I have stood up for ladies on the tube and they have refused?

Question

the seat. I was left looking an idiot. Would you sit down if I offered you my seat?

Answer 1

I learned this lesson from a boss who was in superb physical shape, but who was blind. He always accepted a seat offered to him on the basis that one should encourage people to go on doing it, as the next person to whom they offered a seat might be in desperate need.
I would certainly accept your seat, with my most gracious smile and heartfelt thanks.

Answer 2

Dee cee, I think you are a kind and thoughtful man. Please dont feel embarrassed by kindness. If you offered me your seat, and I was extremely tired or weighed down with packages, i would gratefully accept. But, under normal circumstances, i might decline,but thank you for the offer. I am not a "womens libber" or anything, I just honestly dont feel that being female makes me any more entitled to a seat then a man. Im sure you work just as hard as I do, and you were there first.

Answer 3

Probably not, hun. Don't take offence at it or anything - it's nice of you to offer. But I think the thing that would be going through my mind would be that I'm just as capable of standing up as you are. It's an old fashioned gesture, even if it is a nice gesture. I know you only mean well by it, but some women won't see why you're offering when they're just fine standing up. Stick to holding doors open for them and things like that, and always be respectful and nice, just don't allow them to think that you are implying that they are any different to you. You sound like a nice guy, so don't let that change!

Answer 4

I must be honest, i was brought up to hold doors for people and all sorts of things, even down to helping someone with a load if they were struggling. These days, I tend to fight the urge to offer, because people (and I have to be honest, it is usually young, middle class, caucasian women) regard you with caution or think you are dis-empowering them if you offer to help. It is a sad state of affairs if you ask me.

As for standing up on the tube and on buses.... my advice would be to be careful - after all - It is better to have a pregnant woman standing than a fat girl crying.

EDIT - ChynaRush, although you obviously know me so well to be able to say I have obvious contempt of women (I actually didn't know that, but you surely know me better than myself), but it was, in fact, only a joke. So if you are offended, I apologise... but I would suggest perhaps that if you feel that joke is such a heinous crime against women, you are the one with a problem rather than me.

Answer 5

You have been polite, why should you feel you were left looking like an idiot!

Gentleman offers his seat to a lady, she replies "I hope you're not offering me your seat because I'm a lady" He replied "No Madam, I'm offering you my seat because I am a Gentleman"

Answer 6

I would thank you and take your seat unless I was only going one stop down the line, but I would be polite enough to tell you that.

Answer 7

It really depends. As I sit most of the day at work, I might want to stand just because I feel like it, but I would politely tell you so if that was the case. I would not want to leave you thinking I was just being rude or ungrateful.

Answer 8

You are quite chivalrous. Good for you! I wish there were more like you and I may or may not take your seat but I would certainly thank you sincerely for offering.

Answer 9

You probably did not look an idiot I'm sure other people on the train noted your good manners.

Answer 10

i would. if you were polite enough to give up your seat i would sit down...