Why do men cheat? The famous question.?

Question

The first 3 months my boyfriend and I were together he was cheating on me with his ex. After I found out, he left her alone and chose to be with me telling me I was so much better. So why do it in the first place? Since then he browses female profiles on different dating sites and sex sites. I busted him on one pretending to be a stranger. He was all for getting together for an occasional sexual encounter. Even at his house. But not too often he had said, because he doesnt like lying. So why do it? Since that on his internet history, I have found that he has been browsing female profiles on myspace and personals. We met on yahoo personals. Tells everyone how great i am (even the pretend person he was about to cheat with that i was playing) how great I am and am exactly what he has been looking for. So again, why cheat? Looking forward to answers from men and women. Thanks.

Answer 1

probably for the same reason some women cheat ... isn't it just such a shame that these people who cheat just don't end up together..

Good luck .. but get rid of the $hithead.. you can do far far better,

Answer 2

Obviously he has some issues. His 1st problem is that he cant control himself when it comes to his desires, in which case he should not be in a relationship. His second problem is that he doesnt think his cheating is lying. Well it is.

This guy obviously has no respect for your feelings or this relationship. If you havent already, get rid of him quickly. He's showing you a pattern and you have to decide if you're willing to stay and be treated like you're worthless or make a stand and tell him you're not going to put up with his immaturity and deciet.

Men cheat for different reasons, as do women. The thing is men dont USUALLY cheat as a result of emotional lack in the relationship, as where most women will. Men are moved by what they see and this is a guy who is not only motivated by what he sees, he acts upon it. Not worth it. He will continue this behavior with you if you allow him to, and his next gf will probably have to deal with it too. It doesnt matter how great of a person you are or how beautiful. I wish you the best

Answer 3

pshh, "why do MEN cheat"? why /men/ in specific? why not "why do people cheat" since /men/ definitely are NOT the ONLY ones who cheat. women do it as much as men, if not even more.

anyway, to answer why people in +general+ cheat, there could be a number of reasons.
1. the cheater may not be getting enough out of the original relationship.
2. the cheater may simply not be a loyal person.
3. the cheater may fall easily for many people at once.
4. the cheater might be trying to get the original bf/gf jealous.
5. the cheater may be acting upon sexual desire that cannot be acted on with the original bf/gf.
6. the cheater may be intentionally trying to emotionally harm their bf/gf.
7. the cheater may be doing it because the original bf/gf is not showing them affection (links to reason 1)
8. the cheater may be using the bf/gf they're cheating on, and are cheating with someone they actually like.
9. the cheater may become disinterested with original bf/gf, but find it difficult to actually break up with them, so then cheat.
etc etc etc

Answer 4

A) They think about that moment, not the guilt they will have forever after...but this is only if he stays committed to the woman he cheated on.

B) They believe they won't get caught and 'it is just s(x and doesn't mean anything!" geez

C) They are in a relationship that they feel they can cheat in.

D) They believe they are 'animals' and must cheat, like one other person said. They think that because they are male/human they.....movies and tv tell them there is some reasoning behind needing to cheat. It's not true. And women do not have to flirt. Flirting in a committed relationship can be a sign of insecurity. I never flirt and am happily married.

Answer 5

Because he is a young guy. He is always looking for the next score. This particular guy sounds like he doesn't have any respect for his partners and only has use for them as long as he is getting some. Time to move on and perhaps one day he will mature a little more in his treatment of women. Not all guys are like him. Keep on looking.

This guy also sounds like a good candidate for an STD. Be very careful.

Answer 6

Insecurity.Some men and women need to feel they are still attractive to the opposite sex even if they are in a relationship and take it to the next level instead of just being happy thinking they still are. There are many reasons why people cheat but this was the first one I thought of.

Answer 7

Let me be clear to you that not all the time, men cheat on their girlfriends. OK? but most encounters are on the male side because men has many wants and expectations that cannot be satisfied with one person his with right now. Satisfaction is a very big factor in a relationship.

Answer 8

study coach that girls human beings cheat only as usually as adult adult males do. I cheated on my husband some years in the past. We went with the aid of therapy and now each thing is wonderful between us. cheating would not may be the tip of a marriage. only understand that as quickly as somebody cheats... it extremely is mostly a 50/50 duty. particular that individual cheated, yet their mate did some thing do force them away.

Answer 9

whats the deal with the people wanting to generalize everyone in as cheats?

Im a man, I have every relationship I have been in has involved a partner cheating or asking somewhere near the start that Im ok with thme sleeping with other guys (usually with it not being ok for me to do so - Im always curious as to whether their hypocritical)

should I believe that your a cheat as well? you ask why do men cheat, not why some men cheat or why does my boyfriend cheat. stop being unreal.

Some people want to cheat. beyond that they have excuses and reasoning they use to make it ok. "we're just animals and its natural to want to, therefore I should", "everyone else does", "people are meant to be polygamous", "because all women think all men (or women) are like this, and since Im going to blamed for it I might as well do it" .. the reasons/excuses/self-justifications are wide and varied. They do it because they want to, he does it to you because your still with him, the longer you stay with him the more it looks like you think you can change him (which is silly) and therefore has no respect for him, just as he has none for you by doing it.

Its fun, exciting, full of drama, risk of being caught, variety, actually thinks thats what he should do, adrenaline, one-up-manship, power, ego boosting, control, belittling, doesnt want ot be the victim of a cheat so wants to beat you to it, wants to hurt you .... pick a reason, pick a desire a drive, pick acombination if you want - none of it matters.

You want him to stop cheating on you? stop being in a relationship with him. You an you alone are accountable for choosing to be in a relationship with him, once you knew that one, he was trying to, and two he still trying to. He is accountable for the first time (you were hurt), you the second onwards, because you found out what hes like.

Answer 10

I think some (cough -MOST) men and some (but fewer) ladies have a constant urge to feel desirable to the opposite sex - to the point that they act on it when they get that attention. It's nothing we can fix with words of admiration, this is there internal conquest....a "must know I can get some" kind of thing. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that most can't afford their first corvette until they're actually balding.

Answer 11

He cheats because he can. It really is seeing how much he can get away with. You know when you are a child, and see how far you can push your parents before they NOTICE. Since you know he is doing this, and has all along, you do know he will continue, and hope he doesn't get caught. If he does, then , you let it go before, and will again, and again, and again. So if you don't mind maybe catching a decease than stay with him.