Ma wife is in Dubai, and i am in India. We meet every 3 months. We were very happy when together.. Now all we can do is talk over the phone. We fight for the smallest issues. SHe has a very bad temper. I try my best to adjust. But i cant. HOw can i satisfy her? How cani make her happy thus keeping myself happy?
2007-10-11 01:05:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well if you two are married its because you love each other. And what better way to make her happy than to live with her. You can say all the sweet things you want and send her the most glamorous of presents, but at the end of the day the only thing she really wants is YOU. So my friend, go for it! Go to her (in surprise) and shower her with love!
2007-10-11 01:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by LaMasLinda 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the fighting-arguing over small issues is a result of not spending enough time together. Sounds a little crazy but it happens with me and my husband, he works long hours, and I get frustrated that he not home enough for me as well as the kids. I know its not his fault but sometimes I complain and yell over the small things that don't even matter in the end, everything always works out. Talk to her about how your feeling and ask her what you can do to help her deal with the situation better.
2007-10-11 01:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by LiveLaughLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The separation is obviously creating the anxiety. What can you do about the separation?
My husband use to work in accounting and from January thru April I considered myself a tax widow. The children were in bed when he got home and still sleeping when he left the next morning. We never ate meals with him and then we had to readjust when tax season was over. IT WAS NOT FUN!!! I would encourage you to find a position close to home or your marriage will be over. What's more important to you???
2007-10-11 01:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Free Thinker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her what she wants, whatever it might be. What are you split up for? Maybe, having good jobs and higher pay isn't the answer if your marriage is being destroyed. Life is to short to be apart from your wife. If financial and/or status is more important than your marriage, how will you be single?
Working it through takes both people wanting the same thing.
2007-10-11 01:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by G Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you fighting over? If it is something that you bring up that you really don't have to, then don't. As a military wife, I learned what not to talk about in our phone conversations if I wanted to have a peaceful or meaningful talk without an arguement or one of us upset. You can talk about the other things later, in an e-mail, or snail mail. Try an enjoy your phone conversations, and if she gets angry or upset, try and calm her and move on.
2007-10-11 01:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember those old days of happiness of your married life. You are bound to find out the golden idea of your happiness. Marriage is a commitment from both sides.
Ignore her seemingly bad aspects, work on those still liked by you. I am sure you will find happiness in life.
But life is not only about marriage.....
2007-10-11 01:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by a4q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrange a trip so the two of you can meet. Absence can make the heart grow fonder but it can also cause problems such as yours. Get a 2-3 day holiday so the two of you can get together and secure your marriage.
2007-10-11 01:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by Hirise bill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir, first off: your happiness does NOT depend upon her happiness. Contentment is from within. So use your spiritual energy to get the inner contentment and your wife's petty stuff will "roll off your back". And you cannot make her happy. She has to find that for herself too.
You can of course be courteous and loving. Tell her that writing letters about matters of controversy should be more worthy than shouting over the phone lines. And pray. all the time.
2007-10-11 01:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by thisbrit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well obviously there is a reason that you two don't live together,but I would send her some flowers and a love note.That has got to be hard to be away from each other.Maybe she's tired of being alone,or maybe she has someone else on the side.GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-11 01:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by flavagirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a marriage. Move to Dubai and be a real husband.
2007-10-11 01:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋