well.
2007-10-11 03:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what to do you just don't want to do it. A relationship won't work without trust. You two may love each other, but the best thing is to let it go, you'll never be happy. Eventually someone is gonna get hurt if you don't get out of it now. My husband was like that and then he started putting his hands on me.
2007-10-11 03:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a very simple answer. leave him. you will be much happier alone! and sure some people hate being single but guess what, at least you have the chance to meet mr. right! I have been in that situation myself with the possessive bf, and it only gets worse.
trust is a very important part of every relationship
2007-10-11 03:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by newbby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years? Well, something must of happened for him to change into being that possessive. Maybe you did something to make you doubt his trust or he did something that made him think how easy it is to cheat. If you don't trust someone then you're going to be miserable for the rest of your life.
2007-10-11 03:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by DVS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me!!!!!!!! Just move on with your life. Life is too short for you to be so depressed about this distrusting guy. Their really great men out their, that can make you so much happier; you just need to really make up your mind and leave him. You have one life to live, make the best of it. Don't let this guy rid you of your true happiness. Go out with your girlfriends on the beach, have some ice-cream (LOL) live a little, go shopping. Do anything to get your mind off him.
2007-10-11 04:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by Telesha S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time to leave, you both sound unhappy and talking out this relationship doesn't seem to be an option.
if your scared of what he will do just pack upo and leave with no warning some day soon. just leave a letter saying its over.
if you feel in danger of him callyour local police station and ask about what they can do. restraining orders are pretty cheap.
2007-10-11 03:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Misty j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out before it gets violent- you will nto be anle to change him- once he becomes suspicous and controlling, he will continue with it. I've had many friends try to make it work, but so far, none have- a few got out, and a few got really bad. Most of them had kids too, but you can get out before you ecome locked in...
2007-10-11 03:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by worxsigns 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what have you done to convince him to trust you? how much do you trust him? try playing some trust games or trusting him a little more. or try to get him to trust you with important things
2007-10-11 03:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by logical believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋