I have an open relationship with my boyfriend. He has chaeted on me in the past so we agreed to see others when we feel the need. It was meant to relieve the guilt and lying but he has now started to try to control me and have his fun too.
I feel it is so unfiar of him. I also tend to only give oral to any man i meet as i do love my boyfriend. How can i take a strong stand but still keep him happy?
2007-10-10 22:38:07 · 40 answers · asked by Slaggy Jacky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe his tryna controll you , becasue your to open and loose
2007-10-10 22:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bumumble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, you two need to part and you need to clean up your act.
A relationship is about 2 people, not 2 ppl now and 2 here and there, just 2.
There is no such thing as an open relationship that works, someone is going to get hurt or upset sooner or later.
Do you remember President Clinton who said he did not have sex because it was oral, wellllllll
Sex is sex and you are not being loyal to your BF and he is really prob partying it up and sleeping with more than you are aware of, that is why he is trying to control you cause of his guilt feelings, he is sure you must be doing the same.
Respect yourself more, you deserve it.
One man, one relationship and this one, well it is already tarnished/ruined.
Start over, with someone new.
2007-10-10 22:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your relationship is way over - I would suggest moving on. How can you possibly fix a situation such as this, open relationships rarely work and even when you're in agreement there is jealousy and guilt.
In order for things to change you'd both need to bring about trust, which will be extemely difficult.
Obviously the decision has to be down to you - perhaps you both should sit down and discuss these issues.
2007-10-10 22:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by Leu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you thought being in an open relationship was a solution to cheating is surprising. "Oh honey, you broke my heart by sleeping with another girl behind my back...please tell me from here on out"....i don't know, seriously...are you no longer hurting when he's with someone else? and if you love him, is it that easy for you to be with someone else when you're still in this relationship? Doesn't quite sound like love. Hey, you need out of this relationship, it's barely even a relationship. and if he's controlling to add on to it all, what are you doing with this guy? Don't think about making this guy who cheats on you and controls you happy, get out of this "relationship"...it's not worth your time...
2007-10-11 00:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by nick-a-name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should dump him. If he is controlling you know...it will NEVER get better!
Plus I find oral to be more intimate than sex so I don't know why you are just doing that with other men....
I have been in a couple of controlling relationships like that...without the consentual cheating...but the controlling really NEVER got better. Get out while you can!
2007-10-10 22:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by West Aussie Chick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you seem ready for a steady, stable relationship. I think you should just break up and be free and single. Experiment with other people, and keep searching for someone who can satisfy you enough to stop you from straying.
I'm afraid men like that are impossible to please, and in the end one of you is just going to get hurt. Make sure it's him not you, us gals scar easier mentally than men do usually. So he'll only go off and sleep with some **** he met at a party I'm afraid and that would be that.
Sorry...x
2007-10-10 22:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Layla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If either of you feel the need to see other people, your relationship is worthless. He obviously has no respect for you. He is using you, and the minute he meats someone he does respect he will dump you anyway.
No man would treat the girl he loves in this way. Start believing in yourself. Then the men you meat might believe in you too.
2007-10-10 22:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by Copper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't "only giving oral" to all the men you have met a sexual act? Frankly, I see no difference in a girl who's giving head to any man crossing her way and a girl who f**ks those men. Both seem disgusting and vulgare to me. Not to mention that as a guy I'd better kiss my dog instead of kissing a girl who gave oral to another guy 2 hrs back. YUCK!
2007-10-11 00:55:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to control him yet you are in an open relationship, you either have one or the other, you cannot have both, if you enjoy being able to go with whom ever you wish, you must allow him too, I do think personally that you are both sick in the head if you allow each other to do who ever but you want each other, your best idea is to let him go his way you go yours and when you have found true love then you might be ready to settle down, don't think you will ever be that mature though
2007-10-10 22:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by please ask m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! can't believe you need to ask. I'm really sorry hun, but he wants his cake and eat it too. Dump him and find someone worthy of your affections. Why waste anymore time on him, when Mr. Right could be just round the corner waiting. Honest... you'll look back in years to come and wish you'd finished it sooner.
Good luck
2007-10-10 22:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jane S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some respect for yourself girl, kick his rear end to the curb and pick yourself up outta the gutter. It's easy to do so just do it. He's trash and he's making you into trash too.
I'll bet you get some wild answers here for the comment about the oral. Good luck
2007-10-10 22:42:19 · answer #11 · answered by jacquie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋